I want to leave my husband and baby?

[Anonymous]

I hate being a mom. For the last two years since we've been together I've been nothing but depressed. We had a baby on accident. Plans to go to college online or do anything productive or fun are compromised by the baby now almost one and demands attention 24/7. I miss the days when I had more choices. My partner is no longer the same person I fell in love with and us quite boring now only wanting to play video games like a four year old after work and on days off. S** life sucks but their old personality made up for it. I often find myself fantasizing about saving and packing up all my stuff in the middle of the night and leaving forever. I want a new partner who shares my interests and actually has ambition which my partner used to have. I want to finish school and actually get paid real money instead of the meager 9.50/hr temp job I only qualify for. I'm in my 20s so I'm not old but I feel that I'd be the biggest jerk if I ever left and I don't want to hurt my partner or my baby but I'm just so miserable. As an ambitious person I want to invest, make my own company, travel, try new things, go to college and actually enjoy my youth for once. I don't know what to do. Do you have any advice.

[jaybee281]

Let me start off by saying that I understand you - I understand the boredom part very much but my advice is this - you could actually just want a guy that is a winner in life and that always has things to do surprising you letting you relax and showing you he cares through actions - Hold your boyfriend accountable and have that conversation with him - exactly what you said here without the fantasizing part because it sounds like a threat that will hurt his ego - In doing so you'll know from his actions if it was worth it or not a few months down the line you either are happy or you pick your bags and leave because you did your best..

[ohshee]

First take a deep breath and let it all go it would be better if you sent me a message because I could ask you a few thing before I start blabbing my mouth, I can say this for now I've been where you are at no matter the path you take it's going to be hard thst old saying about the grass being greener on the other side , it never is and no mater what path you take your still goingbto have to take as many step that your going to have TO TAKE when starting over OK time out lol i can't answer tjis untill i ask you a few questions you can get through this i feel the pain in your words but what I really feel STRENGTH in your words you didn't say

[JosyJosy]

I guess communicating your concerns with the partner, but I wouldn't leave the kid. It needs parents, actions have consequences, you decided to risk it, you opened this door, you must pass through it now. As it grows older, you'll be able to do more

[Anonymous]

Stop being so selfish and take care if your baby.
You're supposed to sacrifice and love your child more than you love yourself.
That's what being a parent is.
You and your husband are all that child has and you're responsible to give your child a goid childhood and protect them until they can protect themselves.
Care for them until they can care for themselves.
You are responsible for that child's life.
You can get divorced, that's your choice, but you don't abandon your child EVER!!

[msc545]

You might have postpartum depression which is very serious, but relatively easy to treat. You would need to have professional treatment for it, but even if you don't have it, you still sound like you have depression - which also requires professional treatment. Please see a Psychologist.

[Waldoe]

enroll in night classes, to start, do NOT ask permission, just tell him, Tuesday and Thursday nights I have classes, you will be in charge of the Baby... NO Ifs, Ands or Buts about it, if he can't step up to the plate, then go to step 2.

[Anonymous]

The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

[Knightoffire]

Be honest about it with your partner sounds like the right choice.

[dsf9898]

You should have used a condom or birth control if you didn't. I am really glad you didn't abort the baby, but my point still stands. If you were not ready to be a mother, you should have closed your legs.

[Asker]

He broke the condom

[Jmmmfi4]

You should try anti depressants for starters