How to convince wife to lose weight?

[Anonymous]

My wife and I have a good relationship. She works part-time as a school teacher and cares for our children in her remaining time. She is a good mother. We are a normal family. Our children are well-adjusted, do well in school, and play sports. I work full-time and make a good living. I work out 3 or 4 times a week. I am fit and look younger than I am.

Today, my wife weighs about 70 pounds (32 kilograms) more than when we married. This puts her in the obese category by U. S. CDC standards. It has been more than 11 years since our last child was born. She won't workout with me or by herself. She won't talk about her weight.

I love my wife. I don't want her to develop diabetes or congestive heart failure. I want to travel and complete some adventures especially after we retire, but I fear her weight will prevent that. I have read some articles about helping loved ones to lose weight, and I have tried several things to help her but to no avail.

What has helped your significant other to lose weight or what did you SO do to help you lose weight?

[JohnDoe3000]

Men have been asking this question for centuries and not even Albert Einstein figured it out...

I think the only option you have is to get her to work out with you/find a sport she likes and to do more of the grocery shopping yourself so there's less high-caloric food and drinks in the house (maybe suggest to her some foods and drinks are bad for her health).

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Talk to her nicely. Hug her and encourage her daily. It should work.

[Jen_Jen]

Dude do you work out? If no, you should start and encourage her to join you. This way she'll think its something you both are doing together and it won't offend her if that's what you're worried about.

[NyomiMcClinton]

Tell her you been thinking about a divorce that will make her hit the gym quick. She knows that you feel comfortable with her weight, she has gotten comfortable

[i_research]

70 pounds!!
Wth.
Do you want her to be underweight and unhealthy?

She is gonna lose her energy if she loses even more pounds.

[Asker]

She doesn't weigh 70 pounds. She gained 70 pounds. She weighs 200 pounds.

[Jen_Jen]

70 pounds more than the weight when she was married.

[i_research]

Ohh my bad. Sorry!!

[Asker]

Correct. She is not tall, so that much extra weight places her in the obese category.

[i_research]

Try sports with her,
Cycling, swimming.

Tell her gently that this is becoming unhealthy. Cook healthy meals. Start doing exercise by yourself... go running, cycle, join a sport etc and tell her about... be enthusiastic... especially when you are getting ready for the run or etc.

When she sees more of the healthy changes and lifestyle, she will feel attracted to it.

Buy the gym clothes for her so she has no excuse. ..

[explainpls]

You should tell her exactly what you wrote here - that you want her to be healthy, etc.

[alice55]

Send her to the doctor to check her health. They would force her to lose weight. It's what happened to my father and he wasn't even obese just slightly overweight.

[boochie0]

You shouldn't be worrying about her weight

[Cody01]

Show her this