The past was brutal. Manipulation, cheating, trauma, change (and not for the better) can really mess up a person. My “partner” put it behind him and started doing what he wanted to do and like and all of that jazz. The issue? He says he loves me but isn’t ready to commit. It makes me sad my feelings and actions are reciprocated fully. Honestly, I think about it often but I don’t want to just up and leave since we live together and I wanna see where this road goes. I’m not sure what my time limit is yet. But can you truly love someone without committing?
Can you love someone and not commit to them?
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I am a person who might come off as someone who doesn’t easily get committed. In truth, it’s just I haven’t met anyone who made me feel like I wanted to commit.
However, when I commit, that’s forever. I take things slow until I feel confident that I can trust that person.
Once I commit, you can’t get me uncommitted unless I die.
I can’t love someone and not commit to them. Whoever says he loves you but isn’t ready to commit, is just lying himself, if I met a man right now, who’d awaken all the right feelings in me, I’d SOO commit.
That being said, I am also not sexually active currently, I just date occasionally, but haven’t felt any significant connection with any of these dates.
And even dating is like a chore to be honest, I was really pushed to say yes, cause I was just not that interested.
Don’t keep up with that chase. It just sounds like a lot of toxicity and heart break. Don’t let him use you as a last resort or someone to crawl into bed with after he’s done being single for that day.
What do you mean by commit? You live together, I don't see how that's not committed.
If you mean he's still open to other relationships, no, he doesn't love you.
If you mean he won't ask you to marry him... then you're just being silly