Is my wife's weight obsession is ruining our marriage?

[Anonymous]

My wife's (of 3 years) breasts are starting to get saggy and her wobbly stomach so from her weight loss. She lost 60 pounds with the help of diet pills in 5 weeks (im not going tall the name of the pills). She I didn't like the idea but did it anyway. She started covering herself up as her body and started her old wearing baggy clothes again. We haven't had sex in a month cause she won't let me touch her at all. She says ugly as hell and she thinks doesn't deserve me. She always had huge body issues and low self esteem even when we were dating. I tell her she's beautiful and she shouldn't be so hard in herself but she thinks I'm lying (which I'm not). And my wife is still trying to loss weight with the diet pills. She started at 250 then was 190 and now she wants to loss the extra 90 pounds. I'm really getting worried about her and her height is 5'8. What do I do?

[Chunk-Stonechest]

Rapid weight loss from pills can cause serious health problems. Because the pills don't teach balanced diet, exercise, or a means for building self-esteem, the weight typically returns once the starvation ends. Your wife needs to consider a program such as Overeaters Anonymous. They don't have weigh-ins like Weight Watchers, and meetings focus on understanding excessive eating as an addiction. Your wife is using food to resolve emotional issues which won't disappear simply because she has found the desperate will to starve herself down to a size 6. Your beloved needs a support group to help her explore why she seeks food in place of healthy emotional strategies. Additionally, I hope she's at least getting fruits and veggies daily, while supplementing nutritional intake with a series of fat horse pill vitamins and minerals. If she has the strength, go for walks every evening and gently propose she join O.A. link

O.A. is a 12 step program. Joining and attending would mean some difficult self-exploration for your partner, but she'll learn to understand this dysfunctional behavior as a medical disorder rather than a personal mark of failure. Diets don't work, but healthy lifestyle and strong esteem do. Hopefully, your woman will learn a practical approach to eating, beginning with the realization that avoiding food is another symptom of this crazy starve-and-binge roller coaster she can't stop. Your partner will be assigned a sponsor and will have to tackle some raw feelings she's fought pretty hard to bury for a long time. If she's brave enough to dive in, this will represent a new beginning for the both of you. Your life together won't get easier right away, but it ought to prove you two can take on just about anything as hubby and wife.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she either has an eating disorder or is on the road to one. This is an internal battle, but continue to be the loving and supportive husband and keep reminding her how beautiful you think she is. Maybe you could ask her why she is so obsessed with her weight. If you have been with her through 250 pounds and to now then obviously you love her no matter what.

[Bad-girl]

I think you ban diet pills from the house.