If a man is doing all the money making/working and the wife doesn’t work is it fair for him to do less housework than her?

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mstbooblover · Accepted Answer

This is not an innocent question. First of all let it be clear that whatever we may think about the subject, it's only up to involved couples to decide for themselves.

To show how complicated an answer can be to such a question, I'd like to point to my own situation with my wife during her lifetime. There was a time when she earned also some money, but mostly it was me who contributed most over the years. The odd part of this situation is that my wife did not want me at all to do anything in the household. She said it was her contribution to the household.

Let's nevertheless always keep in mind that keeping a household is even more than a full time job. I know that very well. Meaning people all over the world should have more respect for whoever is in charge of a household.

andreasderjuengere · Accepted Answer

Fair is what an individual couple agrees to.

''Housework'' is not necessarily unpleasant, or an undesirable task; it can be good fun to do things together.

I'm not hooked to money - so my own measure is the time that 'we' individually invest in running our life together. If the effort is about equal, then all looks ''fair'' to me.

Not counting (and accounting) each single minute invested, of course.

... Funny side note: as I typed this I was asked to assist getting fresh sheets onto the bed :) ...

watercolor_lions · Accepted Answer

If a man has an 8hr job, then so does the woman: taking care of the house.

For some reason, women want men to work a full-time job, and do equal house work. What does she do the rest of her time, if not house work? I believe they can do equal house work on the WEEKEND, when both are free, but not during the week. During the week, she works 9-5pm, just like him.

If your partner isn't taking care of the house for 8hrs, ask them how they spend their day. You may have to go to counseling for it. Both parties should be putting in a 40hr week, and then both be working on the house over the weekend.

BlueScorpio · Accepted Answer

I think it's a fair trade, if he's going to take care of all the financial responsibilities, then I'll do the house ones. However, I do like having my own money just for the simple fact I can buy things I like or need without having to ask for permission or risk getting into confrontation about asking for money from him. If he's a very generous husband and won't become financially abusive towards, then I see no issues.

coachTanthony · Answer

I would just get a maid and allow my woman to attend to her passions in life like maybe start a blog or a podcast. These issues seem so outdated.

Apple1996 · Answer

Nah he should still be cleaning up after himself

dustybiker · Answer

No. In my house we don’t ignore things that need to be done. Whoever gets to it first does it.

The home is shared. If that means the person who spends the most time at home on any given day does the workload of home chores, so be it.

Does it mean someone who worked all day, and is too tired so they get a free pass? Nope. Not here. Nobody is lazy. It needs to get done so it’s done.

Props to good and decent family. Respect is big.

HighValue · Answer

Even if she does everything inside and outside the house, it still won't be as much as working full time, and that includes if they have kids.

If she complained, I would just do everything for a month, tracking all the time it takes. When I prove it takes much less time and she was lying, she would be kicked out of MY house and the relationship would be over.

Anyone that claims it is just as much work at home as a full time job is LYING.

Shiface92 · Answer

Yes If the chick is just staying home on her phone and scratching her ass , she should do 90% of the chores, even with kids because watching kids isn’t as hard as mothers make it seem it’s just annoying and inconvenient when you want to just be on your phone all day

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Yep.

She's bringing in far less than him, so she should do the bulk of the housework.

There's not necessarily anything wrong with being a housewife, but if a man's paying for everything, you should be doing at least 90% of the housework.

Anonymous · Answer

i think the wife should get a job so you're not depending on only one income... why can't she work? does she have a legitimate excuse? not even a remote job? everything should be half and half, or else you're going to get some nasty resentment.

Tracker1958 · Answer

He pays for sex and she works from home to get to live there. If she doesn't like the arrangement, she is more than welcome to do both parts. She welcome to work 8 hours and come home and do all the thing that have to be done in a home. single or married. She can be married and have most of the day to keep house or she can be single and work and then come home and keep house. Living equal house keeping. Unless you are homeless.

integrale77 · Answer

There should be a balance of contribution to the family some of that will be house work some will be financial and depending on the family some will relate to child care.

suckmytitties · Answer

I said yes only because I understand how it can be tiring after work to come home and do more but if he is making a mess he will be cleaning it up. Easy things like dishes don’t bother me but leaving stuff all around the house is unacceptable.

Haha456 · Answer

Working a job does not give you the right to live like a dog and not clean up after yourself.

Billlewis · Answer

It doesn't matter to me how much work I'm doing or who contributes what; if she's in a relationship with me, I don't want her to do anything other than lie back and relax as much as she wants.

chicosuave · Answer

if its 50/50 and not taking advantage of each other im happy. if she is lazy and doesn't do anything then the relationship my go down hill asap. i dont want a lazy girl who just works then comes home and not contribute to the chores at home.

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slatyb · Answer

I have outside employment. My wife does not. We love in a two-bedroom apartment. She handles the shopping, cleaning, and cooking. I take out the trash and manage the car.

genericname85 · Answer

who cares about theoretical examples. you make the rules in your relationship. and if your partner is ok with doing all the work or if you like doing all the work, that's fair. nobody forces you to do that.

Miristheiss · Answer

Of course. If she isn't working then how is she contributing to the home and to the marriage?

Sparks32 · Answer

No way am I going to be the only one that works then doing half or more of her work for her. Do women really respect simps in the end anyway?

CubsterShura · Answer

You do what you agree on doing. These are things you discuss with your partner and whatever you agree on is fair.

nojokecarmichael · Answer

No, if he chose to work and for her to stay at home that's on him. He also shouldn t make it harder for her at home just because he works either

FilmGuy93 · Answer

That would be fair. The problem is that many times, both the man and woman are working, but the woman is still doing the majority of the house work.

DenizLikesTennis · Answer

This question is rhetoric. Of course, I have voted for "Yes". This could lead into major problems in relationships and everything.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I'm a staunch believer in people cleaning up after themselves... so with that in place, she can do something.

DesiUwU · Answer

My mom works and does 3/4's of the housework. My dad works and he does 1/4 of the housework. SO LIKE...

chrissykerdock · Answer

he shouldn't have to do any housework... and he should be treated kindly

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

That's what happens when guys date younger woman.

nicole21k · Answer

It is fair. The wife has to contribute in some way as well to the marriage.

exitseven · Answer

If he is working full time he is not home to do any of these chores. It is really hard to be in two places at once.

Anonymous · Answer

Does he expect her to come into his office and help do his job? Nope, and she shouldn't expect him to do that either. If her job is to care for the home, then she should do it just like he does his job.

Ninania · Answer

What's fair is what both partners agree to and accept as such.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Of course. Division of labour is the basis of all effective family units.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

It's fair for him to do zero housework and zero child rearing if he is earning all the money.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Technically if that's the case then he shouldn't be doing ANY housework.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

He works outside the house and she doesn't? Less house work? Yes. None at all? No.

msc545 · Answer

Yes except women don't see it that way they think men should provide all of the money and should do at least half or more of the housework

Confusedashell123 · Answer

Depends what he’s doing with the money really

BJP21 · Answer

I pickup after myself so there is no cleaning up after me.

Anonymous · Answer

men live 10 years shorter tells me that men work too much.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

Nah that's clearly doesn't like a lovely marriage!

Whatisthatname · Answer

Of course it is.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah since she is home all day

Anonymous · Answer

Yes still unfair for him

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Very fair.

Songomatic · Answer

Only if he wants to?

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