Is 22 too young to get married?

[mojito]

My cousin who is a female and 22 wants to get married with her boyfriend. They are together for 2 years. Her family is freaked out. What you think?

[electromagnetic]

If they’re really it in, it means they’ll be willing to work through it when the going gets rough. My parents married extremely young, in their late teens and one thing my mom always told me was, ‘communicate, work it out together’ ‘There isn’t much that cannot be solved if y’all work together Othman than being unfaithful. ‘

It pretty much stuck around. I was married when I was in my early 20s too and my partner and I just naturally learned to be mature about things and learn from our mistakes.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

In my opinion yes, but people can choose when to marry in their 20s. If they've been together for years and have had a healthy relationship throughout, then marriage might not be an issue. 2 of my sisters got married to their high-school sweethearts in their late 20s and have been together for years. In October my closest sister will have a party for her marriage.

[strateguy632]

age 22 is fine. the issue is not her age,

but how long they were meeting.

if they meeting throughout 8 months or more then they know each other. enough.

in such cases when parents say "you aren't ready" they mean "i am not ready to admit i am old" enough to have a married child. "you are always our baby" like parents are always young.

[ZackBan]

It's too much of a shot in the dark to be doing it so young.

Sure it's her life but if she was about to jump off a roof someone might try to talk her out of it. Marriage is not that different.

If she truly met "the one" then waiting a few more years won't change anything.

[AviatorTom]

Not at all. I know several women have gotten married at 18 or 19, and are in long-term happy marriages. What's important (as @NathanDavis says) is who you marry, not how old you are.

[MaybeTony]

I don’t think so. I believe society tells us to stay kids for too long. Being in a committed marriage will force you to grow and develop yourself in ways that you could never achieve on your own. It also kindles a relationship that is so much more valuable than anything else. Having children will only amplify that. Creating sentient human beings is a lot more satisfying than traveling and daily latte’s. Waiting till your mid thirties to get married and have kids will not benefit you economically or emotionally. That being said, exercise judgement with extreme caution when choosing your man. Look for someone who you would want to go to war with.

[Phoenix98]

If they are finically capable and have the maturity and responsibility necessarily then there's nothing wrong with it.

But rushing into a marriage when your not prepared for it and do not have the maturity and responsibility necessarily is going to end it before it even begins.

Relationships and marriages are like gardens they're wonderful and beautiful things but they require love, care, consistency, effort and work to prosper and grow.

[Fireguy17]

Yes, I would prefer to be a bit older.
You have not really been out and lived life for very long.
Being on your own, making ends meet, being ready to share your life with someone else.
I was married young, neither one of us had a clue of what we were facing.
Neither one of us had been out on our own.
Granted there are many that make it, but many also fail, yes even at an older age, it happens.

[genericname85]

i think a generealized statement would be wrong. like individual personal development can vary A LOT from person to person specially in the age range from i would say 16 to 26.

some people are quite childish still at 26 and some are quite mature already at age 16. there's many variables that play a role but "in general" i would say that it would not hurt if you waited till you're 25 at least.

[LazerBean]

It just depends on how mature and responsible the couple is. My husband and I were married at 18 and 19

[Little_Bumblebee]

It is pretty young, but whether it's too young or not is about the couple.

I have a friend who got married when they were 22, and 7 years later, they're still together. Seems like it just works for them.

[Alwayreckles93]

Ok if she was 30 guys would be calling her old. I bet ifnshe was a guy people wouldn't be shaming her. A lot of guys my age would love to marry your cousin sadly to them a woman my age is old.

[dustybiker2]

Age is different from personal maturity. I've seen some pretty wise 14 year olds that would put some 30+ year olds I know to shame. (Mentally speaking)

[postaldudePL123]

Yes, 22 is way too young one shouldn't marry before 30, both men and women. Because at 22, you're still so immature you can't make such a decision at such an immature age and may regret it later. At 30, you're mature and experienced enough to make that decision. If 30 sounds way too late, then at least wait until 27.

[JacobJordan]

Smart woman. Marry young get the family stuff started then deal with the career later if you want/need

[BCRanger10]

No, 22 is just fine. If they've been together for two years, they're ready, they've thought through and discerned everything, then why delay?

[David94358]

Maybe a few years early by today's standards, but 100 years ago people where getting married at 16 so it's not that big of a deal.

Can they actually support themselves?

[Drew-1990]

No it's not too young. My sister got married at that age and my brother got married at 20. Both been married for 20+ years happily

[rachel776]

i always planned on waiting until 30 to get married but with my boyfriend now i'm thinking about it more than 10 years before that

[thatshydork]

I just know I don’t think I’d get married that young because your brain doesn’t finish developing until you’re 25.

[strateguy632]

a "fully developed brain" is for iq test, and career, not for relationship.

[Shgshshdg]

Other people are free to do as they wish but yes in my perspective 22 is too young to get married

[Berethor]

If she is not too young for sex then she should not be too young for marriage as well.

[dreamstar72]

My wife (18) and I (21) got married and we still are very happy together. It mainly depends on true love

[molonski2]

Its far too young , she has zero life experience , ludicrous idea.