Is it normal or healthy for married couples to sleep in separate beds?

[Babyseal23]

Me and my husband live in a 3 story 3 bedroom townhouse. We've been married almost 2 years and been together for 7 years. We bought are house together i think 3 years ago and we were sharing a bed with each other since.

We do have two spare rooms but one is being turned into a nursery for are soon to be baby and we have another spare room up in the attic thats very big.

My husband snores a lot and is very loud and now im pregnant I have a u shaped pillow thing to help me at night and im constantly getting up to pee.

It ends up in one of us yelling at the other to "shut up" my husband is a very easy sleeper and im the type to be on my phone till 3am watching tiktok 🤣.

A couple times throughout my pregnancy I've come down with the flu so my husband decided to move upstairs to the spare bedroom as to not get sick and be off work.

We've both realised we sleep better alone and its actually improved are relationship as we are not annoyed with each other over sleep nor are we tired.

My mum and dad also do this for similar reasons as my dad snores a lot also.

Doesn't mean we dont love each other. We even have an older couple that live next door to us that live in separate houses as neighbours and they seem happy enough.

[Anonymous]

Depends. I hear women on this site saying "not sleeping with him is non negotiable". Lemme tell you something. I'm a light sleeper. If my wife demanded we sleep together she would either have to agree to be sedated for the night or it'd be grounds for divorce with me. I'm not going to not sleep everynight because i married a woman who flops around like Flipper (the dolphin) each night.😆 And i'm even going to talk about the flames coming out of her ass if she had onions that night.😆

Point is, every situation is unique. We start off in the same bed each night. At some point she gets up and goes down the hall. I get a good nights sleep, she gets a good nights sleep. It's worked for us for 26 years.

[Babyseal23]

I actually think its actually very healthy in a relationship every couple i know who does this says its bettered their relationship and made them get on better

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly! She likes reading before bed and watching scary movies. Also i thinks it's kind of her "quiet time". She didn't get much of that when the kids were growing up. A time where she has no kids making demands on her, and not even me.😆

[Anonymous]

It perfectly bridges the gap between a loud snorer, a frequent-peeing pregnant night-owl, and an easy sleeper. Having two separate, fully functional sleeping spaces will be a massive asset for shift-sleeping once the baby arrives.

Millions of happy couples including your parents and your neighbors rely on separate spaces to thrive.

Reclaim the romance by intentionally planning date nights or bedtime cuddling before retreating to your own rooms. make sure both bedrooms are comfortable, decorated, and feel like home.

Good luck.

[Calyptomaniac]

I wouldn't be able to do it, I was always half draped over my guy sleeping half the night, but if you can't sleep because of snoring or he can't sleep for whatever reason, then yes, it's best if you're not grumpy and snippy with each other all day, especially when you both know the other's sleeping habits is why you're like that lol

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Each person having a space of their own, with their own bed or otherwise, can be very healthy for a relationship just for the simple fact that you have a place to go whenever you need space

[Bricealan]

@Babyseal23 Not unusual. Many couples do sleep apart for the same reasons.

[bowenw]

There are no rules. Whatever works for the couple should prevail.

[jahaims]

Nope, you have marital issues if that happens

[Babyseal23]

How do you sleep with your wife may I ask?