Personally my ideal age for marriage would be between 30-32, that way you get to really spend your 20s making mistakes and finding yourself before you finally settle down. What do you think would be your ideal age?
There's no ideal age. Everyone's life story is different. My mom married my dad when she was 28 and he was 34. She had her first at 30, and her last at 39. When I was born, my dad was 41.
There are a lot of different factors like someone's income, career choice, culture and so on. Me personally, ideally I plan on getting married at 32-34 as I want to become a physician, but it might even happen as soon as 26 because life is just unpredictable like that. 32 is the age I would hopefully receive my board certification as a physician after completing residency, and 26 is the age I will start residency training. Since residency is so demanding, I feel like being married just adds more expectations and is also unfair to my partner if I'm working 80 hours a week, so that's why I prefer to delay it until I finish my training and get a more comfortable 60 hours a week with a very good salary. I'm not looking for a woman now, but if it happens spontaneously and she can handle that tough residency training schedule, then I don't see why not.
For the woman, it's the same. Depends on which stage she's at life and what she's doing. I would prefer to marry someone that's within 5 years of my age, so if I'm 32 then the youngest I will go for is 27, and I also don't want to marry a very busy woman because if we're both busy, we practically won't see each other. A 9-5 or a stay at home wife will be ideal.
That's my story, but everyone's life is different, and you have to account to that uniqueness when you are making your decisions.
Oh for sure! Some people are lucky enough to have had it all together by the time they’re 24 then I see no reason for them to not get married.
I hope everything goes smoothly with your med school and residency later on! It’s awesome that you already know what you want, go get em tiger!
As soon as possible, I don't like used goods, and after 30 woman's fertility is on a decline.
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https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/age-and-fertility
Anyone can be “used goods” at any age tbh. I don’t see people as “goods” but I will play along and argue that even some of the younger 19-20 yo girls have had their fare share of partners nowadays while there are also 30 yo virgins out there
There is young hos and old virgins, but young girl is much more likely to be a virgin.
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You too ugly to be judging 🤷♀️
As for fertility more women are waiting to have kids in their 30s. But I wouldn't recommend it. I have my first 2 with my ex at 17 and 21. My husband i had a child 3 months ago at 35. Fertility wasn't an issue but it's hard on the body.
Dude too ugly to be talking that way 😂
@TheLovelyIntrovert idek why GaG chose this answer as MHO 🥲
I don't understand what your talking about most woman have babies in their 40's and they become amazing mothers financial stability.
@Alwayreckles93 I think the 30s-40s would actually be the most appropriate age to start raising a child. Yes it might be more challenging to conceive (thanks biological clock…) but with today’s technology it can definitely be done.
Yeah sure sure and you're a doctor to know all this... I've known women that where more stable mentally emotionally and financially in their 30s and where more fertile than a 20 year old.
You can't be so narrow minded to now know this,,, but hey each their own
BIOLOGICAL FACT is that you have no proof for whatever you're waffling
That's cute that you trust these little links and don't go outside, I advice you go outside a little and meet humans, and oh I am very fertile for your information, if you do your research further you will find out there are also PLENTY of unfertile 20 year olds... It's nature, and NO LINK on the internet can define how a body will work in these aspects...
You need help
Dude you are almost 40. Either you are used goods or you're about to be the real life 40-year-old virgin and a comedian as well if you think a girl in her 20s will want someone that is almost old enough to be their dad you sick twisted freak.
And no I'm not unferfile. I had a baby 4 months ago at 35 shocking! 😲 it also only took me two tries even more shocking 😲
You better hurry tf up before you turn 40 because after that you raise the risk of having a child with a disability. It works both ways you ugly pick.
I'm gonna be biased and say 35 because it will take me probably that long to find someone and get married within that time frame. I'm 32 so I have to get back out there and find someone to even date which sucks and then I have to weed out the fuckboys from the real men and then try to find someone who can deal with my craziness and weirdness which is going to be a challenge. Plus I have to be financially secure before I even think about marriage with someone. I have so much debt right now which I wouldn't want to dump on another person.
So yeah 35 is my answer.
I think that’s a great age, especially if you want to make sure that you’re financially secure first before settling down. I mean let’s face it no one in their 20s is really financially secure save for the lucky few lol
Lol yep they aren't. It's only a small few who are like you said.
I don't look at age
I think it's when both are mentally and emotionally mature and can take care of themselves. Life is hard , the last thing you want is to get married to someone who isn't at that stage yet and the first bad thing that happens they run out of the marriage.
Very well said! Someone can be in their 40s and still be emotionally immature
@Asker yup
My ex is 42 and acts like he is in his late teens early 20s. So I can contest to that.
My mom had 7 kids. Me last child and I was born when she was 45. Not something I would personally do... but I'm pointing out how it's possible and she didn't think she could conceive easily anymore but she was proven wrong 😂 she went back on birth control because she didn't stop having periods until she was 55.
@TheLovelyIntrovert wow that's great but the fact that she had kids before, there's always high possibility she can make them later.
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For me- RIGHT NOW. I love him too much. 💯
Also side note if anyone remains a virgin or away from certain situations and social circles they will have a harder time blending and getting along with later on.
Same with roommates and adults. They’ve already solidified their habits and beliefs and routines
Also reason why it can be somewhat difficult to make friends later in life.
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Aw, I hope it happens soon!
You get yo man, girl. 😎
Facts. It's some much easier to adapt when you're young.
*so not some
@MicahRaine agreed! I’d just probs add both or tweak it to be cooperate/COMPROMISE maybe
Like compromise and adapt.
Cause no one should just be fully adapting for another person changing who they are. And it’d be even worse if one sided.
Maybe the better term/ phrase would be: ‘GROWING together.’
Yep I totally agree with that! Growing together is one of the big things me and Raine focus on :)
Haha Google away. I just like the word adapt lol
@MicahRaine adding this to the list then! Grow together* and communication*
How long have you two been married?
💪
This reminds me of that song "Grow As We Go" by Ben Platt (I think?)
We aren't married or even engaged unfortunately 🫠 we're hoping to get married in a year or two. We don't want to wait, but we're trying to be smart sooo yeah. We're working hard right now to build a life we can enjoy for years to come.
@MicahRaine 🥹 omg congratulations I hope it all works out soon for you two. You guys have another working hard couple who is rooting for you both!
Okay okay I need to go now before I cry lol 😆 many stellar years ahead and please tell her I said this!
On the tough days remember other young couples are working hard in these economies for the better and that they’re easily rooting for you to succeed! 🏆
Thank you!
Alrighty. Take care :) I will tell her! She'll be happy to have your support, especially as we don't know any other couples our age.
That's a great reminder, thank you. We're in a bit of a tough time right now, so that reminder and support is well-timed!
Raine and I will be rooting for you and your man as well
Early 20s I answered only to be flippant and funny & 🤣 realistically no one has enough money or resources at 20 or 24 and the other hilarity was - couple who get married early 20s probably break up , baggage, regret later - or those who leave it too late at 30 or god awful 35 plus - it's like "hey old man, hey old woman - how about just accepting old age gracefully single contentment happily* lol I'm the old man at 30 😂👀 enjoying my single contment - I do know some folks who got married at 28/29 - lol
Lol I agree. If I had all the money in the world I’d probably get married by the time I’m 25.
There's something more adorable about wedding photos when the couples both look or are 20s prime, true, I'm talking early to mid aka as you say 20 to 25 max. Lol. I for one at 30 could still pass for fresh for my age surely? No makeup you see there - just face wash from the shower of ordinary water most days 🚿🚿🚿😋
I don't know I feel like my man and I look better now that we’re in our late 30s lol, luckily we both look way younger than our age. I looked 17 when I was 24 😬
I see and that is fair and valid, everyone's answers are welcomed. I for one would say I at 30 could still prefer to date (since I look and feel 20) any woman who's 18 which is legal age, 18 to 24 - I feel like I'm very gratefully lucky to have good skin that I kept out of the sun when it's harsh and out of the chemicals of tanning - silly gooses out there - you folks must pass for early 20s now you're late 30s? Aye, lol 😜
24 though seems like a fitting number as it's 2024 and women usually for me I think look the hottest where I'm at now in my life at 30. 20 might seem too immature for me now. 😛😋🥳
I think 30's, because at 30 I went through my first crisis and I was like I need to get out and change myself or i'm gonna die.. and now I am kind of in a really good place mentally and the person I want to be and know what I want in life. Where as before I kind of had no idea I wanted.
Yes this exactly! I feel like your 20s is supposed to be spent making mistakes and really finding yourself
First marriage was at 17 and I was abused the whole marriage. At 25 I wanted out. Even if he wasn't abusive that still wasn't the person I wanted to be with. My 35 now and I'm with the right person. I always tell people not to get married in their early 20s because it doesn't work most of the time.
Yup. Marrying young is only something real trolls would advocate.
@Troll_Hater I see a lot of people use their parents or grandparents as examples. But society has changed a lot since then. People have lower expectations in life and that affects relationships.
@troll_haterI @thelovelyintrovert I agree, it was different back then and most people are already established and a home owner by the time they’re 20. But people forgot to take into account the rate of domestic abuse back then, women didn’t have a job/their own income so most chose to stay with their abuse husband plus divorce was heavily frowned upon back then.
I’m glad you managed to get away from the abuse tho babes, I hope you’re healing and recovering just fine from the trauma. Sending you warm hugs xx
We got married at 18 and 19, and it's been great. I think we are a pretty rare exception though for that being the right age for us. The right age for a person just depends on how able they are to pick a compatible spouse and treat them well.
It can definitely work if both parties are willing to make it work no matter how old/young you are! Quick question tho, no pressure in answering if you’re not comfortable but the only reason I want to wait it out is because I want financial stability before settling down - so was money ever a struggle/issue for the two of you when you first got married?
That’s awesome! Looks like it was all meant to be and the timing was just right for the two of you. Best wishes to you both!
It's good to hear about another couple marrying young and having a good marriage.
Raine and I want to get married in a year or two (she's 18 right now) because we're extremely compatible, have known each other for a long time, and have aligning goals etc.
But everyone just keeps telling us that if we're so good for each other we should just wait until we're older.
If it's trusted family members or friends that are telling you to wait to marry, then I would think long and hard about why they are telling me to do that. But I would not give it much thought if it's just randos. Most people these days are biased against young marriages because of their own failure. But they never want to admit that their failure was because they had poor judgment, were poorly raised, or because they were making their dumb choices based on their hormones and emotions. They want to make it out like being young = being stupid.
A 20-year-old who was raised right will likely do better in marriage than a 30-year-old whose parents didn't teach them how to be or pick a spouse.
"If it's trusted family members or friends that are telling you to wait to marry, then I would think long and hard about why they are telling me to do that. But I would not give it much thought if it's just randos."
My parents are telling me to wait and my siblings (some married, some single) are telling us to go ahead whenever we're ready. My parents aren't by any means "trusted." They've done a good job of destroying any trust me and my siblings have in them, but they're still my parents.
"Most people these days are biased against young marriages because of their own failure. But they never want to admit that their failure was because they had poor judgment, were poorly raised, or because they were making their dumb choices based on their hormones and emotions. They want to make it out like being young = being stupid."
That may be what's happening. They both had bad childhoods (one was abused, the other was just too rich growing up). Especially the last sentence in that quote. My parents keep telling me that because I'm young "I just don't know things" and I'm like "yeah there are things I don't know, but that will always be the case"
"A 20-year-old who was raised right will likely do better in marriage than a 30-year-old whose parents didn't teach them how to be or pick a spouse." That checks out. I wasn't taught by my parents how to pick a spouse, but I've still had many good role models in my life with thriving marriages who I have spoken with extensively about marriage.
It's good to hear that you've had good role models who have taught you about marriage. I'm sorry about your parents though. But that's why I added the "trusted" part. Honestly, I would say most parents haven't done well in teaching their children about relationships. So it's good that you've found people who fill in that role. It always seems to be the people who haven't had success in marriage who are the most against marriage. Getting marriage advice from such people is like getting mechanic advice from someone who only has experience in breaking cars lol
Good luck to you and your lady!
:)
"But that's why I added the "trusted" part. Honestly, I would say most parents haven't done well in teaching their children about relationships"
It's sad but true. We're breaking the cycle though 💪
"It always seems to be the people who haven't had success in marriage who are the most against marriage. Getting marriage advice from such people is like getting mechanic advice from someone who only has experience in breaking cars lol"
I couldn't agree more! It's the whole appeal to false authority fallacy.
Thanks. Good luck and congratulations to you and your man as well :) Raine and I might have some questions for y'all at some point lol
Of course :) Thank you!
Personally we never, ever wanted to be "old parents", therefore we got married when I was 25, and very fortunately been blessed in having our two planned children just before my thirtieth birthday.
Exactly! You gotta think about your children, don’t want to leave them as an orphan while they’re still young
Precisely... I should have added that our plans also include that we hope to be able to retire when I'm 50 (my husband will just be short of 53) by which time both our children may well have flown the nest, or at least in universities... Obviously it goes without saying that plans can and do sometimes go astray, in which case we shall naturally adjust and overcome accordingly.
Sounds like an awesome plan, good luck to the both of you! I hope everything goes smoothly
I was 25. Maybe I was not ready but that had more to do with my bad financial situation. We had our kids right away. We got them all through college and we were not even 50 years old.
Yeah the financial aspect is usually the most challenging part, but I’m glad you made it work tho!
u Early 20s. You're more willing to make changes and adjustments to how you live your life. Plus, assuming a long life, it's more time with each other, children, and grandchildren.
For me it was the opposite. I was so much more selfish, stubborn and ego driven back in my early twenties. I was mostly thinking of myself and my own future, wasn’t big on compromising. Now that I’m in my late twenties, I’m much more flexible and have learned the value of sacrifices and compromises within a relationship. I’m much more willing to change my toxic behavior now than I was back in my early 20s lol
But I agree, you’d definitely (should at least) have more time with your kids. I don't know if I can keep up with a toddler if I were in my 40s tbh
I got married at 30… we were both done with our higher education and settled into our careers and financially in a good place. Kids are doing well and talking about college now.
That’s my goal right there. I’m still settling into my career but hopefully by 30 I’d have it all figured out. I hope things are going great with you and your family, college is super exciting so I’m hoping that your kids will all get into their first choices!! Best wishes.
I got married at 19. It was the right choice for me and my hubby but I get everyone has a different timeline so marriage at any age is fine
Yeah getting married young works for some people for sure! I’m so happy that you managed to have found your “one” that young 🥰
I marked early 20s bc for me it was 22. But really I think, in general 25-30 is probably ideal for women and 27-35 for men.
Yeah I also feel like the ideal age range would be higher for men
I believe life is not about rigid plans. Not rigid age ranges. And defo not an option list in a GaG poll?
That’s very true, it doesn’t hurt to have a planned age of when you’d expect to get married by tho
It doesn't hurt to speculate, yes
30-35. I think your twenties is meant for having fun and enjoying life while you can. At least before settling down.
100%! I think your 20s should be all about finding yourself and building yourself up so that by 30 you’re pretty much ready to settle down
I don’t really care about the age. I just wanna know the person for good 10 years before getting married. if I were to do that.
Wow why 10 years specifically? That’s a really long time
I think 25-30 is best.
It gives enough time for both genders to still be youthful but at these ages they're fully developed and matured adults (hopefully). I hope to marry in that age bracket.
Couldn’t agree more! Hope your dream will come true
i always thought 30 but now i've been thinking about it in the next year or two maybe
What made you change your mind?
That’s sweet, wishing you two the best of luck!!
Me and Raine too (except had been thinking 25ish)
I was married at 25. It felt not too late and not too early.
That’s awesome! I also think 25 is a great age for marriage
35 and 35 age+ People must be strong Antinatalists. For humanity to be saved, there is hope.
35 is a pretty ideal age I agree
Never it’s a piece of paper and only a ring. You don’t need that to defy your relationship.
That’s true, but in some places you do need that piece of paper to be able to legally live together or have a child sadly
I’m 27 and never got married 😞☹️ no guy likes me and wants have future with me. My destiny is be alone forever
You’re only 27, there’s still a long way to go. My best friend didn’t get her first boyfriend until she was 29 - so there’s still hope for you. Just gotta keep an eye out for your future man!
You also have to proof to him that you’re worthy of being called his girlfriend or for him to bring you to meet his family. As women we still have to bring something of value to the relationship tho, it’s not only the guys’ job to provide for us.
It depends on what the guy wants, I think you need to be upfront with the guys you meet and tell them what you want upfront as well as what you can offer them
It’s not about age.
It’s about when u want and you are ready.
Very true!
When you feel ready to do so. I got married rather young and I don’t regret it.
Yeah I feel like everyone feels ready in their own time
Actually there’s no ideal age. Everyone is different.
Agree!!
I'm not getting married in this life
Bought plenty of wedding rings mostly from middle aged people but it's a mix of divorcees and inheritance
To each their own, I do feel like people shouldn’t be forced to idealize marriage just bcs it’s what society is pressuring us to aim for
35 and then you gotta start having kids pretty soon
Yeah if I were to get married at 32 then I pretty much have to get pregnant that same year…
My man and I are planning to have 2 kids at least 3 years apart so we don’t have much time lol
It depends on the individual, but I got married at 21.
Nice!! I hope things are better than ever with the two of you
Most studies say 25-30.
Before that you’re too stupid and after that you’re too old. Regardless of sex or gender
Pretty valid. I do think as long as you’re under 35 you’re still young enough tho
Depends how you age. And lifestyle
It really depends on your values. I don't want kids, so marriage can be any age for me. If you want kids, I think it should be in your 20s.
That makes sense, if only there was no such thing as a biological clock…
I was 23 but recommend 28-35.
Do you have any regrets as to marrying that young?
117. At least that's what I'm waiting til...
Why not wait until you’re 150 tho?
Mid 20's if you have enough money saved up.
I agree, I’m in my late 20s but I’d be ready to settle down if only I have enough money lol
Depends if you're marrying to have children or not, cause a woman's best child bearing years are early 20s to 30s.
Yeah that’s logical, since I assume people get married to have kids eventually then I’d say mid 20s - early 30s would be the sweet spot
And there is nothing wrong with not wanting kids. If that's the case then the right age to marry, is the age you WANT to marry. If that makes sense.
For example, I got married at 31. My wife is 9 years younger than me, she wants kids, so we had kids, I gotta say I like being a dad. But if we were the same age, Say both 22 when we got married, I'm not sure I'd have been ready to have kids
Valid points right there! If I’m not planning on having kids then I’d probably wait until I’m over 35 to get married and would just get a dog or something. If you’re getting married just for the sake of getting married then I don’t think there’s an age where you’re either too young or too old
There are pros and cons to each age range, but in general 25 - 30 has the best pro-to-con ratio.
I fully agree, but just curious as to why you think that way?
Most good, solid men have their acts together by 25 and know what they want in life, which is usually a good wife and a family. And those guys are usually snatched up by the highest quality women between the ages of 25 and 30. And those women usually are the same age or a little younger.
A man who waits until after 30 typically has issues related either to maturity, character or failure to launch.
A woman who is not married before age 30, more often than not, either has behavioral issues (e. g., promiscuous behavior, unhealthy attitudes toward men and relationships, or life priorities that are not consistent with what a quality man wants in a woman.
I will also add that the older a person gets, the more set in their ways they become, the less opportunity they will have to "grow together" with a life partner, and the more likely there will be conflicts in the marriage as a result of ingrained personality traits or behaviors.
Having said all that, it is also risky to get married when one or both partners is not mature or stable enough, which is more likely when younger. So it's a balancing act and varies by couple. But in general, for good people, I think 25 30 is the safest range, all things considered.
In your 30s or later, when you are established in your careers and know how the world works
Yes 100%! It’s better to spend your 20s making mistakes and building yourself up on your own (or at least just in a relationship). Rather than focusing on building a marriage/family
25-30
Not to immature and not too old
Yeah I feel that it’s a pretty safe age range
Forty for men ; thirty to thirty-five, women.
Makes sense!
My youngest sister was born when our mother was thirty-nine and our father forty-three.
Oh wow, how old was your mom during her first pregnancy tho?
Thirty-four, but my eldest sister was four months premature and lived just 14 hours.
Oh I’m so sorry… It’s so tragic having to bury your own child before yourself, I’m sure your parents are super happy to have you and the rest of your siblings living healthily and happily tho!
Dad,76, passed Feb.26,1990; Mom,86, joined him Oct.9,2003, but I hope my two sisters and I made them proud.
I’m sure your parents are proud of you all, wishing you all positivity and happiness!
I got married at 20 had twins at 22 my hubby passed away a year ago
I’m so sorry for your loss… sending you and your twins love xx
Thank you so soooo much it’s boy girl twins ! Aimee and Armani they’re now 19
I’m sure they’re lovely, they’re lucky to have a great mama like yourself
Thank you wish could give you a big hug
A big virtual hug would have to do ❤️ Sending you positive vibes
Right back at ya
It depends for everyone, and everyone is different
True, it’s 20 for some or could be 40 for others
Never. But that isn't an age or an option in the poll.
Oh whoops, I should’ve put that as an option. I agree tho, for some people the answer would be “never” and that’s totally cool
I'd say early 30s for a guy, mid-20s for a girl.
I also agree!
Nice! :D
Have a great day! 😁
No set age. Everyone matures at a different rate
Very true. What age would you personally feel would be the right age for you tho (if you ever want to get married)?
That’s awesome, wishing you two all the best in life!
When it is right for the both of you
That’s true, it’s all about timing and readiness
Exactly, one woman on YouTube got married at the age of 19. It was from her childhood friend, who was later her prom date, then happily married couple. Though I’m not sure if it was engagement at 19 then marriage at 20 I forgot the details though it was plenty sweet.
Yeah when you’re ready, you’re ready. It could be at 19 for some while it could be at 50 for others
Yep! Have a good weekend ahead!
Thank you, you too!!
I think mid-late twenties is perfect.
Do you think you’ll be ready to settle down by the time you’re 25?
I agree with you
Nice!!
For men around 35-50 for women about 19-24
19 is still way too young in my opinion, especially if she’ll be marrying someone who 35-50 lol
@Asker it's in the age range she'll be attractive to most men
When both are ready to commit.
For sure
I say 30-35 is the best time.
I think so too! You’ve had time to really enjoy your 20s but still young enough to be parents
Cool.
I was 35 and she was 23.
Congratulations! Hope things are going well for you two
25 is a good age for both parties.
I agree
I would've liked to have been a hubby at 25...
Well you still got plenty of time!
Maybe 35 🤞🏻
That's possible!
Good luck, I’m rooting for you!
Thanks, pink anon! 🤣
I think 25 - 30 is the most suitable. 🤔
I agree, not too young but not too old
Yes, it is a beautiful age, are you getting married?
I am but it won’t be until next year or the year after. We’re thinking of at least going down to the courthouse soon tho
Late teens or early 20's.
Late teens is way too young in my opinion, like what about college? Lol
Doesn't matter. You can grow together.
I don't know. I'm unmarried.
Are you planning to be married one day?
Ah okay. Being alone can definitely be fun and peaceful
Very well said!
In god’s timing
Never 🤷🏻♀️
Totally valid. Marriage can be such a hassle lol
27-33
That’s also my ideal age range pretty much!
93 years old.
Why not 69 years old
69 was my second choice.
Maggiage should be last thing on the wish list!
For some people marriage is the first and sometimes even only thing on their wish list apparently lol
There is a rulebook?
Apparently there’s an unwritten rulebook crafted by societal expectations
Never
Valid. But just curious, why not?
That’s true
Sweet 16
Bit young in my opinion lol
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