How long before you knew you wanted to marry your person?

[Simslover92]

[Twodogs0525]

I was thinking marriage about six months after we started dating. I didn't know how she felt about it, because she never gave any hints about it. I knew she loved me, so I thought she might not be interested in marriage. Then one night, out of nowhere, she asked if I ever thought about marrying her. That was a little over a year after we started dating. 6 months later, we were married. Some might think it was quick but I don't. I honestly can't imagine myself being with anyone else.

[Simslover92]

Aww that's sweet.

[Twodogs0525]

I think it was you that asked a question about "the best day of your life." I said it was the day I got married, even before my daughter's birth. I also said my wife would say our daughter's birth and that I accept that lol

[exitseven]

It really did not take much time. Maybe after about 2 or three months. we had so much in common it was almost scary. We were finishing each others sentences. I dod not even propose to her becuse we both knew how it was gonna turn out.

[ohsheeT]

It's so easy to fall in love now a days because you meet and you like everything about each other but in life two people grow every day and you become closer more tight with each other and I guess we call it love

But what happens if if you take everything aways you start out with nothing and everything was a struggle would you stick it out would he stick it out would you provide for each other would you still be a good fit for him. And him for you would that level of love between you both still be as strong in 6 to 8 months I think if 2 people had to start out they way it would either make you or break you

When you have what you have now and he has what he has. It really doesn't mean much.. because being with someone is way deeper than a piece of paper that says your married

Weather you have life or you don't you have freedom in ways or you don't. How strong are the two people
One of the most beautiful things about marriage is you both have to be on the same page

You both have to want the samethings and you both gave to work at things everyday with almost the same mind set

The bad part is being two people and f don't see eye to eye and you can't work together or one doesn't want to. When we first meet and every thing is new and fresh you have to maintain that level if you don't

• then there will come a time that you get prove to each other who you really are and what you really want and how deep each others love really is.

But to answer your question
For me it's when I ask myself are you ready for this.


Can you handle the pain the heart ache if it doesn't work can you give it everything you have and if something happens can you walk away be OK and start again


And when I can smile a n d say yes I can... there is no such thing as pain anymore once you have gone there and lived it once. Then I can do anything make it we work and be happy. And I also know she has to be honest ask her self the same questions
Because I also know I can't control her she can do anything she wants at anytime.. same with me


So I can say I'm here I'm ready you will get nothing but the best of me I want the same from you if I can't have that then I'm gone . That's when I know I'm ready. Or not

[HawkPerception]

I like the idea of being with them at least 3 years before deciding if I want to marry them or not. Ideally living with them and knowing what it's like sharing a living space with them before taking the plunge

[ABC1x1x]

I had told my girlfriend a story before we were dating about how I would go to visit my mother in Connecticut twice a year (from Philadelpia PA) and I hated all the bridges we had to cross. I would just close my eyes and plan on which of my brothers or sister I was going to save if the bridge collapsed into the river. I completely forgot about it. My mother had gone missing for years but about 9 months into dating she reappeared back in Connecticut. So I was driving north to spend New year's with her amd to introduce my girlfriend and I had to cross the George Washington bridge in NYC. We were stuck for an hour in traffic in the middle of the bridge. I was trying to play it cool. I forgot I told her how much I hated bridges. She must have saw my knuckles white from squeezing the steering wheel so hard. She just said "if the bridge goes down save our kids" thats when I knew. We werent even that serious I thought. I was wrong
We were that serious. We have 3 daughters. I still steer clear of bridges.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

It wasn’t about a specific timeline for me.

It was the moment I realized life felt calmer, not more complicated, with them in it.

When disagreements didn’t feel like threats, just conversations.

When consistency mattered more than excitement.

When I stopped wondering if they’d show up and started trusting that they would.

Marriage became obvious when the relationship felt like a partnership, not a performance.

Not fireworks.

Grounded certainty.

[melanieeeB]

2 years into knowing each other as acquaintances, we started to really hung out with each other, I was sure for myself and told him, but he said he doesn't have any feelings for me and he never will.
We still here and there stayed in contact or had to see each other through mutual friends on birthdays and so on.
And well 5 years later and he asked me to be his girlfriend and now, 2 more years have past, we live together and plan our marriage lol

[Kaneki05]

My limerence say's I know within a month or two but my rational say's after a year, I've had more time to figure out whether I'd realistically stay with them or not.
Though should say in the idea of marriage as I can't get married for real due to legal purposes they'd make my benefits less, and if she has money it would start draining her so it'd be dumb and if she don't have money it'd hurt her benefits too.

[Lliam]

A year.
By then, I liked her personality a lot and knew we had similar tastes, values, lifestyles, and visions for the future. But the clincher was, I was certain that I could trust her completely.
So I proposed a year after we met and we got married a year later.

We've been happily married now for over 29 years, had a LOT of fun, and built a wonderful life together.

[melssvdv]

Like less than a month. My brother had him on Facebook (I have my brother as friend) so I met him via via. Was talking first and then after a week chatting I wanted to meet him. He moved from other continent to here in Ireland and he bought a farm.

[mrmonogamous]

I knew she was the one after a couple of months of dating. I was 1 month away from my 20th birthday, she was 21. We got engaged and moved in together about 9 months later. We were engaged for about a year and a half and were married within days of the 2nd anniversary of our first date. We’ve been together for 39 years, married for 37 years. We’ve for three grown kids and we’re as happy as can be.

[andreasderjuengere]

Well - it never took me long to know why NOT to marry. I did that mistake 1 1/2 times before... until I found that marriage isn't what it promises to be.

[Staximus]

You're not in love you're just infatuated, it's time for you to pump the brakes

[Simslover92]

I'll say this again. I was just asking a question. It has nothing to do with me.

[bddddd]

I have only felt it twice. The first time after two years or so. More recently after two months, but that seems to have collapsed these past weeks.

[dudeinohio]

It was about 13 months when I made that discovery. I was in a car accident and was in the hospital for 3 weeks. She was there everyday. Her dedication was the turning point for me.

[Nikki1989]

I had that feeling the day I met him.

[Spencer10]

Well lets see its been 30 plus years and I still don't know.

[YourExLover69]

Within one year if I know she is the one and we get along well, laugh together have few things in common then she's the would be wife 💕

[Xawyx-2]

It's quite fast for me to know, but it never happened in real life.

[Ariesman81]

Holy shit... slow down!

[Simslover92]

No I was just asking a question. It's not for me personally.

[Ariesman81]

Yeah... ok

[rachel776]

ours was about a year and 3 months

[beenherebefore]

I knew during our first year of dating.

[trumpetplayerforlife]

After 3 months we started talking about marriage

[Shiprex]

7 years and 2 countries and continents.

[whiskeyontherocks]

Simply put never and I’m ok with that