Do you think the man should pay most of the bills in the household even if the wife earns more?

[Anonymous]

If I'm the one going through childbirth, hard pregnancy while working a job, ripping my vagina to pop out a watermelon, doing most of the child care and housework WHILE HE doesn't HAVE TO. why am I still paying 50% of the bills? Nothing about pregnancy or birthing or breastfeeding is 50/50.

[TonyMetal___86]

The man should pay all the households bills only if you're a housewife, a real devoted housewife, not like these fake shows of "the real housewives in orange county"... etc

If you're both working outside than you shall both split the bills in half and who earns more can pay more because they are simply earning more!

In the end, instead of nagging out here, talk to your husband so you can both find a solution that suits you both!

[Asker]

Nothing about pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding is 50/50

[TonyMetal___86]

Ask god why he has created you like this not me!
Men also suffers from life and we never tell you to take a piece of it!

Don't get pregnant and don't breastfeed and don't even get married or you can turn yourself into a guy, it's trending these days right 🤣

You seem like a karen 🤦🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

Men gain from a woman's suffering growing, carrying and birthing children into this world.

[TonyMetal___86]

Yes we gain, gain what exactly? 😏
Plus no one forced to get married or become pregnant 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

@tonymetal___86

gain children

how would you have kids without the woman suffering to grow and birth it?

[TonyMetal___86]

While you consider it suffering other women consider it a blessing, plus you're gaining kids too not only him!

[Asker]

@tonymetal___86

It's less of a blessing for women. Thats why there are more women who don't want kids compared to men. Because it is women who make the sacrifices to have kids, not men

[TonyMetal___86]

So, may i know what do you want in the end of this whole convo?

[Asker]

@tonymetal___86

the answer to this question posted.

[TonyMetal___86]

So you're asking for the man to pay more while you're still working?

[exitseven]

Why not just have one account you both contribute to. and pay all the bills from there.

[Asker]

I'm not paying half the bills

[Jessica405]

I am in a PApRTNERSHIP. Equal in all aspects. We share bills, chores and do not want kids

[Agape93]

If you're having a kid, then yeah you kinda need help at least

[laraWM]

Of course not, everyone should pay the same

[Asker]

Nothing about pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding is 50/50

[laraWM]

You asked about money? So both are involved

[Asker]

Why am I paying half if I'm already doing all more work?

[Asker]

Men gain from a woman's suffering growing, carrying and birthing children into this world

[laraWM]

I know what you mean, I don't want a guy to pay for me

[Caurav1997]

Lara 🥰

[Asker]

@larawm

the selfish loser men would absolutely love you. Have the woman do absolutely everything while he does nothing.

[Anonymous]

When you marry, you marry your finances together and your both supposed to put equal effort into all areas of the marraige.

Sounds like you resent your husband for making less money than you.

[Asker]

I don't resent him for making less money. But on my opinion, I think a marriage should be 50/50

[Wodens_Apprentice]

Funny because you wouldn't believe it should be 50/50 if he was earning the higher wage. We know you likely don't like your husband earning less than you.

[Asker]

@Wodens_Apprentice

So you actually expected a woman making less money to make him more attractive?

Men gain from a woman's suffering growing, carrying and birthing children into this world.

[Asker]

@Wodens_Apprentice

So you actually expected a man*** making less money to make him more attractive?

[Opinion Owner]

It is 50/50. You if you want him to make more money you should tell him

[Asker]

Nothing about pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding is 50/50

[Opinion Owner]

Who looks after you when you are doing that? Pregancy and Childbirth is a choice as is breastfeeding

[Asker]

@opinion owner

It's way easier to watch someone give birth than to actually give birth. Doesn't matter how many times u try to comfort her or feed her. She will always have it worse than you

[Opinion Owner]

It was your choice and he supported you all the way. Your ungrateful attitude will cost you your marriage

[Asker]

@opinion owner

I shouldn't do everything... that's why the man should step up

If I'm the one growing, carrying, birthing the kid... and I'm also the one paying most of the bills, I might as well be a single mom

[Wodens_Apprentice]

I feel like if you're like 95% of some out there that don't like outearning their man, don't work. Raise your children.

[Asker]

@Wodens_Apprentice

If I'm the one growing, carrying, birthing the kid... and I'm also the one paying most of the bills, I might as well be a single mom

That's why women hate men who can't support a family

[Asker]

@Wodens_Apprentice

When you have a kid with a woman, just ask yourself... are u making her life easier? Are you doing your 50%?

If not, she will eventually realize she is just a married single mom

[Wodens_Apprentice]

Then be a trad housewife, homeschool your children and let your husband do the work for you.
I can't support a family because I was raised in the shittiest part of the Yookay so not everyone who can't support a family is naturally a failure of a man. Some of us are just unlucky.
I wish I was born in a world where laws didn't exist cause then I'd have an army of concubines from all the mens skulls I've cracked. But being a 6'4'' violent autist isn't rewarded by our modern system which seeks to root me out of life and let me die 6 feet under alone.
My only real hope is to make YT videos and just hope people notice how glorious & intelligent I am.

[Asker]

@Wodens_Apprentice

I do make more than him and I honestly wish that more men can have ambition. Making money starts at a young age. Ambition starts at a young age. Not when you are 40, have kids to support

[Wodens_Apprentice]

What's there to be ambitious for? The only reason to even work and become successful is to win over a girl & provide for your family. So you're sacrificing years of your life, kissing a bosses ass, paying taxes to a government that actively hates & wants to destroy you only do you can feel like you contributed? Not for me.
I do know women like providers. I think if you wanna be a man but not cattle you should perhaps start thinking of jobs that involve grifting or crime because this civilisation offered & gave us nothing yet you all expect us to give back to it. Women do not appreciate good character or ambition alone. I am a very ambitious person who has been starved of being able to do anything my entire life & it's driving me insane because of it. Also in the UK you're not even working for money really, just hoping that someone promotes you so you can earn more then you could not doing anything (because sometimes you're actually better off not working in this circus of a country).

[Nikki1989]

That is not the system we work by. My husband pays the rent while I pay for everything else. It works out about even.

[Asker]

its not even if you consider the pain of childbirth, breastfeeding late nights with no sleep, doing the bulk of childcare.

[lilBigPotato]

The problem isn't that you pay 50% of the bills but that he's not helping in the household. Talk and find an agreement. You're both adults.

[Asker]

Breastfeeding isn't a male job

[lilBigPotato]

I didn't say it is. I said you should talk to your partner and find an agreement with the household and the pregnancy. Complaining here doesn't change anything.

[Asker]

I'm not complaining. I'm just asking what u think about my already established arrangement

[In_Trance]

It should be a partnership based on percentage of income

If your total living and operating expenses are a certain percentage of your income, then that percentage of both partners incomes should go towards the expenses.

[Asker]

Nothing about pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding is 50/50

[In_Trance]

If you don't want to do thise things, then don't.
To use a natural process as leverage in a relationship is ludicrous

[Asker]

I shouldn't do everything... that's why the man should step up

If I'm the one growing, carrying, birthing the kid... and I'm also the one paying most of the bills, I might as well be a single mom

[In_Trance]

You asked a question and I answered.
You should have worked these details out with him long before you let him jizz inside of you.
But you didn't. Now you have to play the hand you're dealt.

[Asker]

I have proposed that he pay 70% of the bills once the kid comes out. And he accepted

[In_Trance]

Then why did you ask this question? You already have your answer ffs.

[Anonymous]

If you are both working, childcare and housework should be split evenly. If she makes more than me, I wouldn't care if she controled the finances. My maintenance cost is very low.

[mrshooiser]

Then don't have kids.

[Asker]

Well I am

[mrshooiser]

Ok. Well then you need to ask him to do more. My husband dosen't do much either and all he does is sit on his fat ass all day.

[Asker]

The less my husband does, the less of the rent I pay. Soon I will get to keep all the money I earn and pay 0 bills

[Asker]

Begging a man to do more won't make him do more. If I'm working a job and doing all the child care, he is paying all the bills. And he should be afraid cuz our rent is expensive. Groceries expensive too.

If he won't pay for groceries, I won't be cooking or buying groceries for him either

[Iron_Man]

Let me get my friend to answer this

[Caurav1997]

I dont mind paying its k for me

[jahaims]

Equality