What do you think is more important in a relationship to have it work: love or commitment?

[TenderFantasy]

Love or commitment?

For me it's commitment. Your commitment shows you love them and want to make it work. Commitment is something you do because you love them. It's a way to support your partner. You are COMMITED to making it work, to being with them through good and bad, etc. It's not always easy to commit to someone, especially if you can be free and selfish, etc. Also how can you say you love someone but not be committed to them? Our TIME and our ENGERY and AFFECTION is one of our most valuable resources and you should only give that to people you care about.

Love

Committment

[LiamJHayden]

Commitment. Love, as many or even most define it, is the "feelings" that they have and those will wax and wane. A commitment will get people through the rough patches.

[JayBones]

Commitment. You can have love and not be in a relationship but you can't have a relationship at all without Commitment

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Definitely commitment, love can’t thrive or survive without commitment

[AmandaYVR]

There is no way you can separate these two things from each other. They are both equally necessary for a happy relationship.

[OlderAndWiser]

Why would you be forced to choose between one or the other? Why not pick a partner who gives you lust, love, trust, respect, and commitment?

[HawkPerception]

There are many aspects of a relationship that are important and needed to make it work. And it's hard to categorize which are more important than others because they're all needed for a healthy and successful relationship. Here are some:

Honesty: Open and truthful communication builds trust. Communication: Effective and respectful dialogue is crucial for understanding each other. Trust: Confidence in your partner's reliability and integrity is fundamental. Respect: Valuing each other's feelings, opinions, and boundaries is essential. Empathy: Understanding and sharing each other's emotions fosters connection. Commitment: A dedication to making the relationship work and overcoming challenges. Compatibility: Shared values, goals, and interests contribute to long-term harmony. Flexibility: Willingness to adapt and compromise helps navigate differences. Support: Being there for each other in both good and challenging times. Friendship: A solid foundation of companionship strengthens the relationship.

[TenderFantasy]

Thanks, I agree with all this. However, I just wanted to see what people would think given the two choices provided.

[Anonymous]

True love IS commitment. It’s when you want the best for someone no matter what. It’s not just a “feeling”.

The ultimate test is if you could let the person go because you know their future would be better without you. That’s the ultimate test when you want something that is best for someone. That’s when you truly know you love someone.

Hopefully it doesn’t have to come to that but true love isn’t about possession and/or how someone else makes you feel.

There is only one woman I truly felt this way about in my life.

[TenderFantasy]

Bold of you to assume you know what would make your partner happy though. If she is happy being with you, why would you want to TAKE THAT AWAY? ! Of course it's not about possesion. Committment is never about that. Committment means being there for someone in good and but especially the bad times. THAT'S what committment means. How can you say you love someone when you'd take off at the first few signs of trouble? It's HARD to commit, especially if things get hard. This applies not only to romantic/domestic relationships but to other things in life as well. How many people QUIT when things get hard. I am telling you a lot will because there are some men (especially maybe white men from my personal experience) that will LEAVE once a relationship gets harder than they can handle, or is too much for them, or they get bored, etc. It's too tempting to escape the stress and want to be free and just take care of nobody but yourself. They'd have to REALLY love the person and are ready to make such a commitment in the first place, in order for things to work.

[Opinion Owner]

From above:

1. The one woman I truly loved broke up with me. But I accepted it because I knew it was best for her. I was devastated about it but I knew it was for the best.

2. Why the hell did you make a racist comment about “especially maybe white men”? Statistically there is another race that has notoriously high single motherhood rates and it’s not white people by the way. But again this question had absolutely NOTHING to with race. It says a lot about you that you brought up. Really.

3. Don’t have higher standards for the person you date then you have for yourself. I can’t tell you how many women I’ve encountered over the years who are looking for “saviors” out of men. I sure as hell am not looking for a woman to “save me”. Hell no. I’m 100% independent and self made. I’ve made major financial mistakes too. But I pulled myself out of that mess.

We live in the modern world. Pregnancy is HIGHLY optional for western women. Yet we still got women thinking they can have the best of both worlds: “freedom” and “financial security”.

[Anonymous]

Commitment keeps couples together, but commitment without love is depressing. It keeps not only deeply unhappy people together, but also people who just aren't passionate about each other.

Conversely, love without commitment will never be a healthy relationship. But I'd rather be in an unstable but loving relationship, than be in a relationship with someone who will never leave me, but doesn't necessarily truly love me.

Of course, what I'd actually want is a relationship with both love and commitment, that's what everyone wants. Commitment is absolutely what makes a relationship work, but I think love is what keeps it happy.

[TenderFantasy]

1. Love doesn't always need to be intense. It can be stable.
2. Wow realy? ! You'd rather be in an unstable relationship? ! Damn that's stupid. No offense!

[Opinion Owner]

I'd rather be loved than merely tolerated, but like I already said, obviously the real preference is for love and stability.

[Joshydavid25]

I personally think that commitment is love, since I see love as a commitment or duty... The strongest part of knowing you love somebody is when you do something for them instead of your emotions or how you feel.. I believe commitment and love go hand and hand.. At least in regards to people..

[Joshydavid25]

In spite of your emotional feelings toward them at any given moment..***

[Saiesh30]

In my opinion, love and commitment are not independent but inter-dependent. They co-exist. Absence of one would imply removal of other as well.
If you're committed to someone, that's because you love them. You are dedicated to make everything work coz you actually love the person.
You cannot just commit to a relationship if there's no love.

[DizzyDesii]

I need both. Friends can be loyal and not love one another. Thats still commitment. But Thats not enough for me. You can love me but if you’re cheating, it doesn't seem you really love me. So i need both

[TenderFantasy]

Of course and I'm not saying it's one or the other. I guess my question was more like, what do you consider more important.

[DizzyDesii]

I immediately want to say love but love won't last without commitment and i can't commit without love. So i have to have both either way. They are of equal importance to me

[IslaTheWitch]

From my perspective, love and commitment are necessary but not sufficient.

From my perspective, any relationship, romantic or not, requires communication and trust to make it work...

[Phoenix98]

You need both but probably commitment you need commitment to get to love in most cases.

[Sevenpointfive]

i'm not sure if this post is fake. there's no way that 75% of people would commit just to commit. without love you're a communist

[TenderFantasy]

Loving sometimes is easier than committing considering looking at the divorce rate. And no this question isn't fake lol. That's mean to assume lol.

[Sevenpointfive]

i 'v enever commited becaucees it wasn't love. i stoped interest in wmoen after that.

[PeachyPie93]

Commitment, because they could love you and still leave, or they can fall out of love and without a commitment be out the door.

[CozyCoffin]

You could have feelings but still decide that your love for your partner isn't important enough for you to not break your commitment to them.

[TenderFantasy]

Exactly. It means you didn't really love them as much as you thought. Being committed is hard but if you loved somoene, like really loved them, then you'd want to be with them through the good and the bad and see them happy. Love is a verb. It's not always feelings.

Actually, feelings can tun into verbs too!

[JacobJordan]

Love because without love their is no commitment.

[JHAYES317]

Love included commitment…you cannot claim to love someone and cheat on them…

[TenderFantasy]

... or break up with them or abuse them..

[laly520]

commitment without love is like a mandatory task with no other options
love without commitment is equal to immaturity
it goes with both

[Paulalove98]

Both for sure and don’t forget trust as well.

[LittleMelissa9614]

I think both love and commitment are the most important things in a relationship/ marriage!

[SolitarySolace]

Love. Something women are incapable of in my experience

[TenderFantasy]

That's funny. I feel like it's men that are incapable of that.

[SolitarySolace]

How many of your exes cheated on you? All of mine did

[SolitarySolace]

You ever been falsely accused of anything? I have

[TenderFantasy]

Yes, unfortunately yes to both. I've been gaslighted (made to think I was the crazy one) by an ex. Been lied to. Been verbally, emotionally as well as physically abused and/or assaulted by past boyfriends as well. I really don't think it's a gender thing.