If a man is doing all the money making/working and the wife doesn’t work is it fair for him to do less housework than her?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[andreasderjuengere]

Fair is what an individual couple agrees to.

''Housework'' is not necessarily unpleasant, or an undesirable task; it can be good fun to do things together.

I'm not hooked to money - so my own measure is the time that 'we' individually invest in running our life together. If the effort is about equal, then all looks ''fair'' to me.

Not counting (and accounting) each single minute invested, of course.

... Funny side note: as I typed this I was asked to assist getting fresh sheets onto the bed :) ...

[mstbooblover]

This is not an innocent question. First of all let it be clear that whatever we may think about the subject, it's only up to involved couples to decide for themselves.

To show how complicated an answer can be to such a question, I'd like to point to my own situation with my wife during her lifetime. There was a time when she earned also some money, but mostly it was me who contributed most over the years. The odd part of this situation is that my wife did not want me at all to do anything in the household. She said it was her contribution to the household.

Let's nevertheless always keep in mind that keeping a household is even more than a full time job. I know that very well. Meaning people all over the world should have more respect for whoever is in charge of a household.

[watercolor_lions]

If a man has an 8hr job, then so does the woman: taking care of the house.

For some reason, women want men to work a full-time job, and do equal house work. What does she do the rest of her time, if not house work? I believe they can do equal house work on the WEEKEND, when both are free, but not during the week. During the week, she works 9-5pm, just like him.

If your partner isn't taking care of the house for 8hrs, ask them how they spend their day. You may have to go to counseling for it. Both parties should be putting in a 40hr week, and then both be working on the house over the weekend.

[Adam1978]

There isn't 8 hours of housework to do every day. So there should be a need for much house work during weekend. Unless she raising kids she will never have a full time job at home.

[BlueScorpio]

I think it's a fair trade, if he's going to take care of all the financial responsibilities, then I'll do the house ones. However, I do like having my own money just for the simple fact I can buy things I like or need without having to ask for permission or risk getting into confrontation about asking for money from him. If he's a very generous husband and won't become financially abusive towards, then I see no issues.

[BlueScorpio]

Although my grandfather was the breadwinner on my mom's side and he still help with chores and all of his 13 kids had responsibilities around the house.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

You do realize most husbands are like Al bundy right? Work all week and every dime goes to the wife and children the least women could do is make the man a meal and suck him off

[BlueScorpio]

@PainusNdeeAnus most women are working all week as well along side their husband.

[ManHater]

screw that, when the woman wants to cheat and leave you the divorce courts always screw the men leaving them with nothing. Why do you think women who divorce their men are found dead? Simply put if I busted my ass day in and day out for a woman can live like a queen and ditch me and take everything I have worked hard for? right...

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@ManHater not one untruth told

[Guy13]

Household Chores: I have a way that you can earn your money. I met this girl I really like and it did not take long for her to realize that I have a like. And she likes to do it lots and sex is not an option until seriously committed-like married.

I have an End Game and she’s figured it out. Basically 25.00 a shot in my head and every two weeks we shop. I don’t know 🤷🏻‍♂️ how much more L’Occitane and Bare Mineral, around 600 month, will buy…. until store is empty⁉️
I can now tell when she working towards something (3x day)…. There’s this rich dark purple coach that she’s been eyeing that “matches” the hot pink on sale that she bought and gave me receipt for. She likes me to go shop and pay…that’s how she deduced “25.00 a shot.
I’m so tired of shopping. It would be so much easier and frankly hotter if she go to my wallet/money clip and take her tribute without asking.-This is my End Game.

[coachTanthony]

I would just get a maid and allow my woman to attend to her passions in life like maybe start a blog or a podcast. These issues seem so outdated.

[Apple1996]

Nah he should still be cleaning up after himself

[ObscuredBeyond]

It's about proportions. Of course, he should strive not to be a total slob. At the same time, if she puts in absolutely nothing, he's better off single. He got married in order to have a wife, that they may complement each other spiritually and biologically. He didn't get hitched just to have a potato growing out of his sofa. If he wanted that, he'd have been better off investing in hydroponics.

[Apple1996]

@ObscuredBeyond depends on the couple like I wouldn't stand for my husband expecting me to do everything. I'm a stay at home mom not a stay at home maid. Everyone's gotta clean up after themselves. Even my kids clean up around the house

[dustybiker]

No. In my house we don’t ignore things that need to be done. Whoever gets to it first does it.

The home is shared. If that means the person who spends the most time at home on any given day does the workload of home chores, so be it.

Does it mean someone who worked all day, and is too tired so they get a free pass? Nope. Not here. Nobody is lazy. It needs to get done so it’s done.

Props to good and decent family. Respect is big.

[dustybiker]

Two single and self-righteous people smirks lol

[HighValue]

Even if she does everything inside and outside the house, it still won't be as much as working full time, and that includes if they have kids.

If she complained, I would just do everything for a month, tracking all the time it takes. When I prove it takes much less time and she was lying, she would be kicked out of MY house and the relationship would be over.

Anyone that claims it is just as much work at home as a full time job is LYING.

[Apple1996]

With having kids it's especially taking up more time then working full time. I literally spend all day even during my hours of sleep doing things for the house and my kids.

[Shiface92]

Yes If the chick is just staying home on her phone and scratching her ass , she should do 90% of the chores, even with kids because watching kids isn’t as hard as mothers make it seem it’s just annoying and inconvenient when you want to just be on your phone all day

[TheUniqueOne96]

Yep.

She's bringing in far less than him, so she should do the bulk of the housework.

There's not necessarily anything wrong with being a housewife, but if a man's paying for everything, you should be doing at least 90% of the housework.

[Anonymous]

i think the wife should get a job so you're not depending on only one income... why can't she work? does she have a legitimate excuse? not even a remote job? everything should be half and half, or else you're going to get some nasty resentment.

[Tracker1958]

He pays for sex and she works from home to get to live there. If she doesn't like the arrangement, she is more than welcome to do both parts. She welcome to work 8 hours and come home and do all the thing that have to be done in a home. single or married. She can be married and have most of the day to keep house or she can be single and work and then come home and keep house. Living equal house keeping. Unless you are homeless.

[integrale77]

There should be a balance of contribution to the family some of that will be house work some will be financial and depending on the family some will relate to child care.

[suckmytitties]

I said yes only because I understand how it can be tiring after work to come home and do more but if he is making a mess he will be cleaning it up. Easy things like dishes don’t bother me but leaving stuff all around the house is unacceptable.

[Haha456]

Working a job does not give you the right to live like a dog and not clean up after yourself.

[Billlewis]

It doesn't matter to me how much work I'm doing or who contributes what; if she's in a relationship with me, I don't want her to do anything other than lie back and relax as much as she wants.

[chicosuave]

if its 50/50 and not taking advantage of each other im happy. if she is lazy and doesn't do anything then the relationship my go down hill asap. i dont want a lazy girl who just works then comes home and not contribute to the chores at home.

[slatyb]

I have outside employment. My wife does not. We love in a two-bedroom apartment. She handles the shopping, cleaning, and cooking. I take out the trash and manage the car.

[bean2k21]

What is a wife good for in that case? Just hire a maid and require her to wear a uniform from Victoria's Secret. She'll eventually want to make more money and decide that cock sucking is the way to go.

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[genericname85]

who cares about theoretical examples. you make the rules in your relationship. and if your partner is ok with doing all the work or if you like doing all the work, that's fair. nobody forces you to do that.

[Miristheiss]

Of course. If she isn't working then how is she contributing to the home and to the marriage?

[Sparks32]

No way am I going to be the only one that works then doing half or more of her work for her. Do women really respect simps in the end anyway?

[CubsterShura]

You do what you agree on doing. These are things you discuss with your partner and whatever you agree on is fair.