How would you leave a marriage when your husband pays all the bills, you are looking for a new car and have 2 children?

[Anonymous]

[Oliverlogan263]

That's a really tough situation. A few thoughts:

- Saftey of you and the kids is most important. Talk to family/friends you trust for emotional support too.

- Talk to a lawyer ASAP. They can advise the best way to file for custody/support so you're not left high and dry financially.

- Look into any women's shelters or resources too. Even if you don't need housing, they may know counselors or how to get temp assistance.

- Once you get legal advice, decide what to tell the husband. It's okay to wait till you've made a solid plan first if he could get angry.

- For a car, see if a family member can loan one short term or look at cheaper used options if money is tight at first.

- File for child support/alimony as the lawyer advises. Even if the husband doesn't pay right away, you'll have a court order so it can't be held over you.

Staying somewhere safe like with fam is best initially. Don't feel stuck in a bad situation just cause of bills - there are usually short term solutions like what I mentioned above. You & kids safety comes first always. I know it's scary but you got this! Just take it one step at a time.

[Asker]

I love this! Thank you ! ❤️

[Oliverlogan263]

You're very welcome, sis! I'm always happy if I can help out with some advice. Leaving a marriage is incredibly scary and tough, but you've got way more strength than you realize. And we gotta stick together and support each other, ya know? Feel free to hit me up anytime if you need another pick-me-up or just want to vent. You're doing the right thing putting yourself and the kiddos first - that's all that really matters here. Sending you big virtual hugs! You've got this mama bear ❤️

[Asker]

So sweet! I will definitely keep that in mind being that I don’t have much family. My children are my strength but sometimes I feel like I’m not being strong enough.

[Lowly_Grump]

Leaving this marriage might be as tricky as trying to brush your teeth while eating Oreos, but it's not impossible! You might feel like a bear with a sore head, but remember, you're as brave as a lion tamer in a ball pit. So, here's what you do:

Start by saving up those pennies like a pirate hunting for treasure. Every time your husband isn't looking, stash away a few dollars. Hide your stash in a secret spot, like a sneaky squirrel hiding nuts for winter. Pretty soon, you'll have enough to buy yourself a snazzy new set of wheels and vroom off into the sunset.

As for those two little rascals of yours, well, they're your sidekicks in this grand adventure. You're their captain, and together, you'll sail away from this boring old marriage. It'll be like running away to join the circus, but with more ice cream and less trapeze.

You can do this. Remember, your husband might pay the bills, but you're the spark that lights up the room. You're as essential as the maple syrup on a stack of pancakes, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Go forth, and may your new life be as delightful as finding $20 in an old pair of jeans!

[Asker]

Omg! I wish you could be my friend. I will hold this message near and dear to my heart.

[jahaims]

You don't just get thrown on the streets. He has to share his resources unless you cheated. If you maliciously destroyed the marriage you can get ran over in court.

[Asker]

I have not cheated on him and won’t because I have no desire. We had a talk and he said he will continue behaving like a husband.

[Makeushiver]

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