What should I do about my girlfriend ignoring my birthday?

[Anonymous]

I have been dating this girl for a year and things have been going great. About a week before my 27th birthday she told me she was going to visit me on my birthday, take me out to dinner the next night, and get me a card. The morning of my birthday she told me happy birthday, so its not about her forgetting. Rather she never did any of the things she said she was going to do. I spent my birthday alone, she never took me to dinner, and I never received a card. It has been about 90 days since my birthday and I am not sure how I should feel. I don't care all that much about my birthday at this point in my life, but I got my hopes up when she told me she was doing something special for me. I at least expected a card because I did make a big deal about her birthday, and also that this is my first birthday after dating for a year. She keeps saying that she has been busy with work and that she still wants to do something even though it has been a month and a half. How should I be reacting to this? She even bought a special dress for the dinner, that I have never seen her wear.

[pei08]

When I'm dating my current boyfriend, he keeps asking me for selfies. I asked him once why he needs my pictures and he told me he'd make a video for our monthsary and my birthday. So when I finally said yes to him, I was expecting he'd send the video on our first monthsary but nada, aside from his usual sweet text, he did nothing. I thought maybe on the next? Second month and still nothing. Then my birthday came and he texted me sweet msgs but still nothing. Fast forward we've been together for 8 months and his birthday came. My initial plan was to buy him a gift and send it over bc we can't see each other due to Covid restrictions. I planned to make a video compilation of pictures. I thought of writing a letter. But here comes all the memories of disappointments over the last 8 months and the evil me thought of a plan. I called him, I talked about his upcoming birthday, casually, making sure he knows that I know the date. A day before his birthday, I didn't text or call him. And on his birthday, I didn't do anything. Until he texted me at 10 pm saying he thought I was planning a surprise. No I didn't. I've read his text the next day because I fell asleep. So why did I do such thing? Quite simple. f you guys expect to be treated special, make your woman feel special too. If you can't make her feel that way, don't expect her to go all out for you. Girls never forget special ocassion but we can ignore them when the need arises.

[hisangel]

OH HELL NO!

I honestly can't even think of a logical thing to tell you to do because that p*sses me off so much!

I am the same way where my birthday really isn't that big of a deal but in relationships birthdays are sacred. It's OK for everyone else to send you a card but your boyfriend/girlfriend needs to go all out!

The first year together and she did this?!

The first year I was with my partner I made him a sweater and I don't even know how to knit! It looked like a blink woman made it! But I spent multiple hours making it for him and I don't feel like I am some great girlfriend for doing that. That's just what you do!

I would tell you to let her know how much it sucks that you went all out for her birthday and she couldn't even come spend time with you on yours. But if she isn't making an effort on the first birthday that is not a good sign.

[jennifer_bloom]

She might not have the money to buy you a gift due to family debt or emergency money needs but if she had the money and time and did nothing - I would be upset