What do you all think about arrenge marriage?

[caringguy56]

Are you agree that arrenge marriage are more successful than love marriage?

[BarryLiverstone]

I grew up in Florida and we don’t have arranged marriages here. So I can’t really judge them. I’ll say the support of both families and some structure and discipline likely increases the odds of them being successful.


My concern would be did each person fall in love or are they forced? While marriage for a year might be romantic and glamorized in stories we read and see, a 60+ year marriage must have many things go right. If my parents introduced me to a stranger and said I have to stay with her for the rest of my life I’d find that a hard commitment to make until I really got to know her.


Make sense?

[caringguy56]

Yeah thanks 👍

[BarryLiverstone]

Can you help with feedback on arranged marriages and what am I missing in my answer?

[caringguy56]

I think after arrange marriage, they will start loving each other... if they are honest and decent

[BarryLiverstone]

I would hope so. But why not let them date and figure out if they are comparable before forcing them to marry? If they are in love on the wedding day it would be less awkward

[caringguy56]

It's not about forcing or stoping.. some people just don't have time and some people are shy about dating and flirting before marriage

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s a relief. So if she meets the guy and doesn’t like him, she’s not forced to marry him

[caringguy56]

No.. arrenge marriage is not mean to force by the way

[BarryLiverstone]

good news. And if they are married for a year and he hits her, she can divorce him. Right?

[caringguy56]

Why not.. and it was my point in the post bro...
It happens more in love marriage besides the arrange marriage... what you mentioned rn

[BarryLiverstone]

That may be due to culture. If a women gets a divorce would she be wanted by another guy to marry? Or would he prefer a virgin

[serious]

In some cultures yes it is indeed successful as compared to love marriages but it also depends on the two individuals.

[serious]

Thanks for the MHO

[4ngelic]

i think its mostly a bad thing though it can work out and be good if both parties truly want it and end up falling for each other

[electromagnetic]

It’s a cultural peace for some and I’ll never judge. I’ve never been in that situation where something was arranged for me.

[Agape93]

I think it's a disgusting out dated practice where 99 times out of a 100, the woman or child gets screwed over.

[BarryLiverstone]

Asker said she can get a divorce if he screws her over

[Agape93]

Then she's lucky, because most of the time they either can't or it's too difficult

[BarryLiverstone]

Ya it may be based on the culture or society. And why I asked if she’s less valued in that case for another person. Because it’s not really her fault if the guy abuses her and it was arranged

[Agape93]

Often times it doesn't matter for fundamentalists, non virgins aren't desirable or even a real option in some cases, even if it was rape like with my family. Sometimes like with some sects of Christianity, being married and ending up single, means you can't get married again without you being deemed an adulterer.

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s horrible, unfair, and disgusting. Everyone is a human being and if they are victimized why do they have to suffer the rest of their lives? We should believe in redemption and growth in people, be less rigid in judging overall. Everyone makes mistakes right?

[Agape93]

Exactly. Like with my family, per my aunt, mom, dad and both grandparents, you could be 5 and if you get raped, you have no worth as a daughter. Now if you willingly had sex outside marriage, oh you're just a piece of shit bound for hell.

My girls parents beat her bloody for asking a question, God forbid if she stayed long enough for anything intimate to come up.

I could go on and on

[strateguy632]

i oppose arranged, because parents are "only human" and can't be trusted for the child benefit. even if it is your culture "modernize". find one who you like. just say no to each one you dont like,

[DrPepper12]

Arranged marriages are an affront to the arranged individuals human agency and rights. No one gets to dictate a life partner no matter how successful it may be

[At3mis24]

Not for me, I will never accept in my life a man who I don't have any strong feeling for.

[HelpfulWoman]

99% a farce and controlling in nature, used mainly by third world countries with poor womens rights.

[Drewtate]

Great if your parents pick the right girl.

[OfMiceandMen]

I have no clue whether more arranged marriages last than marriages where the husband and wife choose. I do however think it's whatever your families are used to and how you are brought up..

[pethouse]

I think arranged marriages is not a good idea. It takes the choices away from both the guy and the girl. Mostly the girl tho.

[Anonymous]

I have a opinion on arranged marriages nut arrenged marriages. They are good especially where the top women are made to marry men with learning difficulties.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Total disaster. A man or woman should pick the person they desire not someone else.

[OddBeMe]

Great! Other than they’re mostly used by pedophiles to marry children.

[In_Trance]

It's s fancy way of saying "segregation"