Girlfriend hates her birthday?

[BurlyMan]

So it's my girlfriend's birthday today and at first I wanted to go see her and spend time with her. But she has to take a test on her birthday and needs to study. So I was wishing her a happy birthday and trying to spoil her over text messages (like a bunch of compliments, trying to make today all about her). But she told me that today isn't special and she wanted to only focus on me. I got a little mad at that and told her no, I was going to treat her special. Well we got into a little argument over it and she told me that everyone forgets her birthday and I should too. She said something always goes wrong and to not spoil her or anything different. I guess she ended up crying cause of the argument and now she thinks I'm gonna break up with her. I don't know what to do, I just wanted to treat her special for her birthday is all.

[jjjjj06]

honestly i hate my birthday bc of my childhood and my boyfriend doesn’t know why i hate it. for her birthday just act like it’s a normal day maybe take her out for dinner and tell her happy birthday once in the morning and maybe once more. make it known you haven’t forgotten but don’t over due it. watch her favorite movie with her with her fav candy. and take her out for dinner maybe go do something like shopping i’d she likes that

[Anonymous]

That’s a typical ——- behavior so you can stop caring for them so they can go be with the other person they are dating.

[BurlyMan]

No, she's not cheating on me. She has very low self-esteem though and borderline depression though.

[MORPHEUS_12]

No it's NOT. I have a friend who is my age and she doesn't like to celebrate her birthday. She doesn't have her birthday on her Facebook profile. Even for the people who actually know it she hates it if they post to her Facebook wall birthday greetings. This woman is a hard nut to crack and I believe that its it's something in their childhood that was traumatic that caused them to be this way. Chances are she is not very trusting of people and you may never know what the reasons are. She could be one who is so used to pushing people away out of fear of becoming attached and you leaving her.