Does a woman who does not work have to serve her husband?

[Anonymous]

Would you like to marry a traditional woman who enjoys doing all kinds of housework and considers it her duty to serve her husband, or would such a woman be boring to you?

[Summeroflove]

Traditional marriages should be a give and a take…. Narcissists feel attracted to those type of relationships expecting the other to hold their end of things up but never their own.

Real traditional relationships are 50/50 relationships where both people are working equally as hard to take care of one another. It’s not everyone’s cup of tea no not everyone is compatible with one another. But I believe if one partner stays home that the other shouldn’t have to lift a finger around the house

Many of these relationships just simply don’t work because they are a fantasy many times divorces are disaster and someone or the other gets screwed. Such as a woman ends up homeless, with kids, with zero backup plan, starting life from scratch. On the other extreme is a woman getting half of everything she never worked for and the man still having to pay child support as well as alimony for a woman who will not go back to work even for her own kids blowing money only on herself.

I’m not saying everyone is narcissistic when these relationships fail just sometimes one person gets overly focused on their career as where the other on the children. These relationships really only work where one spouse is making a comfortable living where he or in some cases she can support everyone. It shouldn’t be done when people are struggling to make ends meet.

So if I was ever in a relationship like that in the future. Yes, I wouldn’t want to have to lift a single finger around the house unless I just wanted to. I would not want to come home to a honey do list. But a lot of narcissistic women for instance want that free ride in life until they see how mucn work it is being a mother and a wife full time… So they start playing the victim.

On the other extreme if a abusive man love bombs you and now you’re basically stuck in a marriage where you are financially dependent and have no way out that can be a disaster too.

[SolitarySolace]

This really depends on the dynamics of the relationship. If a woman chooses to take on a traditional role and genuinely enjoys managing the household while her husband provides financially, that’s her choice, and there’s nothing wrong with that. However, the idea that she has to “serve” her husband implies an obligation rather than a mutual partnership, which can be problematic.

Healthy relationships are about balance—both partners should feel valued and respected for what they contribute, whether that’s financially, emotionally, or through maintaining the home. If she enjoys being a homemaker, great! But it shouldn’t be an expectation forced upon her just because she doesn’t work outside the home.

• Eva ❤️

[Ariesman81]

Yes please