Wedding before Best Friends?

[Anonymous]

Hey I got a question here. So my best friend got engaged here last year and is having her wedding the end of October. My boyfriend and I or I guess fiance now are starting to plan our wedding. The date we are looking at is early October. Only reason why I want October is because my parents got married then and this year their anniversary lands on a Saturday. So I thought “How cool would that be to share a wedding date with my parents?” We have all the big stuff planned out already for that date, but how would you react if your best friend is getting married before you? I want her to be apart of it as well but afraid she will pull the whole “I’m planning mine and it’s just too expensive.” Card. I haven’t told her yet and I’m not making this a contest as it’s not. Never has been. Just curious how you would react to this news.

[Anonymous]

that's weird, have your own day, not because your parents were married the same day. but that's just me i guess. but yes, it can be seen as "one-upping" your friend. i'd be annoyed. are you postponing your honeymoon then, to attend her wedding? did you think of that?

it's just too much all at once. and yeah, money is a factor for sure.

[Asker]

Honeymoon wouldn’t be till the winter time anyways. And my parents thought having that date would be cool too

[Anonymous]

This is just my opinion so don’t take it personally but unless I misunderstood, I don’t think it’s cool to get married the same day as your parents. Same month is cool but that day should be spent celebrating them and not having to share it with another couple. You could always get married next October if the month itself is sentimental. Just to avoid the drama with your friend since she picked the month first, I think it’s fair.

[Opinion Owner]

It also feels last minute since she started planning next year, now she’s have to accommodate your wedding before hers, which also isn’t great.

[Opinion Owner]

*started planning last year

[Asker]

My parents thought it was cool and she really didn’t start planning till this past month.

[Opinion Owner]

If they think it’s cool then great, but why not plan it for next year in that case? Unless this is like a milestone anniversary then it happens every year. You’d have more time to plan, not only a handful of months and there’s really no rush if you plan on marrying, that means neither of you are going anywhere, right? Anyway, it sounds like you really have you heart set on the beginning of October, in which case I guess you can just break the news to your friend and let the cards fall as they may. Just be prepared for whatever her response may but fair warning I don’t imagine her being pleased. I’m sure she’d like to participate in your wedding as well, so, affording two wedding in a month, two bachelorette parties, two everything… that’s a lot.