Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 ymy parents are 10 years apart and I feel they look the same to me therefore I don't see anything wrong with it at all.
perhaps if my parents were not this far apart I would view it differently as the number seems high but when the people look the same it really doesn't even make a difference.
some people are the same age and one looks drastically much older than the other.
I just feel if you visually look around the same age and are in the same stage in life as some people can go slower or faster than others, then it all evens out.
When you have one that looks much older than the other is when it looks odd
or if one is far too much mature and serious compared to another who is just wanting to party and be careless, all this regardless of age will seem off to the outsider looking in.
all in all if you can make life and feel happy and love, all that really doesn't matter.00 Reply
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Mine is 13 years. Lmao and I don't give a fuck what anyone thinks. Hahahaha. We enjoy ourselves, our love and our bond. Why would we care what anyone else thinks!
I think it's all about each pair of people and their dynamic. People tend to see something like that and automatically say well it would be problematic and it's not true. In my case, he looks younger than he is, and is very mature. I'm also very mature and also old-fashioned in some things. He is younger and more vibrant in some things and choices. Basically it boils down to... we balance. So each couple would know what works for them and what doesn't.26 Reply
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u +1 yIt depends in your ages. If one is 18 and the other is 8, that is a no-go! If one is 18 and the other is 28, that's not illegal but it's unlikely to work in the long term. I am 67 and my girlfriend is 58 and we are very well suited! The older you get, the less significant it will be, until you get to that age shere people start becoming infirm and incompetent.
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Wow, I kind of thought about that, about how it would be more objectionable to my parents if, at 18, I wanted to marry a guy who was 29. But if I was 45 and he was 56? Would it be that big of a thing? I didn't think so but it's cool to hear someone who's there right now! Thanks for posting that!
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@SweetFyter Glad it could help!
+1 yDo your values and beliefs differ because of the "era" you both were raised in? Like, he grew up in an era where the woman was supposed to stay home and clean, and you were raised to believe you can have a successful career?
Stuff like that can get in the way. But if that is not the case in any way, the age is just a number.04 Reply
Asker+1 yhe prefers that I stay home and not work and doesn't want me to take burden of taking a job... but I like to have my career in arts but I also could do that at home but im fine with what he wants..
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then it comes down to what you are okay settling down with. Are you going to regret 20 years from now not having a thriving career in arts because you couldn't be active during 9-5 in art galleries, because you had to stay home?
Asker+1 yagain i do love this man but also love my passion.. what should i do? my income doesn't support a living but his does
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"Happy wife, happy life." I believe in that. And to me that means, that she needs to feel happy all the time so I can feel happy.
It shouldn't matter if you can support "a family" but that you are able to do something that makes you happy and fulfilled. Otherwise you sit at home all day while he is at work and you are just waiting for him to come home. And when he walks in talking about how tired he is but you want to do things with him, it will cause resentment and frustration.
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+1 yI don't know if I could go for a guy that much younger than me - I can see being married at 24, but I'd probably want a husband with a drivers license.
But ten or eleven years older? 35? I could see that IF he was the right guy. It just really depends on the guy. Age is not something I think I'll be that concerned about.10 ReplyI know the saying "age doesn't matter" is a common phrase and I do agree to it but only conditionally. I think truly age doesn't matter once both people are at least in their late 20s and have already been in at least one long term relationship of 3 years.
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Asker+1 yi never had a long term relationship, he is my first serious guy
Asker+1 yis it considered a gap?
Potentially okay but always think of the specific different experiences between the people that could become friction later. If one has kids and the other doesn't... if one has a history of being in a bad relationship for 10+ years and the other doesn't. All can matter later on.
00 ReplyI see nothing wrong so long as you can love the decade ish difference. And like sit down and address it XD. Like somewhat spiritually. Cause ya like miss so much as like a toddler. I'd think it would be fun to like learn what happened when you were to young to think. Plus music I feel would be a fun thing to share. As tastes are probably slightly different. Age gaps in my opinion are sexy. It's like dating mid stream a time machine.
00 ReplyHmn. Think twice. 10 years is wide. But at thesame time, I believe if he is the right one, you will know. Some people select too much and regret it later. If he is a good man and you are attracted, then it's okay. I have a friend who just clocked 40. She is about to marry a guy who is 50. That is 10 years apart. She don't like the age gap but she is desperate to get married. And from what she says, the man is good and supportive of her so why not?
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+1 yI know someone who's married to a someone 10 years younger. They're great together.
My cousin was engaged to a girl who was 10 years younger. They broke it off though, and no longer speak.
So, sometimes it's successful sometimes it's not00 Reply
+1 yI think probably 10 years is the maximum age gap a couple should have, in general.
Mainly as they are still in the same generation probably, and on similar level in their life.
*massive generalization*00 Reply
+1 yI think it will work for some and not others. It just depends on the people.
The actual gap wouldnβt bother me. More than 10 years would seem like too much. Iβm not going to complete disregard the possibility.00 ReplyMy girlfriend is 13 years older than me but we never fight, she's never immature, she's doesn't have princess syndrome, she's nurturing, she's loyal, she is always encouraging, all traits I've never encountered in younger women.
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+1 yThe age gap between my parents is 11 years, and this year it's going to be their 31st anniversary. So, I guess it can work? 😅
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+1 y10 years in numbers looks like a big age gap but in reality you can relate to them very easily it's not like you are from different era lol.
It depends on personalities as well just like anyother relationship00 Reply
+1 yI think the 10-11 year age gap is fine, my maternal grandma was 13 years older than my grand-dad, if she was living today she would have been 109 years old
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Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 yMy parents had an 11 year gap in age, but they celebrated their 55th wedding anniversary before my Dad passed away.
You will never find two people more in love. If all that is stopping you is age? Don't let it!00 ReplyAge gap is really only an issue as a teenager not for adults. And it should be the younger partner who sets it.
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+1 yMy parents have an 11 year age gap. And honestly they pair up perfectly
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+1 yif they are happy and both consenting adults, why does it matter
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+1 yI donβt think about it. I think it is so common I donβt understand why is this still a topic of discussion.
00 Reply851 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic. I usually consider ten years the max age gap but under the right circumstances I could co a couple more either way.
00 ReplyIt's cool. How is it when just the two of you are together? That's all that matters.
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yIt will matter when one of you is 60 and the other is 70
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Asker+1 yWhy?
Opinion Owner+1 yAt 70 your health will take a sharp decline no matter what you do. You hearing will be imapired your eyesight as will. Your joints will ache all the time and you will start to lose control over your bladder. Imagine being married to someone like that when you're 60 (somewhat still healthy if you take care of yourself). Its depressing to say the least.
Opinion Owner+1 yOf course this is just my opinion. I might not have the full picture
+1 yMy parents were 10 years apart and stayed together `til death. They both died at the age of 81.
00 ReplyIf it works go for it I like older women it's all good 🥰 lol!
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+1 ySeems normal to me. I don't know why everyone is so scared of age gaps, even quite normal ones. Its very common. Many people do it. Good luck.
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+1 yMy wife and I are 9 years apart.. I'm fine with it as long as the younger one is over 18.
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Anonymous(18-24)+1 yPretty good. My husband was 30 when I met him, i was 15, married by 16
00 Reply1.2K opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic. Not a problem my last girl friend was 13 years younger than me
00 Replyits ok if u love em mutually seach milind soman and saif ali khan s spouses story u ll know
00 ReplyA long as you're both happy that's all that matters
10 ReplyIt shouldn't matter, If you are "for" each other. The love of Hemmingways life was an older women who rejected him because of age.
00 ReplyI am 22 years older age is no big deal happiness is
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+1 y93% of married people have less than 10 year age difference.
00 ReplyIffy, sounds like the chick was won over with money and security.
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+1 yIt is totally okay for me. Being older thn her by 10 it is fair.
00 ReplyMy wife was 10 years older than me we were married 25 years upon her passing.
00 ReplyNot a problem at all if you love each other who cares!!!
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Anonymous(25-29)+1 yI don't think about such stuff. I think about how to get laid.
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+1 yExtremely unhealthy. Sorry.
00 ReplyIt can work just the same as a same age marriage..
10 ReplyItβs fine if you like 50 year old men
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Asker+1 yhonestly i dont find 50 year old men attractive
Asker+1 yi dont care about money as much as i care for sexual attraction...
Asker+1 ylol wow so guys think women want money and women think guys want young girls... if i want money its just for survival and not for the luxury...
Asker+1 yIts a bit of both but I do want to be sexually attracted to him...
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+1 yI think my limit is 10.
00 Reply 10 years is my maximum limit
00 ReplyIt worked for me for 26 years.
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+1 yI am fine with either way tbh :)
00 ReplyDepends where they are in life.
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+1 ymain concern it make sure it a legal age gap.
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+1 yIt's normal
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yIts fine
00 ReplyOk I guess
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