Can you be truly committed to someone you don't want to marry?

[Anonymous]

Is marriage truly just another piece of loose-leaf paper?

[NathanDavis]

both love and marriage are exactly what you make of it...

so... it could be about the best thing ever in your life or your worst nightmare, so... it's about us really

[Anonymous]

It is possible if they have a bad idea or negative impression of marriage.

[HollyK21]

Some people don’t believe in marriage. My aunt has a friend who’s been unmarried to the same man for 38 years with 2 now-adult kids and one grandkid.

[Asker]

Just because she's been with him that long, it doesn't mean she's committed. She just doesn't want to marry him cuz she wants an easy out once he becomes a huge liability to her

[HollyK21]

People can be committed to their relationships and just not believe in marriage. Just like some people don’t believe in religion and a number of other things. That isn’t my own personal belief, but it is what it is.

[Asker]

They're not committed. You're just too ignorant to realize it

[HollyK21]

I’d say 30+ years is pretty committed. What’s with the name calling? Why ask this question if you’re going to argue and be rude to strangers?

[Asker]

30+ years doesn't necessarily mean she is committed. she might have cheated on him with multiple partners throughout those 30 years. Maybe she couldn't find someone better after holding it out 30 years. Don't be naive.

[HollyK21]

Don’t act like your way of thinking is the only way. You are literally down there arguing with someone who’s perfectly content in their relationship, basically trying to convince them that they’re unhappy or something. It is incredibly weird to argue and force your personal beliefs down people’s throats. Your way is not the only way and if you asked this question just to preach then you should’ve phrased it that way. I surely would’ve avoided answering.

[Asker]

you haven't explained yourself in any way. that's why I don't believe you. Insisting you are right does not make you correct.

[Asker]

let's face it... if you wanted someone enough, you would marry them. If you don't want to marry them, there is always a reason for it. Don't act like there isn't one.

[HollyK21]

LOL you don’t have to believe me, I never asked for your belief and I don’t need to explain someone else’s relationship anyway. You’re not the fucking relationship police. As this conversation goes on I am pretty sure I have spoken with you before and you’ve got this incredibly pushy mindset with marriage, you can go on taunting people forever. I haven’t the time or interest in going back and forth for comments on end. Goodbye.

[Nikki1989]

Absolutely. Some people are just not marriage-worthy.

[Asker]

that's a funny way to put it. Being committed to someone too shitty to marry

[elizamichale1]

Sure u can... marriage is not a necessary thing tbh

[Agape93]

Absolutely. Paper and government blessings don't make me dedicated to someone.

[Asker]

If you were so committed, whats preventing you from putting your commitment officially on paper?

[Agape93]

Because I don't believe in marriage. Its a stupid concept. I've been with the same girl since i was 28. I've been with the same guy since I was 18 years old. I didn't need paper for any of it. I won't for any point in the future.

[Asker]

Just because you been with him that long, it doesn't mean she's committed. You just dont want to marry cuz you just want an easy out once he becomes a huge liability to her

[Asker]

Not marrying just means you're only committed to you at the moment. But when shit hits the fan and life gets hard... you want an easy quick as fast as possible escape route.

[Agape93]

1. Wtf are you talking about in the first response?

2. It only means I dont need a piece of paper or a government's or a priests blessing to devote myself to someone. I dont need an easy way out, because im devoted to my partners. If YOU need that to be devoted to someone, then you're a shitty partner.

[Asker]

@agape93

why wouldn't you just go for that piece of paper to devote yourself if you were already so devoted? what's so bad about that piece of paper?

logically I don't understand why you wouldn't put it legally and officially on paper. is there a reason?

[Agape93]

Tagging me doesn't work when you're anon.

Why should I have to abide your metrics or societies expectations, to show devotion to my partners in my private life?

I've told you more than once. You need to stfu and actually read what im saying.

[Asker]

Realize what you're saying doesn't make any sense. You can't be sooooo incredibly committed to someone that you would never ever want to commit to on paper

[Agape93]

Not my fault you're too fucking dense to understand.

[loveyouoak]

Never. This is so hard. Can you?

[Anonymous]

Definitely you can

[Anonymous]

Wny don’t u wanna marry him

[MasterKS]

shit paper is marriage.

[exitseven]

I believe it is.