Why It’s Hard to Get Married These Days 💍🚫?

[Yaralıkalp]

Here is a summary of the main reasons why marriage feels like a "mission impossible" in today’s world:
* Economic Burden: Wedding costs, sky-high rents, and furniture prices have reached surreal levels. Starting a marriage buried in debt often kills the romance quickly.
* Rise of Individualism: No one wants to compromise their comfort zone or personal freedom anymore. The "I" has officially overtaken the "We."
* Trust Issues & Social Media: The illusion of endless options (thanks to dating apps) makes loyalty and deep connections much harder to maintain.
* Unrealistic Expectations: "Perfect life" posts on social media lead partners to seek perfection in one another, inevitably resulting in disappointment.
* Career Focus: Especially for the younger generation, personal growth and career goals now take priority over the responsibility of starting a family.
In short: Financial anxieties and shifting social values have turned marriage from a "safe haven" into a "risky investment."

[Miristheiss]

Feminism.

Sexual revolution.

Birth control.

Online dating.

Feminism pushed women to all put off marriage and family to all go to college and working first. They look for a husband at age 23 - 30, not 17-20.

The sex revolution has girls having lots of premarital sex. Marriage is for sex and families. If women do not want families and give away sex starting at 15-17 often after 2 or 3 dates why marry?

Horny young, in love hormone throbbing teens have always wanted sex. BUT, that makes babies. Hence, people married first, started families, grew up. The pill took away the family and sex became only for fun. Why marry if you can stop kids. Also, if a girl has already slept with a bunch of men... marrying her isn't appealing.

No that you just swipe and you do not get to know the people in your communities and girls have 100s of men in their dm's. Endless options, endless attention and validating it disrupts real relationships and makes their standards insane.

[MikeMcMansion]

You are wise beyond your years

[new-person]

Because human mentality has changed. There are little people left who are relationship type of people, meaning, 95% of men and women are only interested in what they want, and getting that. Little people are left that truly understand the meaning of love and value of it. Most people have a mindset, if your not happy then leave. This is because they never truly loved the person only had conditionl love. So when that something gos, gone, runs out they are no longer happy and leave. So meny women are more interested in your wallet then about you. (I love you because you have___). That means you do not love me, you only loved my ____.

How meny people are left that look at the person for who they are and fall in love with them, not because what they have or offer, but because how the person makes them feel, and with that wants to other better themself for the person, or knows what kind of person they want to be that is inspired by the other person. Where the motivation is not getting anything, only making the other person happy? Back in the day all people knew what true love is, and this is why wedding vows are (for richer or poor, better or worse, sickness and health) because back then you only got married to someone you truly loved, not someone who has something you want.

[MikeMcMansion]

It began with a rejection of essential existential philosophy inherent in almost every culture’s religious doctrines.

[MikeMcMansion]

In substitution of making yourself a god/tge center of the universe

[MikeMcMansion]

Now, before someone starts saying some religions like certain Buddhist ones or Mormonism whatever, say you are a god or can be or whatever, there are still rules you must follow and I’ll leave it at that

[SueShe]

What is marriage?

A social nonsense that has a profound religious background and that has no reason to be in a society that is supposedly modern.

It is an artificial way to keep people bound together with a little piece of paper that states that the woman has lost all her freedom and that from now on, must be the slave of her husband and serve him hand and foot, to obey and be at this disposition for whatever demand he has.

Life is so much easier for those that truly want to remain together for more than just a few months. You don't want to be tied anymore? You simply pack your own belongings and leave. That is what it should all be about.

[melssvdv]

"must be the slave of her husband and serve him hand and foot"
Yup, you are one of those feminists trained by your average J3wslop from the mainstream media. Time to touch some grass girl.

[SueShe]

@melssvdv what is J3wslop?

[melssvdv]

The slop generated by the most evil group besides Satan himself whom you cannot criticize

[MikeMcMansion]

Social nonsense? Guys have never been keen on protecting and providing for someone else’s kids. So whats your solution to that first little problem?

[DishLady]

Bc everyone wants too much or don’t take enough time to get to know themselves and the people they’re dating to form connections that are deeply meaningful. Everyone is obsessed with surface level bs like “how do I identify” and that changes the dynamics of what we allow into our lives. But some are greedy and want EVERYTHING and EVERYONE bc they’re bored with themselves and need to be constantly entertained with new people and things.

[ohsheeT]

It not so hard to get married what is hard is from a young girl to the age that your going to get married. You have dreams of how you want it to be

The guy your going to marry has no clue what that even means.. has never ever thought about it

As far as he is concerned he would rather go to the elvis chapel and get married for $29.99. And be done with it

So the best thing to do is sit down and tell him what your dream is. So he understands it and then set a set amount that you're going to spend and go from there. Otherwise it will be a nightmare because you want to do one thing, which is understandable. And you can't understand why so you're gonna have to tell him why? And he's gonna have to like it because it's your day. It's both people's day but he needs to make it about you too. It's your dream he should make a true

[Rangers]

I can give a shorter explanation: People don't know what they want or need in a partner. I'm not even so sure about my own criteria for the kind of dynamic I want.

About the only thing I'm sure of is I want a woman who's happy to watch the Curse of the Black Pearl while in eachothers arms.

The rest, whether I want to basically do all my activities with her and vise versa, whether I want us to be more independent of eachother and live separate lives, when I'd want us to live together, when to bring up my past and condition, I'm lost.

It's okay to be confused as long as we try to fix it with an open mind. Most people won't even admit they suck at dating and keep being with people who are a bad influence on them

Also I think men and women are talking past eachother a lot. Girls refer to horrible men, they probably don't mean me, they meant the guys who shattered their worlds, I take my own insecurity over my perceived failures and think they mean me and I said stuff back.

In other words, men are a mess, women are a mess, and we need eachother more than ever, yet we're drifting apart. Let's fix ourselves and come back, I say

[MikeMcMansion]

It will be the bottom of the ninth and when Hannibal is at the gates before that happens.
War and infrastructure collapse birth rate collapse enslavement chaos and hell on earth, a complete humanity reset

[MikeMcMansion]

Family Court and Divorce Court. If a malicious woman chooses to be just that, malicious upon divorce or separation and y’all had children and/or shared assets the former is pretty much deuces for the dude and still a hefty price in most states for the latter-for the dude.

Now, well y’all usually don’t want kids until your age now (30s) these days but the real kicker is no one is attractive enough and when you want to marry (statistically I mean) we aren’t wealthy+attractive enough to make you happy enough to stay. For you women it seems a good lot of you choose the bad boy that all the other women want and he ends up cheating…or so it seems. Social media has shown us guys that most of us (the vast major of us) just aren’t good enough for y’all. For instance I had to add an inch on my dating profile back in the day to get dates that were simply not catfishing and not overweight-just be confronted with recently divorced (or still married/its complicated) type of women that didn’t intend on long term anyways. After my own divorce nightmare this kind of woke me up to some serious issues with “dating” and relationships. Kind of black pilled me. It takes two to tango though, as they say. I have my own faults.

One more thing here, a lot if guys might be attractive in their 20s but broke, then when they have money in their 30s they might be out of shape due to the process of acquiring such, or due to genetics they just don’t make the cut of being above average looks wise anymore. Its going to be a hunt for the needle in the haystack for a lot of women - and guys have been black-pilled about it all in their own way just as women are becoming black pilled about it. Not many people are willing to settle - they want the dream romance and if they can’t have it they settle for the single life.

Its still usually the men who put their lives on the line when they say “i do”, not so much the women.

[Imjustagirl1520]

just choose a good woman?

[MikeMcMansion]

@Imjustagirl1520 I was never taught how to do that. I worked in job fields and played sports that only had men. My sister was much older and my parents very religious, I grew up in a very rural area on top of that. Then joined the infantry. I didn’t have the skill set required to that women when they started to put moves on me, i usually caved to whomever I thought was the most sincere, it just turns out they were the most predatory or desperate

[MikeMcMansion]

* Skill set required to vet

[Imjustagirl1520]

then you only have yourself to blame

[MikeMcMansion]

@Imjustagirl1520 naw, if you listen to anything, I said it can be equated to getting cancer due to genetic reasons or unforeseen, environmental circumstances.

Lost the kids we had together while they were young too. Not just ho hum…guess you just have yourself to blame 🥴🥴🥴

[Imjustagirl1520]

Then choose a better woman. You only have yourself to blame if you chose the wrong one.

[MikeMcMansion]

@Imjustagirl1520 ma’am its not that simple, I was young. I was simply naïve. She abused me. The laws let an abuser alienate my children from me and they actually went on to become abused just as I had warned the Judge such as things would occur in family court years prior.

[MikeMcMansion]

@Imjustagirl1520 my kids are entitled to millions of dollars for damages caused by the court and state’s incompetence, negligence, and unbecoming and fraudulent behavior.

I hope they get it,

[MikeMcMansion]

Its not a dating game

[MikeMcMansion]

I thought I was talking the question asker, not some kid omg, kids shouldn’t be discussing things online with strangers jfc

[Imjustagirl1520]

Lmao okay

[Anonymous]

Women and girls bought into feminism, women and girls believe men don’t hold any value. Women and girls follow movies, romantic books, ideologies, what their female friends think of what a healthy relationship is or if it’s even worth it to pursue one. It doesn’t surprise me that 80+% of divorce are initiated by women. Women’s expectations are far too high.

I’m a guy who’s 40 but can pass as a guy in his late 20s, good shape, university degree and masters, 2 government jobs, make funny impressions from Gollum to Bush to other celebs, cooks good food, family oriented, easy going, down to earth, saving money for life, studying more on politics and religion and what to do in life situations whether power goes out, how to fix things, how to hunt, etc. decent looking guy, in shape. But I’m not with anyone, I got ridiculed by women before they even know me. Dating apps suck and it ruins the mental health of men and guys.

I’ve had women question my manhood, me being a father, etc. just by talking to me for a few days without knowing me based on simple convos with NO SEXUAL talks. End of the day, women are tiring to deal with and that’s why a lot of guys don’t care about approaching no just with the fear of rejection but the drama of being labelled a creep or getting the cops called on him. And some women who pull that nonsense probably do so by some automatic trigger from her past that considers all men and guys disgusting.

As a guy I can say yeah there a ton of shitty men and guys in this world, but I can confidently say same argument goes for females as well. That’s why the world is single - a world imbedded with mass confusion on ideologies (social, political, religious, economic).

[Hagar88]

Women dont want to belong to a man but want to be married.

Women price themselves out of the market. Basically they want a buggati when they can just about afford a Honda civic.

They want what the fake lifestyle they see on Instagram of fancy hotels, restaurants, cars, houses, clothes and jewellery.

Loyalty. They can't be loyal, as soon as a better deal comes around they are gone.

Sacrifice. They aren't willing to make the sacrifices needed for a successful marraige.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for marriage it isn’t hard to get married & all two people have to do is sign a paper. On the flip side nowadays it’s had to stay married & the second a guy says I DO down the road he can say Good Bye to half or all of his stuff during the divorce.

Marriage is all about the three rings. An engagement ring, a wedding ring & suffering.

Marriage is like a hurricane there is a lot of blowing in the beginning & when it’s all said & done your house is gone.

As for me I have never been married & don’t want to get married & nowadays I wouldn’t be stupid enough to get married. If by chance I do decide to get married hopefully I’m smart enough to have a good divorce lawyer on retainer & have one hell of a prenuptial agreement in place.

[RavVid]

What you have listed has made divorce the most likely outcome. You have better odds with putting half of what you own and will earn on either red or black in a single roll of the roulette wheel.

You can only say marriage is an investment (risky or other wise) if you think you invest money at a casino.

[MikeMcMansion]

Well some people do invest in Casinos, you know like the mafia, governments, and certain international financiers that take their protege to special ceremonies on undisclosed islands with mock Egyptian temples for Horus and Isis.

[Anonymous]

I live in NYC... and I speak mostly for large cities... its because people tend to be too picky about who they want to marry. Thats why so many of us are getting old, aging alone. It's the same reason why loneliness is such an epidemic nowadays. Same reason why people are no longer having sex.

People have set their standards so incredibly high that they can't find anyone to meets their requirements. As a result, everyone is lonely, not having sex.

And you're gonna find more people on here who keep waiting till the right one comes along... keep waiting and you will find yourself nearing your deathbed.

[lady_yumejoshi]

As someone who moved across the ocean, I'm on my second year of marriage (not a crazy milestone, i know) but I do think that my court wedding was more than enough.. And some people want a wedding and not a marriage.. There's no more accountability and no more compromise :(

Tech and media has deff added to it. Easy ways to cheat, boost egos to encourage it as well. Algorithms pushing drama over stability bc "it's more fun and entertaining".

I like to look at comics for that as well. These superheroes and their love interests are supposed paragons of virtue yet their love lives are full of cheating, messy fights, petty trash. And if they get the pass, they inspire their fans to do the same.. Bc they are still "good people".

[MrChinaski]

Where are YOU in this list?

Wedding costs are high, people are individualistic, people are distracted by social media, people have unrealistic expectations, people don't prioritise family. These are all actions of the environment upon you.

BUT you control all of this stuff in your life.

If you want to go for a walk and it's raining out, try taking an umbrella instead of complaining that the rain makes it impossible.

[lightbulb27]

yes, solutions:

just sign papers

live with family for a while

social media... turn it off. meet real people.

you can complain all you want. We are living the blowback of a 40 year party. Your timing was not as lucky as some others, but not as worse as some.

[SarahP080106]

Women want emotional, subservient men who will bend to their will.

Men want a strong woman interestedin family, who can be an equal but know when to submit.

[Anonymous]

A lot of men today are averse to marriage. Marriage is not what it used to be, especially for men, and your list touched on some of the main reasons why. In short, today's women do not offer the same value to a man that made used to make the risks and costs to men in marriage worthwhile.

[melssvdv]

As a ex-feminist I will add this:
Feminism. It is as close to the root cause of this. Besides banks.

[jshm2]

LOL, only in the USA. One of my French CEO friends has been married 4 times already.

Whereas my Arab friend has 3 wives and lives happily.

[Anonymous]

people want the wedding, not the marriage. people want to brag and show off, not work through hardships together. it's a lot of merging, changing names, etc. money is a big factor. the world sucks, it's almost like what's the point anymore?

[Unycorn]

I really want to marry. To find the one is so difficult.

[capriVib]

People don't want to continue medieval traditions anymore.

[Massageman]

Unrealistic expectations and Career focus. Hmmmm - so many think a career will just drop into their laps without any input on their part. THAT is the unrealistic part.

[HighValue]

Most women are morally corrupt and low quality.

[Anonymous]

Guess there's other things to do 😆😊

Work
Gaming
Did I mention work
And gaming

And probably the TV, the oudoors, cities and the stock markets lol - oh and phones phones computers phones 📱

[Opinion Owner]

Did I mention gaming 🤣 and the stocks 📈😁📈📉

[Nikki1989]

It is not spammer.

Our marriage and wedding and party cost us $65.

[fivebyfour]

People are self interested, and calculate what they can get out of marriage to the prejudice of partnership,,,

[noohair]

Gen Z are just weak willed with a victim mentality. You can get married without a huge event. Get a helmet…

[Anonymous]

Because unless you're conservative, or right leaning, most people treat marriage like it's something you wipe your ass with and flush down the toilet.

[beenherebefore]

You mean hard to stay married?

[Fʊʟʟʍօօn]

Women are looking for rich husbands..

[Anonymous]

Its extremely difficult to find someone.

[LC75LC71]

It's not what it once was 30+ years ago.

[LiamJHayden]

Skewed divorce laws.

[Light_beam]

Because women are for free nowadays

[LifeLover91]

Because of economy

[Imjustagirl1520]

there's no good men

[jahaims]

It's not

[blackeagle007]

Lack of trust

[james117111]

Hiii