Do you think people who live across oceans but are still technically married likely don't have a good marriage?

[Anonymous]

There is this one woman I want to pursue, but I can't. She is an important contact for me for work, and I can't risk alienating her, but at an event I invited her to (she is a TV producer), she told me "I think my husband is quite happy that I'm over here." She doesn't wear her wedding ring, has lived here 2 1/2 years, and seems to want to stay as long as she is able to. She is also older than I know is realistic for me long-term, but mostly I am not going to ask her out for work reasons. If she was a less important contact, but she is one of my most important ones.

This other one I met at an event, also she did not wear her wedding ring, but she told me just her husband can't get a visa. She also doesn't seem so keen on leaving... They're both educated and from Germany & Poland, so it's not like they were fleeing a horrifically bad situation, but to be content for YEARS with being apart from a person you're married to, and not even wearing your ring, etc.. especially the first one, I don't get the impression this is much of a marriage now.

[jennifer_bloom]

In high school I used to socialize with a guy whose father had been separated from his mother, both came from another country to Canada, and then the mother decided she would earn more money in her home country and returned back home, and her son was raised by the father in Canada. I was told her husband did not legally consent to a divorce from her because even though the mother wanted to terminate their connection, he still loved her and did not want to face jealousy if she married somebody else. So as far as I know, both the man and woman remained functionally single, because the man did not approve of a divorce.

[Anonymous]

There's a big probability that one will cheat. They might still be happy, just missing the intimacy can cause a bad choice. I think it also depends on how long they are apparent. My ex fiance and I were apart for about 5 or 6 months. I stayed loyal despite men hitting on me (we are both good looking). But when I went to visit him I found a women's black panties in his closet. He got drunk one night and slept with some female. So I will not be in a relationship with distance again. My man's "toy" is MINE and mine ONLY. Only I get to play with it. I don't share!

[Asker]

Who would keep a pair of dirty panties in their closet? Nasty.

[Opinion Owner]

He hit it between his folded pants and forgot about it. I was putting away laundry and found it.

[Asker]

so what are you doing now that you’re not with him?

[Opinion Owner]

I moved on. Met someone new. Got married. And have real sex instead of phone sex.

[Asker]

where did you meet them? i never get that lucky

[Opinion Owner]

Cheater through family. Husband through my friend's friend's girlfriend at a BBQ. She instantly liked me and insisted that me and him go on a date. We first did a video call and then both agreed to meet.

[Asker]

no one ever sets me up like that.

[exitseven]

I had along distance relationship for 4 years. I was miserable the whole time. I could never be married to somebody long distance.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Anonymous]

The woman i love is going to be traveling across the ocean soon to Australia i wish i could go with her but i can't

[beenherebefore]

My dad used to live abroad for a few years when I was a toddler. This was in the 90s where people didn't have any other form of contact besides writing letters of phone calls with loads of interference. I don't know how my parents did it but more than 30 years later they're still happily together. Strangely nowadays is much easier for people to stay in touch with each other but I don't see any type of LDR last.

[Twalli]

I don't think so Eric Idle from Monty Python is married (has been since 1981) to a woman who lives in the US, while he lives in the UK. They are still married, and being separate for long periods of time actually works for them.

[Asker]

Wikipedia gives the impression that he’s lived in the US for decades. Maybe they did that at the beginning? But it seems like not for a long time.

Well, hope he enjoys it because he seems very convinced that there’s nothing after he dies.

[Twalli]

He said that the keybyknhus gappy marriage is sleeping in different countries

[Nikki1989]

I can't see anything good in that arrangement.

[MikeTheBartender]

Sounds like you are being scammed. Cut her off.

[Staximus]

My coworker has a wife in the Philippines who he hasn't seen for about 3 years. I can't imagine being in that sort of marriage

[Kelly6]

They could have good marriage but bad finance