Older husband to younger wife?
Older wife to younger husband?
Younger husband/older wife since men die sooner. It makes more sense to do it this way unless the woman is okay with being widowed for a long time
@Apple1996
This is best thought out answer š
I definitely want to spend as much of my life as possible with the woman I choose to marry.
@clampfan101 Especially if she's got big boobs !!!
LOL, I doubt a woman who's 35-40 is a better risk for a healthy baby than a man who's 30-35 (life expectancy in the US is about five years higher for women than men).
It's going to go really well for those 23 year old women told they have to date 18 year old males (many of whom are still in high school).
@Apple1996
today's generation will not understand what you are saying.
@Apple1996
in their language , let me explain.
X chromosome aka ( wife) lasts longer then Y chromosome, (husband).
so if older women marries young guy, they both can die at same time. lol
many of my relatives have older wives
The problem with that thinking is that youāre assuming an average across a large population is repeated exactly in individual members of that population, as well as assuming couples will stay together until they die.
At least two of the women I dated as a teenager and young adult died at ages 42 and 51. Both were less than a year older than me.
And look at this:
https://studyfinds.org/married-men-outlive-women/
You missed a lot of thatās all you got out of it- I suggest reading it again and paying attention to average lifespan of educated men, among other things.
What those of you who want to date much younger guys never seem to consider is that it needs to be consensual. And most guys prefer younger women (again, doesnāt mean theyāll get them). Then again, thatās also going to mean you stop pretending that āwomen can give birth in their 50s and 60s, but just donāt want toā.
Itās currently thought that married men live longer because they socialize more and their wives make them go to the doctor for checkups/physicals.
Apple, we're seeing the inconsistencies with your alternate view of reality. You want to make women wait until they are at least 23 to have sex, and you want to pair them off with significantly younger and less mature men, who you apparently think aren't too immature to have sex, whereas women their age or even a few years older are. Makes no sense and bears no relation to the real world.
You have a strange idea about what is "creepy" and anyhow clearly don't want to understand why your fantasies about the world aren't accurate.
More mature 18 year olds than 40 year olds? My recent experience as someone who taught a lot of 18 year olds tells me otherwise, as does common sense.
@Avicenna 40 year olds were raised much differently so it is not their faults but many of them currently don't understand wtf empathy is or anything about managing emotions š while most 18 year olds do understand these things that are very important for relationships. And why would you teaching 18 year olds make you know about their maturity for relationships? That is something personal that only the women they are speaking with romantically would know about them
And how would you know about the maturity of 40 year olds in relationships since youāve never been in a relationship with one? Strangely, you seem to know everything and no one else knows anything.
There is no reason to think your claim is accurate. Like many other things, you just make it up because itās convenient for you.
Teaching 18 year olds means you talk to them and you hear what they say to each other. Some have even asked me for advice on dating and marriage (I usually decline to answer).
Whether or not someone has empathy isnāt age-dependent. And I donāt think you have any basis for claiming everyone born in 1984 was raised much differently than everyone born in 2006.
@Avicenna I've had romantic conversations with both of those ages enough to have gathered this info lol
And empathy has only recently been taught to boys at a age young. For the most part. I'm sure maybe there were some progressive parents way back then but it wasn't enough to acutally show through within those relationships
Do you have any sources to backup your claims?
I donāt believe you had enough romantic conversations with these two age groups (nor should you have had any), much less any dating with them.
And empathy isnāt necessarily part of maturity anyway, and even if it is, itās not the only component- there are far more. If anything, our society has become more infantilized over time.
Obviously, you can have any opinion you want, but to represent something as fact, you need to have something to back it up.
One of my aunts is a (leftist) child psychologist. Iāll see what she says.
@Avicenna why should I not have conversation with men about romance? In my relationship that is allowed since my husband knows I'm only attracted to women.
And sure think what you want about empathy but to me (and a lot of other women) it is a very important trait when finding a partner. Lol at the leftist aunt š¤£ like are you implying that empathy is only something leftists care about?
@Avicenna why is that strange? I just like women romantically and men sexually š
And ofc I'm always with my kids but that doesn't mean I'm missing out on socializing with others either. Those things can be done at the same time.
And I feel like to be mature for a relationship you have to fully understand empathy
Whether someone is empathetic is a matter of opinion, and most people aren't empathetic to everyone. But we also aren't in a relationship with everyone.
I do not find it credible that you talk to enough people about their relationships to be able to make statements of fact about this topic.
@Avicenna everyone you know you have some type of relationship with enough to have empathy for them. If you are being picky about who you are being empathetic with then it's most likely being faked just temporarily to win that person over. It's not being genuine.
Trying to explain empathy to a old man is just about impossible so I might as well not feed into the trolling any longer lol
Perfect example of what I mean- you have āempathyā for single moms but none whatsoever for older guys (among others).
No one is faulted for having an opinion, but you obviously have a bias against certain groups of people, and that bias shows in your many opinions, or as the case may be, your claims about facts.
No one is free of bias, but large biases distort reality.
@Avicenna me not being interested in dating old men doesn't mean I don't have empathy for them. It just means I don't want their dick š
And honestly I feel terrible for older men. ED must suck, I've heard their balls get saggy and accidentally hit the water in the toliet, they die sooner/are more likely to have certain illness, they go bald and gray. Like shit that all sounds terrible. I've acutally been wating to come up with a plan to help balding men lol
However big of a gap they want as long as theyāre all consenting adults of legal age abc sound mind.
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It would be weird if they were both born on the same day. Anything else is fine, so long as they are happy.
My father was 30 years older than my mother... 40 year marriage until he died.
I was 5 years older than my ex-wife... 20 year marriage until amicable divorce.
u For people in their 20s, age gap is a bigger issue than it is for people in their 60s.
Whatever the two consenting adults are comfortable with. Thereās no one-size-fits-all.
It doesnāt matter , all that matters is they are happy together
People say husband should be older because women typically show signs of ageing after marriage and rather sex while most men don't.
And women can be older than men too but only if they are close in gap and they both want same. For me, I used to have no issue wanting to marry women who are old let than 10 or even 15 years than me as long as they were foreign and beautiful. But slowly I realized that women who are leftover and old get bitter sadly 😔. It hurt me like hell when I got that realization. It happens in 90% cases. And they have a shorter window of opportunity to have children and more of them. Younger women are good for that purpose.
I tried talking at least like a dozen women who were slightly older than me 3 years, two years, 4 years, but they get so fixated that it's a gamble to marry them, most don't want to marry or have unrealistic expectations 😔. It's not their fault though. And I think people should be kinder to women and I could have sworn that it made me upset that my friend said women are meant to be slapped and that happened today and I told him why so? And he said they are good for nothing and just keep changing things places for no good reason.
Any age gap is fine as long as both have reached the age of consent. There are no rules or guidelines here.
However, age does matter if they want to have children. Women can't have children forever, so that has to be taken into account. But that's not really about age gap, though, but the woman's individual age.
As long as that's squared (or they don't want children), then any age gap is fine. :)
Older husband and younger wife but that might just be the panther in me😂
@smashleyy
As we have biological clock so very old wife can't work well for us.
For me personally +-5 years is the max age gap I'd be willing to accept, that said, I also believe others should be free to choose any age gap they want, as long as both lovers are of legal age, then age gap shouldn't matter as long as they love each other.
It totally depends on the people involved. I've had partners both older and younger (up to about 25 years older and ~10 years younger) The age was never a problem, we were together because there was a spark
Kinda depends on the people involved , as long as itās legal then itās fine I guess
As Apple1996 said. Women do usually live longer than men on average. I believe it used to be approximately seven years. But with the high occurrence of cancer and even auto accidents. Regardless of age. Both could earn their wings at the same time. Regardless of the age difference!
So if you love someone. Enjoy what time that you are given together.
whatever works for them? love rarely asks about birth certificates...
I don't think there's any single correct answer. My wife and I are 3 years apart, and it has seemed to work alright for us.
The male should always be older , that's only logical , any guys who try and turn this around either need a mother figure , or lack responsibility , the male has a vital role and its not as some pussy boy.
Update , the male should certainly be older , just makes good common sense , women have a limited reproduction cycle , and the last thing that is needed is trying to face menopause with a younger man , these guys type are looking for mothers , they do not want to accept responsibility , its absolutely VITAL that the man is older , the other way will never , ever work , thats a fact.
u I'm just about six years older than my wife.
I have always dated older but too much older. 20 years older is really pushing it.
m for them to decide... and to be okay with it
Preferably the same age or one year difference either way..
I donāt care which one of us is older. Preferably 10 or less years apart, but more isnāt instantly a red flag.
As long as both are mentally mature enough (preferably 23+ cause the brain finishes developing at 25, but anywhere in their 20's should be fine I guess) it doesn't matter at all.
probably 10ish years.
As you get older ten years isn't such a big deal.
at 20 years old 10 years is a lot based on maturity levels with someone who is 30.
Your goals are usually different then.
30 and 40 isn't as big of a deal.
I never much cared about those things. As long as a man can satisfy me emotionally and sexually - it's all OK..
The husband is usually older than the wife... about twenty-five years if they're older ala Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones, who were 80 and 55 , respectively, Sept.25.
It should only matter to them. Mom & dad were 10 years apart and almost made it to their 50th anniversary, had dad not died 7 months before then.
As long as both are legal adults - I'd say usually the husband should be slightly older to older
Even a 30 year old man could marry a 20 year old or 24 year old mmm š
A 20 or 24 yo Woman āļø typo lol
Man āļø lol my answer missed marks lol šššš
I don't know what should be. I know my wife is 9 years my junior. And that works for us.
Husband one to four years older would be best.
It does not matter as long as both are over 18.
I think it depends what they get married if the man or woman is 50 and the S/) is 40 thats fine to me. IF the person is 30 and 20 I find that werid.
Most marriages are happier when the wife is about 3-5 years younger than the husband.
I think it varies by culture and the maturity of both involved. But as long as there is love and sexual compatibility it should not matter.
Whatever they are comfortable with it depends on the two people married
Older husband, with a younger male as a third for when the older guy starts to lose virility lol,,,
I've heard for men... the ideal age of wife is half his age plus 7 years. A 43 year old man would be looking for a 28 year old wife.
As to your update... HYPERGAMY! Women can't love a man they don't respect. And what is it women respect? Easy... Experience, wisdom, stability and good dick. All things an older man offers.
I've seen it both ways. Commitment is a choice, so doesn't matter.
10 years each direction unless of course the younger is a minor.
I'd say husband 5-10 years older than wife is good.
No one gets married for their 70 or 80-something year old self. You do it for your young self and your future kids.
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About four but really it shouldn't matter if they truly love each other
As long as they are both legal, it doesnāt matter.
ideally i think both should be close in age
For hubby and me, it's about 6 years.
Individual choice
Man should be older
I guess it doesn't matter from my pov
Whatever works for the couple.
Whatever they both want i say
No rules.
Age not matter because they maybe reborn
40yr old wife 30yr old husband
2-3 years max
No more than 7 years
up to you
3 or 4 years either way
No age limit of Husband and wife
18-ā¾ļø
It don't matter
First one
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