It's not rude, but it can put them in an awkward position, because they will have no idea what the budget is for the gift, what stores you have access to, etc. They don't want to ask for something expensive, because that's too demanding, but if they ask for something too inexpensive, then they may not be asking for something they really want. Plus, our society teaches people not to expect or ask for gifts or make assumptions about receiving them. A gift is supposed to be something that is all the giver's idea, that is then thrust into the modest, unsuspecting hands of the receiver, so that they can exclaim "Oh, you shouldn't have! I didn't expect a gift!" It's silly, but it forms a standard that makes it easy to be polite and keeps our society running.
The best gifts I have received were the ones I asked for. I have a list for my boyfriend for things I need/want, so every birthday he can choose a couple of items from the list. And I also always like to get gifts that I know the recipient wants, so I usually ask before getting anything. I don't think it's rude at all, I think it's a nice gesture that shows you want to get a gift they will like.
I completely prefer that approach than getting a crappy gift...
So yeah, ask them.
I ask often and tell - even without being asked - sometimes, because I don't want them to spend their money/or me to spend my money on things the gift receiver wouldn't enjoy!
i think its fine- i always ask, although usually i dont get a straight answer, but if your worried about it, just spend a day with them and ask them stuff casually, like what book are you reading, or tv shows or whatever and get them something related to it
The assumption is usually that if you really care for the person to be in a place to give them a gift, that you are creative enough to choose something without their input.
That said, for special gifts or of a specific content, there's nothing wrong with getting input or suggestions and then choosing something appropriate.
Not at all... I always ask if I don't know what they'd like.
But I prefer not to give gifts, because whatever you give, they expect something else.
They may show they love it and dump it later... Lol
A gift is a gift and a token of love or care... Can be anything..
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For me it depends on what it costs, I wouldn't spend £50 on a friend without knowing it's something they want
Equally if I was just getting them something small I wouldn't ask them as it's more about the sentiment or thought of the gift
I don't think it rude but it's not exactly on the right side of the fence either. I mean, if I don't know what to get someone, in either getting something very generic or nothing at all.
I went and bought my friend's birthday present with her, and I kinda think it's good? Like she gets what she wants and likes and I give her what she wants and likes
Depends on kind of relation u have with the person if person is close he expects to know what are the needs and act accordingly but if the person is not that close it's good to ask
it's totally fine.. you should try and guess what they want but if you have no clue then just ask them instead of buying them something they don't want or like...
Doesn't hurt to be more subtle about if you like
Slip the topic of gifts in some how snd expand on it
Nah its not rude at all because people change likes and dislikes throughout the year
Plus its still a gift but not a surprise
I would think it's totally fine to ask them what they need
when your going to give a gift or exchange gifts with someone.
I don't see how it would be rude. I ask people what sort of gift they would like all the time.
Worst comes to worst, you could always get them an Amazon gift card or something like that
It's totally fine to do it. It's better to ask than get a gift they don't like.
Id prefer if the person told me what they want. Saves a lot of time and i dont want to get a gift they won't even use.
I don't think it is rude, there may be something practical they want and you would be doing them a favour.
I'd say its the most annoying way as they tend to say you don't need to get them one
unless you own a functioning crystal ball, this is the only way to find out what to buy themm
Mostly depends. But you have better option than that - ask their friends.
I never have been thinking this could be rude honestly
There's nothing rude about it. In fact we do it all the time in my family.
Simples...
I think you want a box. A certain box.
No, just toally unimaginative and tension killing. At least find it out in an indirect way.
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