Why is it mainly women blaming the other woman for her man's infidelity?

[Marblesxoxo]

The mistress gets called a homewrecker and the Spanish version for that is ''La Roba Maridos'' literally translated as ''The husband thief''.

Even on a Spanish soap opera that was set many years ago, only the woman would get harassed by the people (of both genders; the women themselves excusing and tolerating that double standard) or at times the wife orchestrated an angry mob against her. Meanwhile nothing happened to the man. He was safe, treated as if he was some saint. Then the wife remains with the unfaithful man just for appearances. In reality he was fully guilty of destroying a marriage and a family. Nobody stole her husband. He went on his own and cheated because he wanted too. If anything he, himself (the cheater) wrecked his home, his family.

Meanwhile if the wife was unfaithful, she's thrown out. The other man (esp if he knew she was married) either doesn't get blamed much or they're both equally blamed. But even if the husband blames the other man too and beats him in a fight, the wife is still kicked out and he files for divorce. There is no angry mob against him nor ''staying married for appearances'' BS. The unfaithful wife still gets signaled out by the people.

It's only been recently that cheaters have been equally signaled out but in the past, there was a different treatment. Though some women still tend to place the blame on the other woman and not the unfaithful man. Why?

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If I were the one cheated on, my anger would go directly towardly towards my husband, towards the very person that made our marital vows. The other woman didn't make those vows, he did. I would blame him 100%. I think cheaters of both genders should be blamed 100%.

[Nikki1989]

I tend to agree. The cheater is the worst of the two.

[Marblesxoxo]

Exactly. The person who made the marital vows to you is the one breaking the marriage, the commitment and wrecking their homes.

[Anonymous]

I think they are equally to blame, the one in the committed relationship should be able to control themselves, but the other person should have enough respect for that relationship not to interfere.

[Marblesxoxo]

Honestly, I wouldn't care about the other woman much. She doesn't owe me anything. If anything, she exposed him for who he is. If I were the wife, my anger would go directly towards my husband, the one that made the marital vows. He's the one that owes loyalty. In my mind, the real homewrecker is the cheater.

[Opinion Owner]

People who would do a shitty thing probably do other shitty things as well. It's a red flag for anyone who interacts with them.

[Anonymous]

Because women know women, and they know that when a mistress has a sexual relationship with a man who she knows is married or taken, she is just as at fault as the man who is cheating.

[Marblesxoxo]

Yet she's the one getting most of the blame and the nothing is said about the husband. However, when a man messes with other man's wife, the lover doesn't get as much blame as the mistress. It's only the woman getting the blamed, whether she's the cheater or the mistress.

[Opinion Owner]

Nonsense. Male cheaters get hate all the time, at least as much as their mistresses, usually more.

[Anonymous]

Because many women are raised misogynistic and thrive on jealousy.

[Marblesxoxo]

That's sad. It's a shame that our own gender acted like the very enemy. By doing that, they themselves were the enablers of that double standard.

[Marblesxoxo]

If cheating men were equally shamed just like they are nowadays and more women are now divorcing cheaters, things would've be fair from the very start.

[ohsheeT]

Probably because she has already had this talk with him many times before this one she know he can't here her so not worth the time. But she also know how long it had been going on.
And she's thinking the other women has spent so much time with him you should how he is lol yes it wrong. Leave the other girl out of it. Because its his fault his fault only

[Anonymous]

The husband thief knows he's married, she is absolutely just as much to blame as the cheater is. If she doesn't, then he's 100% to blame.

[Opinion Owner]

*If the husband thief knows...

[HungTexan]

I’d blame them both.