Is it impolite to request a child-free wedding?

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Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

No, it’s a wedding between yourself and your to be husband. You are allowed to have any rules you want to have and if people cannot respect that then they just shouldn’t show up.

I don’t understand why people just think that they get to control what someone else does. Just because it’s not how they would do their own wedding doesn’t mean that you need to do it exactly like them. I get that some people cannot find childcare and things like that but you just have to be understanding if they cannot show up.

No, it’s NOT rude to ask politely for a child free wedding. It’s your wedding 💒

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

It’s only impolite, if other children are there , I went to a child free wedding before , so I made arrangements to have my kids watched while I went to the wedding , when I got to the wedding , I noticed some couples brought their kids , I was like WTF? I was pissed and thought that was very disrespectful that I had to find someone to watch my kids and these people didn’t . So if you are going to have a child free wedding? Which is fine , make sure you turn everyone away that brings their kids. Be respectful.

Caroline91 · Accepted Answer

I don't think it's really an issue of polite or impolite. Some events just aren't kid friendly, including some weddings. As a parent, I have never felt badly if I was unable to attend something bc it wasn't appropriate for my little ones to be there and I wasn't able to leave them for some reason. If I was close to the couple, I happily sent a gift and my best wishes for their happiness.

RubyFrench · Accepted Answer

no way, its not impolite. I have young children and we had a child free wedding and didn't allow other children besides our own (and 2 of our kids best friends) they went to bed after the ceremony and the adults partied on🤣 I've had many mates do this too so we weren't the first or only ones. It's your wedding, you do whatever you and your fiancé want to do.

AviatorTom · Answer

It really depends on who you would be excluding. If the bride's sister has little ones, it might be frowned upon.

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

I mean it's  your  wedding. I wouldn't say so. Plus, crying children at important formal events can be annoying AS FUCK. I'm especially sensitive to really high pitched loud noises/screaming/crying as it gives me a lot of sensory overload.

Sunnysunny123 · Answer

I wouldn't mind, the wedding is for the geoom and the bride, they organise it, they pay for it and they should have it as they want. I am a guest and am honoured if invited to celebrate with them. If i don't find a sitter then i don't attend it is simple.
Many people feel so entitled of putting their nose in someones bussiness and forget what weddings are for and WHO they are for.

hahahmm · Answer

No but don't be surprised if some people don't show up as they can't make babysitting arrangements. What I have seen is that the bride & groom order a babysitter who watches multiple kids. But because people don't necessarily want their kid with a total stranger, that babysitter needs to be onsite. Basically in the room during reception.

Jersey2 · Answer

I dunno but weddings are supposed to be about family and of course that includes children. It will be harder in those who have kids to attend. Some moms would like the rest though. The money saved on meals could be spent on baby sitting services from say an elementary school teacher or teaches depending in how many kids.

SuchSightsToShowYou · Answer

I've only been to two or three weddings, but it seems to me that the presence of little kids made the weddings more fun. Everyone likes oohing and ahhing over how cute they are.

Why do you want a child-free wedding? Are the bride and groom going to be naked, or something?

NathanDavis · Answer

it is their wedding... so, the polite thing to do is to request and inform, the rest is choice personally, I didn't like to go to weddings as a kid, would have gladly skipped most of them, lol

Nikki1989 · Answer

That is a tough one, but I would have never made that request at our wedding. It is just kind of insulting.

ɹǝʇʇɐɥpɐW · Answer

Not really. I mean, it does limit who will be able to attend and that part might upset someone. But it is your event and I don't think that's an unreasonable request.

DrPepper12 · Answer

HELL NO!! It's YOUR day! YOUR affair! If people don't like it or can't make it that's on them. You host WHATEVER kind of occasion YOU want!!

PLEASE DONT BE BULLIED INTO SOME SHIT LIKE I WAS!! Better yet, just elope!! 😁 Congrats too!

blueonblack22 · Answer

You can always request something like this. But don’t be surprised if far fewer guests show up.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Id say it depends. Like a childfree wedding in the same town where everyone lives is one thing but if it's like far away then maybe it's best to allow kids to be there.

onedarkcloud · Answer

It is your wedding, you are paying for it and your wishes should be followed. If people cannot abide by your wishes do not come, it is your day, On the invitation it should be noted that if you show up with kids you will not be admitted.

itsannalee · Answer

No, my event my rules. If you don’t like it, don’t come.  Something like that.

Kelly6 · Answer

@itsmeirem It all depends on the wedding type. Some wedding ceremonies could be only for adults, for example people do nude weddings. You can't bring kids to nude wedding.

msc545 · Answer

The wedding itself is a bad idea. If you are going to do this kind of thing to yourself then it doesn't matter what other relatively minor things you do to make yourself miserable.

Texaskid1 · Answer

It it impolite to even have a wedding in the first place.

ChiTown33 · Answer

No. But it might cut into your gues participation a little bit.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Irrelevant. The wedding is for the couple, not to appease others.

admles · Answer

Not at all, the bride and groom has every right to make that call regarding their special day

Nazgol · Answer

No. People usually try to find a babysitter for these events anyway

Talea · Answer

Nope, the bride and groom can request what they want, it's their day.

Anonymous · Answer

No. If there is someone who says they won't go to the wedding if their child doesn't come, then they shouldn't go, it's that simple.

CaliGirl1995 · Answer

Not really it should be up to the couple it’s their day.

Stavoula82 · Answer

No I’ve been to plenty. Especially that’s how couple want it.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Nope. If people don't like it then don't go.

jahaims · Answer

No. Just don't expect as many people to show up.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

NEVER HEARD OF SUCH A THING

Agape93 · Answer

Nope

paledreams · Answer

Totally fine 💯

MK1997 · Answer

Obviously not

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

nope kids suck

Uwais_pat17 · Answer

Not at all

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