What are your views on the husband being the cook in the household?

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I wouldn't be forced into it. I like cooking and enjoy making food for my sweetheart. So many seem to think men are effeminate if they cook at home. In my culture men are just as likely if not more likely to cook in the kitchen than the woman traditionally speaking.

Lorewolf447 · Accepted Answer

If men are effeminate for cooking at home, then what does that say about some of the top chiefs of the world who are men? Does that mean they are less of a man because they cook for a living and also at home? I'd be willing to be most if not all of the married ones are the main cooks for their household. So not, I do not think a man is effeminate for knowing how to cook or cooking at home.

In fact I'm learning how to cook because, in order of importance: 3. I'm a creative person, 2. I like the activity and ability to do so and 1. I like the idea of being able to cook something for the one's I love and care for.

In conclusion, I think husbands who cook in the household can be creative and passionate people who enjoy their craft. And if anyone says they are less of a man for honing a very useful and creative skill... well then, who is more the fool? Us with a passion to learn such an art for ourselves and our loved ones, or the naysayers for their rigidity and ignorance?

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I enjoy cooking and don't care if anyone else thinks it is effeminate. I also do carpentry, plumbing, electrical work, painting, roofing, and some automotive repairs.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

I think it's great if he loves to cook...
My husband was the one who did most of the cooking in our house.. Not because I couldn't or wouldn't, but because he loved to cook, and once he couldn't work anymore, I think it still gave him a sense of purpose. When he got too sick to cook, then I became the primary cook...

EmmaMary · Accepted Answer

As I've just mentioned on another question, although I do consider myself to be an above average cook/bakery, my husband totally surpasses me with his amazing adventurous and creative skills in the kitchen.

There's times when I feel so frustrated and totally embarrassed.

Shizunk · Answer

A man doesn't need to learn to cook as much as a woman does in traditional family settings, but in my view cooking is a general human skill everyone should have. If a man happens to have more fun doing it, no reason to not utilize that fact. If not, he should be able to still perform the task adequately when his wife is not present, too busy with something else, or if it's simply his turn because both think its a chore, there are no children and both work. In that case there is no excuse.
Context matters, but every man should be at least able if not exactly happy to do it.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

I love to cook, I do so i became a chef. I really don't give a fuck about what people think about me when it comes to cooking and baking but here is a thought about middle aged men that don't/can't cook!! Oh wow how manly you are, oh wow 😊 and you can't cook? Oh wow your manly man juice is dripping every where. The food in the photos looks great 👌. Keep on cooking 👨‍🍳

Floppy2112 · Answer

Shit, I was the housekeeper. My ex-wife didn't do shit. She did the laundry, sometimes. I cooked, cleaned the house and did the majority of the laundry.
We had a deal when it came to cooking, if she cooked I cleaned. If I cooked, I cleaned. So I did most of the cooking, since the shitty part is the cleaning.
The cooking I didn't mind so much, I am a good cook and I like to cook.

loves2learn · Answer

I LOVE IT! I’m so glad he’s taken that on. We used to share the duties but since the kids were born and since my man is a natural in the kitchen, it’s the best!

LookoutBelow · Answer

I mean, the restaurant business is dominated by men. My grandfather did the majority of the cooking and he was as manly as they get. I learned most of my cooking from him. I've never considered a man effeminate for having a valuable skill. If anything it's incredibly sexy.

Anonymous · Answer

I would absolutely love a guy who cooks. Seriously, I see Mums looking so worn out and sad all the time because of the dynamics at home. Even my Mom cooks or feels compelled to cook for everyone and Dad is just pulling the I'm tired from work excuse when she works just as hard as him. I love them both but it made me realise I want a man who is involved in domestic affairs in the home, both cooking and housework. I will do my part as well. It's not a one way street. I would definitely will be turned off by a guy who does not cook/get involved with housework chores. Guys who cook at home are attractive to me because they are rare to find in my society. I'm Singaporean and cooking is definitely a Mom thing tragically.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s awesome that there are actually men who don’t expect women to do all the cooking (and cleaning). That’s not the case in my upbringing sadly... I think it shows care to your wife/girlfriend and is very helpful around the house and to the family in general. 👍👏

Corina_J · Answer

I prefer if a man does the cooking. I'm really short and it's difficult for me to reach things, and using a step stool is dangerous for me cuz of balance issues.

I mean, don't get me wrong, I know how to cook and am able to follow recipes etc, and will on occasion rustle something up.

So yeah, if a guy likes to work in the kitchen and prefers to do the cooking, that's an A in my book!😊

Diodoro · Answer

Personally, I like cooking. I started to learn in part because I didn't want to have to rely on another person for me to eat well. That said, every girlfriend I've had has known how to cook lol.

So I'll cook some meals because I want to, but if someone was cooking majority of the time it was them. But every girl has known if I'm cooking they're going to love it. My pasta crushes

LikeALog · Answer

We both cook. She's better at German and Polish dishes. I'm better at Italian and desserts. For typical American fare, one of us is better cooking a particular dish. I do the cooking when we go camping.

MrOracle · Answer

I cook a couple of meals a week and mostly always have. I also do nearly all of the grilling, and there's a LOT of grilling going on.

in my opinion, cooking is something ALL adults should be able to do. You don't need to be some 5-star chef or anything, but if you can't make a dozen different dinner meals, then you probably should spend some time learning to cook. It's an invaluable skill that you really don't want to be without.

Wester1967 · Answer

Women are so lazy anymore these days. I can't even remember the last time I met a woman who was a good cook. It's like girls feel so oppressed and exploited by society if they cook. Sure. I will cook. Because I don't want burnt instant macaroni every night for three weeks. Thank you very much

Not_Average · Answer

My dad loves to cook and actually owned a restaurant at a certain point. So I grew up with him cooking. In my household, my wife cooks. Cooking while being a necessity is an act of nurturing. Women tend to be more nurturing than men, so women usually end up cooking. Hence why the gender role stereotype exist.

Shygirl80s · Answer

I husband is excellent cook. He has his favorites he’s very good at making, and genuinely enjoys grilling and smoking. He can be a little bit slower than me, but he also cleans up as he goes which is kind of nice. One family favorite is homemade pot pies

lightbulb27 · Answer

I'm the primary cook for the family. as to whether it's effeminent... who cares. I enjoy cooking and trying new things. I just made fried plantains in butter, wonderful!

hahahmm · Answer

It's not that a man is effeminate for cooking. It's that he's probably being a sucker if he does all of the cooking, for reasons I've explained in multiple MyTakes about feminists and the games they play to get more out of a relationship than they give.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Would love it, but is this one of those he cooks and I clean? My parents do that rule, whoever cooks doesn't have to clean up.

KrisPW · Answer

We both cook the things we're good at. He's better at the poppy sizzly stuff, I'm usually better with the baking stuff.

Loveydove · Answer

I wouldn’t mind it at all. Though I wouldn’t want that to be a thing all the time because i love to coo. I would be a little jealous after a while.

bsann2015 · Answer

I like cooking and I'm good at it and married someone that I am now separated from but I had to teach her to cook and she never did learn very well so most times I've done almost all the cooking.
So I guess to me it would be pretty much normal but it's supposed to be a partnership half and half

InferiorElegy · Answer

My grandpa always use to say, being a good cook would get even an ugly guy a girlfriend, my grandma always said that I was an exception to that because I was too ugly for a girl. Either way cooking is an essential skill.

cerberusdoll · Answer

I love my man cooking for me, because of my health issues I normally can’t cook for myself, so I love it when he helps me out by making dinner or lunch. Makes me feel like he’s taking good care of me 🥰

all_hayl · Answer

Man, who gives a sh** what people think. If you enjoy it and it does not get in the way of your other responsibilities as a husband or family man, then have at it! It’s a form of hobby - The fruits of which others get to enjoy as well. Cheers!

jshm2 · Answer

Da fuck?

Most chefs and TV cooks are male - not female.

What you're alluding to old fashioned misogyny, not actual working household makeup..

But more importantly, that shit you drummed up surely isn't what you're "proud" of cooking is it? You should be banned from cooking, if it is.

XXblack88 · Answer

Baking is the only thing I'm good as far as cooking go. So no I wouldn't mind. Why taking something way if he enjoys doing it

DonkeyDan · Answer

I was very much the cook I'm my marriage, ex wife barely knew where the kitchen was lol

DizzyDesii · Answer

I would prefer he cook. I dont mind making the sides but i’ll leave the meats up to him

TexasRed95 · Answer

Your cooking skill has nothing to do with your sex. Just look at Gordon Ramsay. I my dad and mom split the cooking pretty evenly to not get tired of it back when they were still together.

bannacookies · Answer

That would be good. I'm great at baking but cooking... eh. I basically eat protein bars, sandwiches, fruit & vegetables all the time. Lol That's my "cooking".

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I don't know how to cook but if a man cooks that doesn't mean that he's less than a man... Some guys cooks delicious meals and teaches their wives how to cook...

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing wrong at all with the husband cooking. I do a lot of the cooking in my marriage and I actually know more men who can cook well than women these days. It seems women have decided it is somehow demeaning for them to cook and a lot of mothers have just not taught their daughters to cook anymore. My wife is learning and getting better, but she regrets that her mother didn't teach her more.

Commander_Red · Answer

In my family, men were usually the cooks. Hope I can marry someone who can cook too. I can cook sometimes, but I wouldn't call myself good at it.

kyleelyn199723 · Answer

My boyfriend is the cook , and I don’t mind it as he doesn’t because he would rather eat a meal he knows is going to be good lol I can’t really compare since he was a chef for 10 years

TheorionMage · Answer

My son does so freely... he's apprenticed as a commercial Chef.  I myself, CAN cook but am apathetic especially if just cooking for myself~ The air fryer and microwave are my friends!

Phoenix98 · Answer

Personally I think whoever is the better cook and or who enjoys it more should be the one to do most of the cooking.

But I also don't mind splitting that task either since I'm not half bad in the kitchen and I do enjoy it to.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

Whoever the better cook is, should do the cooking, or whatever that couple decide to do before they get married, or adjust as circumstances change? It’s fine! Some of the best chefs on earth are men!

TrueConfection · Answer

My dad is the cook in his house. He's an awesome cook. Many men enjoy cooking. There's nothing masculine or feminine about cooking. We all have to eat.

TheBMG · Answer

When I first got married I did 90% of the cooking. As it marriage progressed I started doing less and less. I probably cook 30% of the time. I’m ok with cooking. It’s just been helpful with the fact that she’s home more than I am that she has picked up on the cooking. I’m always willing to help out or just cook if needed.

bolverk · Answer

Don't have a problem with it, I grew up in a household where my Father was just as likely to be cooking as my Mam, I started cooking at my Grandma's knee, I enjoy cooking and rarely 'order in' as i can rustle up something faster than a take-away can deliver.

LittleMama3 · Answer

My husband is the chef in our house. He's an awesome cook and a bad ass, tough guy, construction worker. It's not effeminate to cook. I'm the better baker, he's better at main courses.

AviatorTom · Answer

Ideally, both share cooking duties. Sometimes, though, one is a much better cook than the other. I know several couples where the guy does most of the cooking.

exitseven · Answer

I see nothing wrong with it. I never had much interest in cooking. I am a very picky eater and think that a piece of meat and a potato is fine cuisine.

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

My partner and I take turns cooking. I cook during the week he cooks on weekends. When he works at home he cooks every other day. It's how it works for us.

ShaTTeredMasterpeace · Answer

That wouldn't bother me. I love a guy that can cook. And I think cooking together would be a lot of fun.

Sam2021 · Answer

Sure no problem cook me a delicious meal every day. FEED ME lol

cuzimbored21 · Answer

I wouldn't care I love to cook and try new recipes if I have the time. I already know lots of recipes for curry, fish, chow mein, steak, wings, salads and bruschetta and fettine recipes from my Italian mom. I hope my future wife will be a good cook too though.

DarkCarousel · Answer

That all sounds delicious. I don’t mind sharing the cooking duties with my husband. Taking turns is great.

Oigit · Answer

I'm all for it. In general couples should do what works for them and tell everyone else to butt out of their relationship.

mobiusforniner · Answer

A real man can do anything. My wife is a stay at home mom. I work a full time career. I cook every night. And I cook like a badass.

TwinkleLily5 · Answer

I love when my man cooks for me. Men are usually good cooks!

sunshineglow · Answer

Better than that a woman cooks. When women cook many feel like victims and annoyed with it

ManOnFire · Answer

I'm a pretty damn good cook so I probably wouldn't mind.

libsaretards · Answer

I have no problem with it, except for the fact I'm a terrible cook. That is the only domestic chore I suck at.

Anonymous · Answer

Growing up, my dad did most of the cooking in our house. He got home from work in the afternoon, whereas my mom wouldn't get home until after 6pm. He also likes to cook, so it worked out.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

My husband is the cook in our house. I can barely make a hellofresh meal lol

Slartybartfast · Answer

I did all the cooking and housework when I was married. I also paid all the bills.  Basically she did nothing.  . And people ask why I never dated again after my divorce at 30.

Celtero · Answer

Kinda leaves me wondering... "Soo... what do women bring to the relationship again? Ah yes, it's 2021 and relationships are just two people being roommates and screwing once in a while.

ikEVERYTHING · Answer

If he really enjoys it them sure, if when he comes home from work or whenever he just feels like it and has some free time there shouldn't be anything wrong.

Anonymous · Answer

I am very good at cooking and baking and doing it as a hobby and need for years. So by now I have learnt to make and bake countless recipies from all over the world. Here's my personal experience , girls at my age find the idea of a guy like it good but actually find the guy dull and boring and homly. Only older women or who are ready for marrige or already married women who are tired of cooking everyday , find it actually exciting... Women do want a husband that can cook but not a boyfriend...

Baredog69 · Answer

It's cook or starve she can't cook. It's easier to get brownie points than eat crappy food and have to lie about it.

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