No.
I find something very interesting in your point of view. You claim this would be a positive gesture and a signature of respect. I agree. However; this only would be a respectful and loving action only if it's done willingly without being pressurized by expectations. When you walk on someone's shoulder with expectations; it becomes indirectly forceful. There won't be any respect in between. If you want to be shown respect and receive good gestures like this; you must allow it to happen automatically without pressing the idea in your mind aggressively. You must receive it as an unexpected love; care; and a special bonus from your partner not as a expected chore to be done or she's been disrespectful. Women are not men's maid.
Relationship is about communication; understanding and agreement. I don't believe women born to cook for their men to show respect. Women are not housemaids. If she is willing to do it. Fine. But expectations are wrong. What gives a man the right to have expectations? a man have a brain and two hands. They can tightened themselves; get up and learn how to cook. How about men cook for their women sometimes in order to perform a nice gesture and show love and respect? there is no difference between women and men here. We should stop categorizing each other. There is no law about what women and men must do. Everyone can do anything they want. Each relationship to their own. Two partners must find an understanding and agreement regarding what they want to participate.
Cooking for each other in a relationship is fun and full of love. But only if it's agreed and occurred willingly without expectations.
Good Luck.
No. Busy woman might not have time or energy. Man is adult and not a little baby that needs to get fed. Adult man shall be responsible for himself and shall be able to cook for himself. She is not his mother and tbh I have no respect for an adult who wants others to fix his plate - like he was 6 years old.
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Alright guys. The old and decrapped ideas about duties and responsibilities in a family are, well, old. Many things are changing in the world 🌎 🙌 thank goodness, but many still believe that women should be the domestic cleaner and cook (🍳🧹🧺🪠🧻🪣) while the man is the sole breadwinner (🍞🔨⚒📉💵) in a family.
I say...
HELL NOOOOOOOOOOOOO.
I, as a female have obviously had some of these roles put on me before I could say anything about it, it was more a case of well, deal with it... because I said so. I'm sorry, who came up with this? The problem is not in the who, however, its in the why? Why are these roles placed on women and men in spite of their skillset and the things that they , as an INDIVIDUAL, would want and can achieve in life? I am a rebel in more ways than 1, but I for sure have that question in my mind. But I don't need to answer it because I must live the answer I wish to see in the future. I have been brought up doing the things that I love. Martial arts - won in nationals against boys (18 - 24 years old), loving dirt bikes and anything with an engine, art, music, traveling, fishing, hunting etc. These are all things that I could have naturally not enjoyed, but I do, 1000000000000% and I can't explain it but it is, and thats all the proof anyone should need. So basically my natural course of life has been waaayyyy off the path of the stereotypical 'norm' 🤥 of society. So, naturally, when forced to face these ideas 💡 (bright ideas 🙄) i naturally object. No way do I want to be in a kitchen the rest of my life. I would never wish that upon someone if they have the same drive to be great. It sounds like torture to me. And to be honest, I would rather be single my whole life than to have to live that way with someone who believes its where I'm supposed to be. Imagine being like a man for 1 day in the old stereotypical world. You work hard in the day (like women do nowadays, but anyway, that is ignored by most-) come home, fling their feet up and watch TV. As they are served a hot meal and drink of their choice as the woman is respectfully submitting to her godlike asshat of a husband, (her fault tho for marrying into something she didn't want but anyway) and kissing his feet and praising him, no matter her dreams she is silenced because society has systematically, broken her down since a little girl to just accept this shit smeared hand at life.
Girls are broken down before they even are old enough to know who they are, and what the world is about. Boys are taught not to cry and in order to impress a female they have to have money, muscles, ego, and show off his material offerings. Boys are taught that they are stronger than girls, are superior from birth to girls, they have the right to carry on the family name, they must be respected and feared, they have the right to catchall, shame, and abuse any woman because they are weak and are only made for submitting to the every flick of their finger. Men, however are much more, real men are kind, loving, respectful, emotional (secure enough in their masculinity and who they are as an individual to cry when they need to, to be strong enough to express very real emotions derived from extreme moments that life throws at you in a human way). They are the ones that never take you at face value, they see a person and then its your duty from there on out to show them who you are as a woman, a man, and an INDIVIDUAL human who is capable of the things that you make yourself to be capable of. Not all men are stronger than women, not all woman are more feminine than men, not all men are more masculine than women. Understand one thing. Men and women, we need eachother, we function best in a symbiotic environment with equal roles between us, and respect both ways as necessary. Understand this, masculinity is not what makes a man, and femininity is not what makes a woman, both are energy of a kind that we each possess within ourselves. Its your duty to be who you want. 😊
Fuck no stereotypes are meant to be broken I cook and I won’t ever say to a woman you belong in the kitchen or cleaning because why do we think a girl should have to do all this bullshit for us we should be returning the favor and doing this stuff for them because A. They have to give birth to a child B. Women aren’t objects you don’t own them and they deserve the same respect that we get C. They put up with all our shit and stay by us and I’ll stay by my girlfriend no matter what
Also I can cook clean and do laundry all by myself so the only way I’d let my girlfriend cook for me is if she offered I’m not going to tell her to make me breakfast instead I’d make breakfast for her because i love her
I think cooking is a basic necessity everyone should know how to do, i mean, you can't just eat McDonald's and ramen your whole life. But it is not one specific genders job, within a relationship the couple should alternate between who cooks each night, if she wants to do something nice and cook on one of his nights then im sure it would be appreciated but should never be expected of her.
No not necessarily. I think in a serious, especially a marriage relationship, care of the home needs to have a plan behind it. My sister and her husband both cook. (He's of Italian extraction and is a great chef). I hope I find a partner with some cooking skills, and I hope to develop some myself. We'll see what happens though.
I can cook very well and I cook and put together my husband's plate for him. He appreciates it, but he doesn't expect it, and that type of attitude is what makes me want to do it, and continue to do it. It's all about the attitude the man has toward the matter for me.
I like cook, i would do it and often do it.
But a woman should not be expected to cook for her man, like a man should not be expected to pay the bills. Couple should put same effort for their relationship. If they can.
I don't agree that a woman should be expected to cook for her man. I only believe she should be able to cook for herself as it should be for everyone. Shame it is a skill a lot of people don't have and really should be one of the fundamental things taught in school which isn't, like doing your taxes and doing laundry. That said though if she is in a relationship then yes she should sometimes cook for him and sometimes he should cook for her, just shows you care about someone.
I think it's nice to cook together, or cook for each other from time to time, but the woman shouldn't be expected to cook for her guy all the time. I consider it kind of a special occassion when I make a nice meal for a guy.
I am old school so you know what my answer will be. She will be the mother of the kids and she needs to feed them so. Works for me to expect a man to cook for me too if he is a single bachelor how is he going to feed himself and care for me when I am sick?
Everyone should know how to cook.
And okay i agree with the 'nice gesture and giving him respect' part but she's not obliged to cook for her bf/husband and serve it. It should not be expected from her.
She shouldn't really be *expected* to anymore than he should be expected to occasionally cook for her, but I do believe a better woman will have no shame in fixing her guy some food every once in a while, or even on the regular.
No i think it should be 50/50. What if he has a day off, and i finish late? Am I still expected to come home at 9pm and cook a full meal for him while he is sleeping on the couch? Hell no.
My man has to be able to look after himself
No. It's nice to cook for your partner, but it goes for men as well lol. I can't cook but my guy best friend is an expert cook. My mom cooks in our house, but when she is sick dad does it. It's completely fine.
Both the man and the woman should cook.
by the way what do you mean by not knowing how to cook?
Not knowing how to do complicated dishes, or not being able to make pastas?
Nah. Everyone should know how to cook. It’s not a woman specific job.
really? people still think about this? no one should be dependent on others, they should compromise like cook in alternate day or if someone is tired help them or cook themselves instead it's all about having a responsiblity and caring for each other
Wtf no I don't mind it but if I work late I know he can make food for himself or well have leftovers or some shit I don't know but women shouldn't have to
Yes.
Women should know how to cook.
Same as men, who also should know how to cook!
Because every decent grownup human being should be able to take care for himself and not rely on someone else.
Everyone should be expected to perform basic survival skills.
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