Would you repeatedly get divorced (read the details)?

[AviatorTom]

A couple in Japan found a unique way to deal with Japanese custom and law. When a couple marries in Japan they are required to use one surname. That means that one of the partners needs to change their surname.

One couple each liked their own pre-marriage surname and wanted to keep them, but they can't by law. So, they decided to get married, then divorced, every 3 years, changing their surname each time, so that each gets a chance to maintain their surname.

To determine which surname to use first, they flipped a coin, and the husband won. After 3 years, they got divorced and remarried, using the wife's surname. And it goes on, divorce/marriage every 3 years, swapping surnames...

What do you think of this creative solution to the couple's problem?

Would you ever do something like this?

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As many of you know, I've been married twice. My first wife, we married young, took my last name. My second (current) wife did not; she kept her last name, which makes sense because, being older, most people know her by that name, and her children have that name.

[CrazyGirl2]

I think people need to what is best for them. I appreciate the exemplar couple's very inventive solution, however I personally believe that something like that would merely cause massive legal headaches, and mass confusion. Imagine doing business with a couple, or even as a couple, and realizing that every three years the deed to your home needs to be legally changed to reflect your ever-changing name. Because if you are Hiro, and Suki Yamamoto, and you buy a house, then three years later you become Hiro and Suki Kawasaki (a popular Japanese surname). Your home is no longer in your name, neither are your cars, your auto, home and health insurance are all in some other name to your legal name. Your bank accounts no longer match your name on your ID, and your passports, credit cards, and social security accounts are all invalid! (until they are all legally changed). Your attorney's will charge an absolute fortune changing ALL of your legal records, and you no longer even have access to your own medical records from 3, 6 and 9 etc… years ago without a court order! No, the legal headaches alone would make a “solution” like that completely impractical!

I’ve already decided to have my name hyphenated similar to Daniel Day-Lewis, Catherine Zeta-Jones, and Beyoncé Knowles-Carter. I have a famous family surname, (similar to Mount Batten, Kennedy, and Windsor) so I definitely want to keep it, but I also believe in the tradition of women taking their husbands last name, so the children have the same surname (last name) as both of their parents. Lee and I have also discussed this, and we agree that for the future benefit of our children, that they too will have my hyphenated (or double barreled) last name.

Thanks for the really thought provoking question.
Laura. 🤗 🥰

[DizzyDesii]

Thats crazy. In general, i probably wouldn't physically change my name once married. I worked for the gov and I saw how difficult that shit can be and how docs had to be resubmitted due to name issues. So sure people can refer to me as Mrs. (his last name) but on documents, you will only see my last name. Also, if i marry once and things dont work out, I dont really care to marry again. Deep down, I prefer to be married to avoid all the guilt that comes with premarital sex. But yea i dont NEED to marry again if things didn't workout and i surely won't be remarrying for the surname issue above

[Dongie]

So you want to not get married sometime?

[DizzyDesii]

@Dongie lmao i said i want to marry, i just dont want to remarry nor change my name

[Dongie]

👌🏻 O'tay

[HawkPerception]

Way too much effort. I love my last name and would honestly prefer if my partner just took my last name. As much as I believe in equality in every other aspect, taking my name and me being the one to propose are the only traditional things I want. I would feel rejected if the my partner wanted to marry me but not take my name.

[OlderAndWiser]

No, if a woman was that attached to her previous name, i wouldn’t make a fuss Scott her changing her last name to mine. Fortunately, in the US, that is legal.

[DishLady]

Ugh… no, that’s just silly. If they had kids what would they call the kids? Smh.

[Juxtapose]

You don't really need the last names of the children to match the parent's. You have the birth certificates that prove they are yours so what does it matter?

[exitseven]

My best friend was married 4 times. It seemed like a lot of trouble.

I do nt know what a wedding costs in Japan but here thay are very expensive.

[purplepoppy]

Why not just have a double barrelled surname instead?

[juliammm]

What advantage do they get from getting married?

[Nikki1989]

No, when I married, it was for life.

[dudeinohio]

No. I believe in tradition. My wife took my last name.

[DrPepper12]

I ♥️ malicious compliance!!!