I'm pregnant and I'm due less than a week. Husband doesn't want to come and support me. I'm going to be all by myself. He said the reason is because we have not been getting along.(Which is bull because he is the one starts the arguments and leave me in tears) I told him it's not about us it's about the baby. He still not understanding that. It's like I got myself pregnant and it's all my fault.
While, to be fair, we're only hearing your side of the story (I imagine his version is very different, and the truth somewhere in the middle), it still sounds like he's being a dick. You will know him far better than I do, but just as having a child has to be putting stress on you, it can also put a lot of stress on a man too - just different kinds.
Some guys freak out about fatherhood - will he do a good job? Does he even know what to do? Will he screw it all up? Then there's the financial side of things - many guys feel HUGE pressures to earn money for their child, and that alone can be extremely stressful. Then there is the delivery itself - lots of aspects of that can freak some men out.
And any or all of those can lead a man to argue and fight with you, simply because he doesn't know how to handle that kind of stress. He can't talk to you about it - men don't do that - he needs another man to talk to, but he might not have one available, at least not one that he feels he can relate to about this.
I'm not trying to make excuses here - I'm just trying to perhaps give you some different perspective. Even if everything I said was true, he still needs to be there with you in my opinion - I don't understand or agree with him not doing so.
I'm sorry, the str3ss of that must be awful. I hope you try and work something out!
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