What would you do if your girlfriend hates flowers and chocolates?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend (of a year) hates it when I touched her breasts (she finds it disrespectful) or try and eat her out (she doesn't really like it). How can turn her on?

She also doesn't like the traditional flowers and chocolate. She thinks its over done. Its mainly her ex boyfriend's fault. Anytime he messes up he got her flowers and chocolates. Then she just sick of them. I need ideas in case I messed up.

[redheadbabygirl]

awwww! that's so sweet that you're really trying!

and that just happens to be the key right there. TRYING. Flowers and chocolates are nice, (and fantastic on some occasions imo) but there isn't a whole lot of thought or originality there. Heck, you could do that for a blind date! When you get her something, to personalize it a little more. Does she like animals? buy her a puppy. Does she like clothes? get her a gift certificate to a store she likes. Books? buy her that new novel she's been dying to read. etc. She will appreciate it so much more, and she won't have any negative associations with it.such as her exbf trying to appease her after he goofed up. Not your fault, but keep in mind that you can do better!

About touching--every girl is different as to what turns her on. I personally love it when my boyfriend hugs me really tight and rubs my waist and the small of my back just underneath my shirt. It feels so good, and I don't get a dirty feeling as I'm 16 and not ready for that "mature" stuff yet.

And I wouldn't assume that just because she doesn't like to do certain things now she will always feel that way about it. Or maybe (like me) she's waiting for marriage before she has the big IT and wants you to take it slower so that things don't get boring during the long wait. Be patient with her; maybe talk with her about it if you feel comfortable with that. Try different stuff.mix it up a little to keep it exciting, but don't scare her. If you're trying something new (and you're more experienced than she is) then go really slow; talk her through it, and if she asks you to stop or slow down, DO IT! She will appreciate you being a gentleman, which I am sure that you are.

good luck--tell me if it works! :)

mind if I ask for advice on how I can turn my boyfriend on (without sex)? thanks!

[Simple-Simonette]

The most sincerest apology beats flower and chocolates any day. I always like letters, weird I know, but a nice card and a heart felt love letter was the key to my forgiveness.

As for turning her on, every woman is different. Communication is the key. Ask her about what she likes, and if she doesn't know - then offer to spend a day finding out.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

First of all being on ur side I would love 2 b with you seem really enjoyful lol no affence but I think she's bein ungrateful I think she needs 2 stop she shouldn't b blaming you 4 her ex's mistakes if you really wanna b wit her stay but if you tried of it I think you should move on.

On her side it seems lik she really was feelin her ex. N that can really mess up a girl wen she really had feelings 4 him. So slow down wit her try talkin c what she likes since it seems lik she don't wanna b touched let her no you not gonna hurt her slowly caress her (slowly) lik soft kisses a nice massage wen you think she fells more comfrontable level up complement her mayb she needs tim 2 get over sumthings I mean I use 2 b lik tat he use 2 caress let me no I'm safe in his arms complimented me and tok it slowly I got use 2 it. So hope tis helped u. Good luck

[Anonymous]

first of all, what girl hates flowers and chocolate?

i really don't know what to tell you!?