Guys, If your wife wanted you to take her last name would you do it?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

No I wouldn’t. It’s not traditional. My family is more traditional. Even if someone want traditional, more than likely the girl is the one who wants marriage so the least she could do is take his last name.

[Asker]

What if you had a girl who didn’t like your family.

[Asker]

Question mark I meant

[Opinion Owner]

We wouldn’t even be together. She’d be on her way out the door.

[Asker]

Ok but why does my brother allow it?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh his girlfriend doesn’t like your family?

[Asker]

His wife doesn’t and she wants him to take her name.

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like your brother is more feminine. Like she’s the one who wears the pants in the relationship. So they’re already married but he still has his last name? Sounds like he’s too scared to stand up to her. Like she’s always telling him what to do.

[Asker]

You are exactly right and I don’t like it.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok let me ask you, was your father there to raise your brother?

[Asker]

Yes , I don’t know what my brother’s problem is but I don’t like it.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. Now look at your dad. Is your brother similar to him as well?

[Asker]

My dad doesn’t be allowing a woman to control him he has a voice to stuff that isn’t right.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. So your mom isn’t loud, talks back to your dad or belittles him?

[Asker]

Hell no my mom doesn’t be doing that.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. Your brother leaned this somewhere. Chances are he’d be w a submissive woman as well if your dad was living w you guys all your life. On the other hand men tend to not like confrontation. So he may not want to get into it w her. He’s concerned that he may lose her. Women on the other hand have no problem arguing w their dads or moms. Men don’t.

[Asker]

Ok what should I do about it because they stuff is ridiculous?

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly nothing you can do till he realizes it himself. There’s been a number of women who do the same. Take their boyfriends side over their family’s even though they can all clearly see he’s being abusive mentally n physically. May I ask if you happen to know what exactly it is about your family she doesn’t like

[Asker]

It is really no reason for it she is just a bitch and controlling.

[Asker]

I guess she doesn’t want us around because she doesn’t like us telling my brother about her.

[Opinion Owner]

More Han likely yes. She doesn’t want him to realize that she’s the problem because he may finally realize it n leave her. So when they got married did you all go to their wedding?

[Asker]

We wasn’t invited to the wedding.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry to hear that. I’m sorry but your brother had no balls. To not invite his entire family. He should have said no. They’ve been married how long?

[Asker]

For three weeks.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh wow. Well I don’t expect this marriage to last. She will get tired of him and divorce him. How long have they been together?

[Asker]

Only two months and she doesn’t work anywhere and she sleeps all day.

[Opinion Owner]

What. Ok makes me think he must have never really had a girlfriend or something to marry the first girl after only a couple months. Like I said she will get tired of him. He’s not manly enough for her. She likes to control things right now but eventually she will get tired of it.

[Asker]

How do you know?

[Opinion Owner]

Because a majority of women don’t want to be the man in the relationship. Eventually she will meet a man who’s more dominant, possibly cheat on your brother. I mean would you want to be the one in the relationship who always tells your husband what to do? To plan dates, pay for the bills, etc?

[Asker]

Ok but why is he putting up with him now?

[Asker]

She I mean

[Opinion Owner]

Cause she can control him. She probably gets what she wants out of him. She use him for as much as she can.

[Asker]

How come my dad tolerates a woman that he sees is no good for his son but when it comes to his daughters a guy like that would not be allowed?

[Opinion Owner]

Because men are raised to be protective of the women in their life. As a man if you’ve raised him right you trust he will do the right thing. But I don’t understand why your brother is like this, opposite of his dad. Has he had a lot of relationships before?

[Asker]

Who my dad?

[Opinion Owner]

No your brother?

[Asker]

No this is his first.

[Opinion Owner]

I see. That’s probably why he took the bait w this girl. Like I said I’m sure she will use him for so long then divorce him, probably cheat on him before than. She will get tired cause he’s too feminine sounds like it.

[Asker]

How is she going to sleep if she has no car and sleeps all day?

[Opinion Owner]

Does he work? He can’t be w her 24 hours a day. Women like that don’t respect men like your brother. He’s not exciting, he’s probably boring, doesn’t Stevie w her. He’s a yes ma’am type of dude that women don’t want.

[Asker]

He goes to school and works two jobs

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah that’s the perfect time for her to cheat on him. Like insistent last. I feel bad for your brother because he probably actually cares for his girl. How old is he? How old is she?

[Asker]

He is 23 and she is 19 but how is she going to be able to cheat if she has no car though?

[Opinion Owner]

How? By having another dude drive over to their place. Maybe even cheating there in their bed or the dude taking her someplace to cheat. These days everyone has access to just about everyone. Men are willing to nail whatever they can. I’m sure she could easily meet someone online. Maybe she even knows other dudes she went to school w that she can hook up with.

[Asker]

She isn’t cheating soon enough for me I wish she hurries up and does so the relationship can end already.

[Opinion Owner]

I get how you feel but that’s the worst thing that could happen. Your brother is going to be devastated. Have you talked to him?

[Asker]

Nope does no good I have to pretend to like her. But I don’t know why people marry people if they only planned to use them.

[Opinion Owner]

She’s obviously got some issues. I just hope things don’t turn out too bad for your brother. He has feelings. She’s going to hurt him. But I hope that you’re there for him if things turn out this way. He’s going to need the support.

[Asker]

I would like for him to be with a different girl.

[Opinion Owner]

I know you would. I’m sure all of your family would. But he’s a her right now. He has to realize it himself, that she’s a big mistake. Until than it’ll continue to be that way for however long. I don’t foresee their marriage lasting.

[Asker]

What if she gets pregnant?

[Opinion Owner]

Than he will probably be screwed than. She’s going to use that kid as a paycheck to get Chris support from him.

[Asker]

My parents don’t know if she will leave him or not.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sure she will. She will get tired of it. Like I said women tend to not like men like that that they can boss around. She may like it now cause she gets what she wants but eventually she won’t like that

[Asker]

I don’t see why a man would like a masculine woman.

[Opinion Owner]

A majority of men don’t. That’s why I asked about your dad. If he was masculine, take charge kind of man or if your mom ran all over your dad. Because more than likely the son will learn that from his parents relationship. So he will display those characteristics that a girl who is dominant will most likely key in on n go after.

[Asker]

Maybe because they are too young that’s maybe why.

[Opinion Owner]

No. Sounds like he really cares about her. Like you said first relationship so he probably doesn’t want to mess it up. The girl’s mom is most likely the same way.

[Asker]

You are right about her being like her mom.

[Opinion Owner]

Bet her mom’s single too. Probably divorced at one time as well

[Asker]

I’m not sure about divorced but she is single and she is living with them.

[Opinion Owner]

Serious? Damn I feel sorry for your brother. He found an evil girl. Bet you the daughter and mom argue a lot. How about you? Married?

[Asker]

No I have a boyfriend

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. Well I wish him the best. I hope things don’t turn out too bad. Sounds like your brother is a hardworking man. He doesn’t deserve this. But he has to realize that. He’s kind of blinded by his feelings for her right now.

[Asker]

What do you think he is doing now?

[Opinion Owner]

I’m not sure. Isn’t he working right now? Is that what you mean?

[Asker]

He might

[Opinion Owner]

Is she pretty? His wife? Wondering if she’s using her looks to too to get away w treating him the way she doss

[Asker]

She is average looking.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. Hard to determine what that looks like. But regardless I hope things turn out ok for him. Just hang in there. Be there for him if he needs it.

[Asker]

Do you ever wonder why it has to be you that has to put up with sorted stuff?

[Opinion Owner]

What do you mean? Like stuff in my life that may not be going right? People’s problems and things?

[Asker]

Like there is always some type of problem with people all the time.

[Opinion Owner]

That’s life. Everyone has some sort of problem Some may be more problematic than others. But we all have problems. I don’t mind trying to help people w problems. But the hardest thing is getting people to listen w out getting mad, offended.

[Asker]

The last part I agree with you on.

[Opinion Owner]

It’s hard for people to really take a look at their self and think, maybe I’m the problem. But I try. Some do listen. Some, especially w women tend to let their emotions take over

[Asker]

People are self centered like with some people you are just living in their world.

[Opinion Owner]

There’s a lot of self centered people. But what can you do? Nothing really. Do you have other brothers and sisters?

[Asker]

One sister

[Opinion Owner]

So do you mind if I ask a little about you? Like what kind music you like? Movies? Favorite places to travel?

[Asker]

Rock music, horror, sci fi, comedy, I like North Carolina, South Carolina, and Florida

[Opinion Owner]

I like pretty much all music. Especially rock, metal, rap n country along w a lot of other things. I was stationed in North Carolina in the Marine Coros. Been to a lot of places in the states as well as overseas

[MysticDevice]

I'm not really oldschool about that but I'd almost prefer we both keep our own names.

[LoveHotGrillz]

Yeah, a name is meaningless and arbitrary. If I really liked her and if this is what she wanted, I would let her change my full first and last name, and everything in between

[DrPepper12]

We discussed hybridizing our names but she didn't care for the combos so she followed convention (which is A FUCKING STUPID CONVENTION). If she kept hers or even wanted the kids to have hers IDGAF.

[OfMiceandMen]

No, but I wouldn't want her to change her last name either, it's her identity.

[Berethor]

If she has much more money than me maybe, normally it should be the other way around.

[Starrrboy]

We don't do the taking name thing where I live.. and even if it was a custom here I wouldn't care about it at all.

[Alchemizt]

No. And I don't force her to take my surname either, it's her choice to decide.

[LiamJHayden]

If I had a name like Lipschitz and hers was normal, yes. As it is now, no.

[meepmeeperton]

Nah but she wants my last name luckily

[Yannae]

I'm keeping mine.

[gorydetails]

Only if she had a last name like “Danger”

[dsrice071966]

Yes, absolutely

[thearchjoker]

I would not

[jahaims]

Not get married

[scott04sa22]

I'm not married

[dudeinohio]

No way

[MrZameer]

No way. Never

[Anonymous]

No. .