Would you ever get engaged/married in under 6 months of knowing someone?

[Anonymous]

[Cormac995]

Depends. Normally I'd say no but when I met my ex I basically fell in love on the spot. We met on a writing site, and she asked me to look at the rough draft of what she had of her book so far. I said yes, read it and gave her a few tips and pointers and that was it. A few hours later she sends me the next draft and I was blown away on the spot.

Her way with words was incredible it was like she had gained years of writing experience with the snap of her fingers with that second draft. I immediately knew she was a natural talent, and writing is very dear to me as an art. When I saw her skill and grace with words, I fell in love with her then and there, I think.

[HawkPerception]

I think 6 months is too soon for me right now. But the truth is as you get older, the more valuable your time is and it honestly doesn't have to take that long to get to know someone pretty well.

As long as you live with them for a while, know them extremely well (talk about all the important things in life to see if you resonate with them) and love them, I don't see any reason why getting married would be an issue.

[Razp_Sorbet]

No, stupid idea. My fiance's mother married someone she was dating for 6 months. They lasted a year after maybe two. Though it's her own doing... The guy was a what you see is what you get type, everyone could see his true colours (not that they were that bad anyway) she just chose to ignore it or maybe had a "I can fix him" moment. Her daughter (my fiance's sister) still keeps in touch with him and he treats her like her own.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

No, I would not. What's the rush?

I would, however, be discussing the direction of the relationship at around a year. I would want a conversation about marriage happening before the 2 year mark. I would not continue a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship beyond that without a very good reason.

[Iquestioneverything]

Your answer makes no sense? You say not to rush, yet you’ve already got a deadline for engagement/marriage or you’d leave the person.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

@Iquestioneverything If you think it through, the question asker suggests meeting, dating, getting engaged and then married in less than six months. If it's divided evenly, that gives us roughly 6 weeks for each stage of the relationship. I think most people would consider that a rush.

If you read my comment thoughtfully, I simply say having a conversation about those things by those timeframes is my personal boundary. Which, if divided, give a fair amount of time to get to know someone well enough to figure out if the relationship is going somewhere. For some people, perhaps it's not a marriage conversation; maybe it's a "moving in together" conversation. Regardless, it simply means "Do we want to get married/be together at some point or not?" For me personally, avoiding discussing marriage after two full years of dating indicates that we don't have similar priorities in life, and it's time to find someone who does. I'd venture to say that over two years vs. six months is dramatically different as far as a deadline goes.

[Shiprex]

It's possible but only some people who are set in their ways would make it work as long as they KNOW themselves, know what they want and are willing and able to adapt and grow WITH the other. Adaptable people in other words COULD make this happen though marriage isn't a word, it's a sentence.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

@Shiprex I am not sure what you mean. Could you clarify what you are referring to? I'm a little confused...

[Shiprex]

@TheRealPepperPotts some people who are set in their ways from early on or who are quite flexible and easy going could meet and hit enough buttons to want to make something happen that lasts a long time. It's not a given though. People who want to be married and are able to be adaptable are unafraid of risks with the right person could run into each other and make it work.
Problem is, these days everyone is so in to themselves and seeking validation all the time, this has made folk neurotic to the point of they're unable to even trust their own judgement so go elsewhere for advice and guidance. Usually online social media sources of advice too. That's screwed everyones social cues up with noise. It's become like trying to listen to a radio station with static and other people nearby making a racket while you're listening to a song to get to know the lyrics.

[AviatorTom]

That's exactly what I did with my second, and current, marriage. We met in September and got engaged in January, about 4 months later. We just celebrated our 8th anniversary... and counting.

[Finchie40]

No way , that is just stupid written all over it

[Shiprex]

Possible but not wise as you age and change there is not guarantee the relationship would work. However, there are people who COULD do this. If you're well adjusted and well aware of what you need and want as is your partner, then it could work as long as the value of shared commitment is consistent. It doesn't have to be any sort of romance novel type thing either, more a team building exercise where you are both on the same page and able to communicate with compassion toward yourself and each other.

[exitseven]

No, it is really important to really get to know somebody and to really think it through. I was with somebody for 4 years and we were in the stage where we were talking about getting married. In the end I decided against it. I had too many doubts.

[kaucky1]

I'm too good to be tied down others pretend to be me act like fools these guys not right so I is into women hermaphradites more. I like chicks with dicks cuz I get orgasms in the ass so I more than capable to give orgasms in the ass in less than a minute

[Valdemort]

Can't answer honestly. I think any relationship is different, so the way it develops depends on the situation and the people involved.

[Red_Arrow]

Yes. I married less than two months after meeting her and it was a lasting, blissful marriage till she died from cancer. Why waste good years of your life after meeting the right one?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't think so. But I've never been engaged. So I don't know exactly how long it would take to be sure of someone like that. I can't imagine ever trusting any woman that much to be willing to pledge the rest of my life to her. But maybe that's the crux of it. Most people today do not view marriage as forever. So maybe that's why so many men and woman can do it.

[lightbulb27]

I was a real foot dragger so no. that be less than 6 full hormonal cycles, so don't know much. But if spent a lot of time together in that time and you see what you've got, then maybe.

[NicholasRedone]

Only in fantasy daydreams where the real world is just all in my mind lol 😅😆 so no, not in the real world. That's just weird and not gonna last, outside of daydreams lol 😂

[beaves11]

Not in under 6 months. Although honestly they do show on studies most KNOW about the 6 month mark. Never understood dating 5 years. Shit or get off the pot.

[Roldrake]

I did that once when I was really drunk in Las Vegas. I can say I will not do that again, nor get married unless I am using a false ID etc and plan to escape after getting my rocks off.

[ProbablyClueless]

Not unless there was some external influence that made a shotgun marriage like that a practical decision.

[PeachyPie93]

I could get engaged if we really like each other but not married that soon LOL.

[slickrick6600]

If I knew she was my soulmate I would! When you know you know

[genericname85]

maybe if i had like a few months to live cause i got terminal cancer but i don't wanna die umarried xD but otherwise no.

[Anonymous]

lmao no, i wouldn't even have sex with someone i was dating for 6 months. 6 months is literally nothing.

[12karen]

Nope.

When I date, even after 6 months, I still feel the need to be less open so 6 months for me is too early to get married, at least 2 years

[Staximus]

No, I would want to live with a woman for at least a year before getting married to make sure we can tolerate living together

[Itsa85mf]

That’s what happened here, we met in early June and were engaged in Early January and got married in October. We have been married 27 years now

[bolverk]

NEVER - you cannot truly get to know someone in 6 months.

[YourExLover69]

Yes if the chemistry is great between me and her and we both want relationship 😍 then sure

[foxsquirrell]

I don't want to marry. Why marry? Why not just live together without unnecessary complications!

[Crazzyyworld]

if I am really horny and the man looks dreamy then yes

[Anonymous]

Sure, if she's the right girl, yes I would.

[Iquestioneverything]

If it felt right then yes.

[molonski2]

Frankly NO WAY !

[WhitneySnow]

No. That’s too soon.

[lilBigPotato]

No never need more time

[tzdc21]

Nope. Too short

[Pohjolan]

Pretty unlikely but not impossible.

[Connie88]

No wouldn’t move in together at least a year.

[malarkey]

Nope.

[Smf1989]

I won't but my ex would have wanted it for us

[Miristheiss]

Never.

[Anonymous]

yes i would.

[dudeinohio]

No way

[Kelly6]

It can happen