What are the traits that make a woman a good wife?

[Anonymous]

What are the traits that makes a woman a good wife?

Hello everyone, I would like to ask for advice. So dating hasn’t been going the best. A lot of my friends are married or getting married, a couple are even getting divorced at this point. Everyone keeps telling me to work on myself and develop traits that would make me a good wife one day. I know what they mean by working on myself.

But what are these traits that would make me a good wife one day? And how do I go about developing them?

I am curious as to how women would answer this vs. men so I will post the exact same thing in the women’s group and men’s group. Since I know men might give advice based on what they hope for in a wife, while women might post advice based on what works for them as wives.

[WonderingManII]

I found this list on this website:

https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/qualities-of-a-good-wife/

1. Caring and compassionate
2. Sensitive of the little things
3. She spends quality time with her husband
4. Encourages her husband
5. Respects her husband
6. She puts her family first
7. Husband’s best friend and lover
8. A good problem-solver
9. Treasures teamwork
10. Doesn’t infringe on her husband’s personal space
11. She is romantic
12. She avoids pretense
13. Communicates effectively
14. She brings out the best in her husband
15. She gives a listening ear
16. Celebrates her husband’s achievement
17. She is honest
18. Creative in bed
19. Her spiritual life is top-notch
20. She remains positive for her husband and home
21. She believes in equality
22. She is generous
23. She maintains independence
24. She is adaptable and open-minded
25. She demonstrates forgiveness and resilience
26. She has a good sense of humor
27. She’s forgiving
28. Picks the right fights
29. Steps up the romance
30. Shows an interest in his interests

[TonyMetal___86]

Honest, faithful, down to earth, loving, caring and funny!

[TonyMetal___86]

Thankf for the mho

[Summeroflove]

A woman that many men are wanting but will never get. Same as how many women will never get the right kind of husband. Let me be perfectly honest the perfect wife (or husband) doesn’t exist as well as the fact that’s different for everyone. I believe in soulmates… Does everyone get that type of marriage? No I unfortunately. But just remember that you are someone’s perfect someone. Only if you stay true to yourself and keep morals as well as values and integrity.

She’s not someone you’re going to easily sleep with. She’s not someone you can buy with money or other things. She’s someone who has high but reasonable standards. She’s not going to throw her lovr away on someone she’s just not that into she wants to invest in someone she loves and cares deeply for. She’s loyal. She’s honest even if the truth hurts but isn’t a bitch. She’s there through thick and think the thought of cheating repulses her. At the same time she won’t tolerate bullshit. You cheat or abuse her she leaves. There is no second chances.

She understands you’re not perfect and neither is she. We all have our moments she can forgive a lot of things. But there are lines that once you cross she will leave. It will hurt her deeply but she won’t stay in that type of relationship or waste her love on someone undeserving

[Chazmatazz269]

I find it interesting that people are telling you to work on yourself. I’ve never seen that. We tell men to be better all the time, but not women. Curious.
There are a few traits that are objectively desirable for men, loyalty, respect and appreciation are at the top of the list. How you demonstrate those traits is what separates you from other women. If you haven’t already, i recommend reading “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. You should be aware of how you tend to love and how your partner tends to feel loved. It’s just a starting point though. You have to work out between you what works best. It’s important that you choose ways that suit you and your value system. Otherwise you will simply grow to resent having to behave a certain way for your significant other. Open and honest communication is the foundation of all relationships. That’s how trust is built and maintained, and how resentments are mitigated. It’s often too easy to forget that also means providing a safe space for your partner to be open and honest with you, being a good listener. That’s very difficult for a lot of people who think they are good listeners but they are only good listeners when they like what they’re hearing.

[BCRanger10]

The best way to develop the traits that would make you a good wife is to know the traits that you want in a husband and tailor yourself to that. That's just a basic outline you'll need to look at because there could be a thousand different men that have those traits, so of course you'll have to fine-tune yourself even more.

In general though, be kind, compassionate, loyal, and supportive. Yes, men have egos, but here's a hot take: Why is that a bad thing? Men are the builders, providers, and protectors of society. We're driven by accomplishment and achievement. We like the grind, the struggle, the competition that results in success. We also want to give ourselves to something. Things like duty and honor resound in a man's heart (I have a point with all this, I promise). To achieve something, like a promotion or status, or to complete a mission, is one thing. Winning Fair Lady's heart and mind though is the greatest accomplishment.

The point I'm making is that it might sound simplistic, but the traits I listed above are the key. A man wants a woman who, knowing that she has to be more selective, chose him over other suitors. Likewise, he had many more options, but he chose her. That being so, yes, it is an ego boost for a man to come home to a beautiful woman who is, as modern women call it, "barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen" and is giving him the life he wants. And she wants it with him. You'll find a lot of men who have that and will look at it and say "this is much more than I deserve."

Be humble too. You're not a goddess, a queen, a princess or anything like that and a man does not owe it to you to ask you on a date or to marry you, so don't act like it. Realize that both you and your prospective husband each have flaws and shortcomings and that part of marriage is to help each other grow in those areas. Don't expect constant excitement.

Work on being physically attractive. True, it's not everything and there's a lot more that goes into sustaining a marriage long-term (and yes, beauty does fade over time), but it is nevertheless a significant component.

I know I wrote a lot, but I could on about stuff like this for hours. I hope it's helpful.

[RingOfFire]

I'm going to go out on a limb and say that I don't agree with the advice you've been given. You don't need to work on yourself you just need to be yourself.

I think some people try so hard that they are unable to let their true self shine through. And to have a successful relationship you both have to know each other, know who you really are, not what you are trying hard to be.

That is the the most essential trait whether you are a husband or a wife.

If you're not already doing so, the one thing you might want to add to your mix is more opportunities to meet people. Consider joining social groups or doing volunteer work, especially where you might be around the kind of people you would like to meet.

In my view it's more important to be yourself than to try to transform yourself into something else. That's the basis for a solid relationship.

The more opportunities you have to find the right person the more likely you are for it to happen. And in the meantime just be content with who you are and realize that even though you feel the pressure of those around you that it's your life and the objective is to make it a happy one whether you are alone or in a relationship.

[Nikki1989]

Ultimately, a “good wife” is someone who is a committed, loving, respectful, and supportive partner who actively contributes to the well-being and happiness of the marriage.

However, what a man wants from a wife is subject to change at any moment.

[Anonymous]

Although men generally say that loyal, loving, moral, caring, compassionate, good women are wife material, at the end of the day they prefer women with beautiful looks as wife material. If you have a beautiful appearance, it means you are ideal wife material.

[LazerBean]

Being loving, supportive, loyal, a considerate of ones spouse makes a person a good spouse. Good luck!

[BonzoInBitburg]

This

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Just humane traits, I wish you good luck on the path of autonomy & emancipation, you're going to need it given how you describe your surroundings lol

[HusamRocks]

Understanding, supportive, loyal, secrets keeper, knowing when to stop talking, containment, taking care of herself and her husband and their house, patience, responsible

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

Chastity, modesty, loyalty, intelligence, kindness.

Hopefully physically attractive as well.

Did someone say something implying you're not "wife material"?

[Tamera952]

One that has A-Level blowjob skills, and encourages porn watching.

[Shiprex]

Loyalty and respect. Being close and not taking yourself seriously as well as committed to the relationship and being willing to adapt.

[Kokishin]

Advice I have receive translate to "Pick your battles." A man is more attached when a woman does not fight over everything. It is best to let some small things away.

[andreasderjuengere]

She's a match (not a copy) to the man she's with.

Not less. Not more.

[SotiCoto]

Glasses, a big butt, a powerful voice, and a seething hatred for humanity.

[Anonymous]

debt free virgins with maternal instincts, domestic skills and loves God

[Vegasrunner]

Sex Sandwiches and Silence, it's not that difficult.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Fears God.
Submits to her man.
Gives amazing sex.
Is helpful.
She smart.
Is honest.

[Anonymous]

Nothing. Men will still cheat on you no matter how good of a wife you are.

[LazerBean]

Cheating has nothing to do with gender. Trashy people cheat no matter how good their spouse is, so just don't date a trashy person. There are plenty of men who do not cheat.

[Anonymous]

- Dominant

- Loyal and caring

- Understanding, empathetic and compassionate

[Anonymous]

When she jumps off a damn bridge so i never have to look at her again you demi

[MrChinaski]

Just be genuine.

[exitseven]

It just comes down to basic respect and honesty.

[Staximus]

You know, all the usual stuff

[MasterKS]

open sex marriage is best.