Should a man or woman stay in a marriage when they are getting disrespected, and their spouse doesn't see anything wrong with it?

[worldscolide]

First I gotta preface this, this is not happening to me, my wife and I are fine. This is purely a question I'm curious about.

For some additional details, a friend of mine just finished his divorce. This situation was something that made my wife and I reflect on our own marriage.

Basically the couple was on vacation with their friends. They were all at a beach. His wife found an attractive guy, spent three hours with him, and the item that broke the camel's back was that she asked him to put sun screen on her back. He went up to her and ajsed her to stop, a
That he would do it.. Instead of agreeing, she mocked him, and called him insecure. She said "if you have a problem with it, leave" so that's what he did, he left, flew home, separates their finances, and moved out before she got home. She repeatedly texted and called him. The only people he responded to was his friends. Eventually when she got back she was all apologies and crocodile tears.. He just didn't care, he told her straight up that he wasn't going to be married to someone who disrespected him.

As of now the divorce is finalized. My wife and I both agree that neither of us would tolerate disrespect like that.

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6 mo

You know there is a reason i remove EZ What ever the fuck her name is, comments from my questions. She always takes the side of the person who disrespects people, almost always the side of women as if they can never do any wrong, And you always push to the extreme end of things rather than taking things as they are. Additionally i think she has histrionic personality disorder.. So now your comment is gone, and you are now blocked.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

If I had to guess there was buildup. I think he did the right thing.

First of all, I think most women understand the concept of how bad it is for everyone to disrespect her own man. You're belittling the person for whom you're supposed to be their main source of validation, your lowering the status of someone who's value and ability to provide to you is directly tied to that and I could go on but right there what does that say?

That she feels like he has almost nothing to offer her. That she doesn't need to care about her reputation around him because she already thinks she's better than him or anyone who would want to be around him.

It probably would have gotten much worse if he didn't act. I think it was wise to leave before she could manipulate him.

[worldscolide]

I agree. The way i see it, forgiving here is Simp territory.

[sirderpsalot123]

Life is too short for that

[DishLady]

So… what IS disrespect, really? It’s subjective.


Sometimes a mediator is needed to realign things.


What was ok or “no big deal” in our 20s changes in our 30s… 40s… 50s…


We NEED different things and partners expect you to know that (even if they don’t tell you).

[TrueConfection]

in my opinion, that scenario went way past “disrespect”. She let another man put his hands on her body. She was so blatant about it that I suspect it wasn’t the first dozen times she let another man touch her.

[worldscolide]

Yeah there is a piece of shit mod who had my question pulled because I removed her comment suggesting men should just allow them selves to be cucked like that.

[TrueConfection]

I would bet she’d sing a different tune if the roles were reversed.

[worldscolide]

I bet.. I think you may know who it is, though i can't mention the name, she's a militant tranny

[TrueConfection]

I actually don’t 😂

[Bitter_Sweet94]

No one should stay in a marriage where disrespect is treated as normal.

A partnership only works when both people care, listen, and take responsibility.

If someone keeps hurting you and genuinely sees nothing wrong with it, the issue isn’t a “rough patch” it’s a lack of respect.

Love can grow, habits can change, but respect has to be there first.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

He did the right thing. That woman is childish af. No woman in her right mind would hurt and humiliate her husband intentionally, unless he's cuckold. Lol.

[worldscolide]

Apparently that EZ mod thing seems to disagree with me.. She did everything in her power to justify her shit behavior. even going so far as to say im suggesting she not have a goddamn social life.. Such bullshit.

[sage2021]

In almost every opinion I write ✍🏼 on here when it comes to having a good relationship, I always say that you have to have MUTUAL respect for each other.
I guess I'm right about that huh?

[beenherebefore]

Probably not.