Do you think its rude when people don't accept gifts?

[anniisa97]

I've just remembered this, as I'm getting my aunties Birthday present ready.

I like to spend a lot on people that mean something to me, I got my ex best friend a really good birthday gift. It was a whole bunch of cool stuff like bath bombs, a lip scrub, more makeup stuff and chocolate brownies. These items were all of good quality so a little pricy but I was obviously fine with that if I bought them for her.

She basically ended up telling me she didn't want all that because its just too much and too expensive for her liking. That the brownies alone would have been fine. I got really offended, and upset that she didn't accept my birthday gift when I spent so much time and effort into thinking of each item. By the end of all that all I got was complaining. That was actually my last gift to her, even though the reason why we stopped being friends had nothing to do with that.

I was pretty gutted at the time, and really thought she was acting entitled to be turning me down like that. What do you think, is it really that rude? Or is it more rude to not respect the persons wishes since its their birthday?

Updates

+1 y

She did accept the gift by the way, in the sense that she didn't give it back to me. But she was still complaining to me saying its too much money spent

[Fuentes]

She is just whack and maybe jealous you cann drop that type of money on her cause all she had to say way thank you and take it home she ain't had to be extra

[anniisa97]

Exactly, all she had to do was say thank you and take it home. You dont go through all that to get complaints.

She wasn't all bad, we were friends since we were 11 and stopped speaking last year

[Fuentes]

Nah she fake lol or y'all some rich chicks qnd she's snobby if not she's secretly jealous and has always been

[anniisa97]

Nah, none of us are rich lol

[Fuentes]

See that makes her fake then lol

[anniisa97]

I dont think she's jealous or fake. She wasn't raised in a family with a lot of manners so I guess she just lacked social ques but either way I was so pissed off with that reaction

[Fuentes]

I woulda been lol if i do something nice and shit on it its forever beef from that day on

[IncognitoBandito]

In most cases yes

[TrueConfection]

Yes. Accepting a gift is so simple, yet so many people don't seem to know how to smile and say, "Thank you." It's especially hurtful when so much thought is put into the person when selecting and wrapping a gift. I also find it insulting when a gift is rejected based on the person's perceived cost. I try to keep in mind that the recipient is usually trying to be modest or they think they are being polite.

[Coulis]

Yes, it shows a lack of social grace and decorum to not accept a gift. Provided that there isn't a problem with the gift for a valid reason. For example I have been gifted alcohol and for religious reasons I don't drink it so in that case I will refuse the gift.

[Anonymous]

These are useless things. I always think of gifts as an act of wasting money and making people look fake cute. I neither like to receive gifts nor to give presents. Is this rudeness? but a woman might call him rude because her husband/boyfriend didn't buy her a solitaire ring. 😂 Give each other just love instead of gifts.

[anniisa97]

Well thats a unique way of thinking I guess. Still doesn't really answer my question though

[Opinion Owner]

I did not read the detail. I just wrote an answer for the title. Thanks for downvote @anniisa97

[anniisa97]

You're welcome.