Do you believe its the wife's duty to cook for her man, a husband that is, why, why not?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I grow up where my mom and grandma cooked home cooked meals everyday even when they came home from work. My grandma til this day still cooks home made meals 5 times a week for me and the family at the house. 😃

It's the wife duty to cook for her man.

It's not the wife duty to cook for her man.

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In this regard, I don't know how to cook nor I wouldn't like doing it.

I would strongly prefer she cooks for me from the goodness of her heart. I would deeply appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

It's not necessarily a wife's "duty" to cook any more than it is a husband's "duty" to kill spiders, cut the lawn, wash the car or buy her flowers. Cooking is a way a wife shows her love for her husband and her family. My grandmother and mother also cooked (well), partly because it was seen as their role, but much more importantly because it was how they loved. I'm grateful they took teaching me cooking skills seriously from the time I was young. I see so many girls my age who can't cook or don't have anything more than basic cooking skills because their mothers didn't set that example and teach them those skills, and because many see it as a demeaning traditional gender role. But those girls don't have one of the most important tools in their tool bag for attracting and keeping a quality man, and loving him, and they won't get the satisfaction and fulfillment that comes from doing something so important for their loved ones. In my home growing up, the kitchen was the heart of the home, and good food was a foundational part of family time and bonding. It's such an important emotional component of a happy and close knit family and the quality time they spend together. I feel really sorry for families who don't have that.

[HaveNoName]

Best frickin answer. You cannot top this.

[ZenJen444]

The girl in the picture 🤣. I know why you used her photo.. Anyways , I feel it goes both ways. I think both wife and husband should know how to cook. My ex boyfriend was an excellent cook. He showed me a few of his recipes and I showed him mine. Ofcourse I enjoyed his cooking because it was very diverse sense he has traveled a lot via military. So I preferred his cooking over mine. Where I'm from seafood and Mexican food was like the go to dish so I pretty much resorted to the same dishes. Him on the other hand cooked Indian, Italian, Latin, Vietnamese, Chinese, Japanese and carribean food. So yeah that's why he cooked most of the time lol

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Why I picked the photo? Let me see your guess?

[Anonymous]

Eh. I think it's whoever's duty that isn't working as much or is home around that time. Whether that's the man or woman, idc. Back in the day, a man could provide for a whole family working a simple 40hr a week job without a degree. Today, there's a lot more teamwork involved unless you have a good career.

Personally, I grew up in an italian household where cooking and eating was a family event. My grandparents on both sides were all very involved in making dinners and always got us kids involved as well. My one grandpa even had a huge vegetable garden and would make all kinds of food, soups, canned goods, pickles etc. Because of that I learned how to cook at a very young age. I have such happy memories of that and always wanted a wife that I can grow vegetables with and cook with. Currently have that with my girlfriend as well <3

[hahahmm]

That food isn't going to cook itself & I got a lot of other stuff to do around the house that the wife is never going to do like plumbing, security, installing equipment, electrical work, fixing locks, windows, doors, masonry... lot of other stuff.

I actually am a great cook but I'm not going to cook that much.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Be real. No one does plumbing, electrical work, fixing locks, windows, and doors around the house everyday. But we need to eat everyday.

[hahahmm]

You must be slacking then because I do something productive every day I'm on this earth unless I'm on vacation. And every single thing I do would cost more to pay somebody else to do it than it would cost to buy dinner at a typical restaurant.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You have a hard time remembering what the hell you said or just like going into something totally different.

No one fixes plumbing, electricity, doors and windows every single day at their house. Don't be ridiculous.

[Dinklex3]

No. I do not think it's anyone's "duty" to cook for anyone unless they are an employee.

If you want a wife to cook for you, then that's a discussion you have together and agree upon together.

I want my future husband to cook and clean, but I would never say, imply, or think it was his duty.

When I cook for my partner I do it out of love, when I want to. I'd hope he'd never think it was my "duty".

[Topaz1979]

Yes I was raised like that so I can cook amongst other things so if I do get married I’ll be doing that cooking is therapeutic for me. But I’m not saying I want a husband who sits all day and expects me to do everything he also needs to help me and get busy, there so much to do and so little time! 🌺🐝

[Lliam]

I'm the same as you. But I don't think it's her duty. I just think it's really nice. I'll balance things out by cooking once in a while and doing other chores.

My wife would find it hard to get much cooking done, though, it she looked and dressed like the gal in the photos. 😍😛🤣

[ObscuredBeyond]

Both should want to learn how to cook, and take turns accordingly. The wife should want to be good at it. After all: she can easily take care of herself that day, even if he's out of town. But if for whatever reason he's got something special going on, and he knows how to cook / grill, then she can take a night off, and enjoy his cooking for a change.

I really don't know why this is so hard.

[OneManOnly01]

That depends.

- If the man works and earns money but the woman doesn’t then yeah it’s her responsibility.

- If they both work then both of’em should do it together.

- If the woman works and the man doesn’t, then it’s the man’s responsibility.

[AviatorTom]

It's not anyone's duty to cook. It's up to the family to determine what the best arrangement is. Sometimes, it IS the wife that cooks, other times it's the husband. There's no hard and fast rule, especially if both husband and wife have careers.

[Alwayreckles93]

I'm old fashioned I love to cook for my boyfriend. We are in a courtship now. And I stop at his job to drop off his lunch. I hate how my generation turn out it's no wonder why now a days divorce are so common.

[Th3ft]

I believe that it is the wife’s duty to love on her man. If cooking is one of the ways she can do that then awesome! Vise versa if the man is as good of a cook or better then I believe that it is his duty to love on his wife and shake the looking responsibilities.

[andreasderjuengere]

Knowing how to cook, and cooking is mainly a survival duty - unless one is a consumerist.

We take turns here; both of us have own ''special'' food skills and we put them together to enjoy a wider variety.

Today is my turn. I'm not in the mood but I also have no problem with it.

[Pot8o]

No. I think that is ridiculous. I mean, if the guy is earning all the money, then it's fair enough to me. It's less of a job to cook a meal than to work for many hours every day

[clampfan101]

It the couple’s duty to work together. The wife cooking is simply a traditional way of doing their part in helping, just as it’s traditional for the husband to be the one with a job. These are perfectly acceptable, but not their duty. All that matters is them both equally pulling their weight in the relationship.

[Topaz1979]

Well said!

[clampfan101]

@Topaz1979 Thanks.

[HighValue]

Unless she works a full time job like he does then yes. Whoever works less for employment should be doing more at home, otherwise they are being unfair and being a bad partner.

[Gentleman900]

Yes, Biblically. My wife and I do it on schedule. My wife is a teacher and so am I. Sometimes I cook because she is tired or dealing with the kids I take that load of her. Because you know everything thing is "Mommy, mommy, mommy!" 😂. When she cooks I do the dishes. When I cook she does the dishes. It's all about teamwork.

[HaveNoName]

I think "duty" is a wrong word and THAT is what hets people's fise going.

It is just a piece of the recipe of a healthy married and family life. doesn't mean guy should not know how to cook or he should not help. It is just like kids raised at day care and late school when both parents worked all day just to maximize their income or the mom giving more weight to career at expense of her attention to the kids. Some responsibilities are essential.

[sage2021]

I was married to a cook stationed on a ship for the U. S. Navy, yet I cooked all our meals everyday after I got home from work. Hmmm...

[Kori1236]

Not her duty. I consider it a huge failure if a man can’t cook. That’s a basic skill to survive. If I were with a man that expected me to do all the cooking while he either won’t or can’t, we’ll let’s just say we don’t stay together.

[LazerBean]

It depends on the relationship. If you're in a trad relationship then it's generally going to be the woman's chore. If you're in a modern relationship where both people work, then it's going to be different.

[Anonymous]

Duty? No. Every adult should be able to cook, do laundry, clean etc.

Now if she wants to , if she feels it incumbent on her as her genders role that's fine.

I don't expect her to clean anymore than I think she should expect me to be able to repair a car. I'm no mechanic, but i still try.

[dustybiker]

Whoever gets to whatever in my home does it. That’s a relationship, a family. That’s sharing a home. If someone starts a meal everyone filters in to help out, and clean up too.

[John_hoover19s]

The duties of a husband and wife are between the husband and wife and what they agree on together. I would not look at it as a duty that already takes away from the desire. You are not obligated to do anything. It is your love for one another to help and serve each other. Does not matter who is doing the cooking or laundry, etc… you are a team.