I'm pregnant... why is my husband cold towards me?

[Shytown410]

I found out I am pregnant and my husband has been acting weird. He told he was trying to not make it happen. So everytime I talk about it he becomes distant. He said he doesn't want to talk about it. So it makes me sad. One time I talked about it he ignored me left and got in his car... he forgot something... so he came back and he saw me in tears... I broke down and cried. He hugged me and said everything will be ok and that he was trying to avoid another baby. After that day I had a lot of anger towards him. I been a real bitch. We already have two kids together so I didn't see why he was so rude to me. Since being pregnant I have been emotional, cranky, and extremely horny. I made a move to have sex and he said he was not in the mood. I felt rejected and hurt. This morning he woke up and went to his car and on his phone like usual... I went out there and we had a great conversation at first... than I asked for sex.. He ignored me looking down at his phone (and of course I'm going to get angry). He said he not thinking about sex right now he's thinking about business. He trying to stress me out and it has been a toll on my body. I just got angry and I zapped. He didn't say anything... I went in the house and broke down and cried. I know I need to stop stressing because I can have a miscarriage easily at this stage. Why is he so cold to me?

[rosemilk]

sounds like your husband is also your child. why can't he talk about how he is feeling? has your relationship always been like this? or is this recent behavior? someone who just ignores talking about their feelings, leaving in a fit of rage, ignoring you, etc, is someone with extreme emotional immaturity. i don't know how long you've been together, long enough to have 2 kids already with him, but it just doesn't seem like this marriage is going to work out. if he's always acted like this, you two need counseling, like you two should have been doing. if this is a new behavior, something weird is up with him. could be anything.

[Kayla45]

From the way you stated it’s pretty obvious that he doesn’t want to have another baby, Maybe he’s just scared of the implications of having another child, the expense to raise said child, etc.

Maybe he can’t fully tell you in a way without hurting your feelings, So he’s managing it the best way he knows how to, by keeping distance. He clearly still cares about you though, just try to give him some space, men are sensitive to topics like childbirth.

I’m sure he means well, you both are going to have to work together, don’t start arguing and being negative, work it out like adults and hear each other out.

[McLlovin]

He should have rapped it up. Now he’s taking his disappointment out on you. Thats not fair and irresponsible on his part

[Enes38]

Maybe someone else will meet your needs.

[Pterodon]

He doesn’t want another kid

[MasterKS]

thats pretty sad to hear! sorry for you!

[kareka]

Sure its just shock he will be normal i think