I hate my friend’s girlfriend. How do I handle this?

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I have a group of friends and one of them went through a rough break up with his first love. He met this girl who is a freak. A complete psycho and the rest of the group knows our boy is only doing this as a rebound. He invents her over to hang with us all the time. And I’m super uncomfortable with her around as is the rest of us. She’s ugly, and she’s kinda like the villain from Fatal Attraction. We all would like it if she’d stop coming around. How do I deal with this. I don’t want to even see her freakin face but our guy really likes her. Any advice?

jss123 · Accepted Answer

Sometimes friends need to hear these things bluntly. My previous girlfriend was not good for me. She always wanted me to buy her expensive things but didn't see me as her boyfriend in reality. She in the end accidentally admitted it by saying something she probably didn't mean to.

A few weeks before that my friends sat me down and told me they were concerned that she was using me. Until they did that I didn't realise it.
After she accidentally blurted out how she saw me, I asked her if she had any feelings for me at all she didn't answer the question at all and she cut me out of her life very suddenly.
Afterwards I realised I was spending about 25% of my salary on things she wanted, taking her out etcetera. All for a non existant relationship. This fake relationship lasted a year and a half after I asked her if she would be interested in having a relationship with me. She said yes.
Sometimes friends need to hear the hard truth. It hurt for a while but it was definitely the best thing they've ever done for me.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Sorry for your loss... I too have lost many bros to some woman that is just a mess.

Think about it... she cringes the shit out of all of you and I would bet my fingers that she's been like that with all people before she got with your friend. Your friend obviously hit a low point and that's how she got in there at all.

From my experience, my advice is to watch him get isolated by her and let go of the bond you once shared. Watch him (and her) turn on anyone that tries to speak any reason to him.

Some women just conflict with every human they meet... even the man they dig their claws into. But they won't let the prey they dig their claws into go until they're finished.

Angelina25 · Accepted Answer

Yeah tell me about it.
My friend's boyfriend is weird. Like he's nice and stuff but the minute she got a boyfriend, she started to ignore me. I talked to her. She says she's gonna try her best.
It's come to the point that I really don't like them together anymore.

But then again, not my tea to drink. So yeah. I just go on with it.

stardust101 · Accepted Answer

Why do you believe she’s psycho? And, you can’t really “do” anything about him inviting her over, you can’t control anybody but you can separate yourself from the group. Or tell your friend to find another rebound

Anonymous · Answer

Ask her to hang out with just you so you can get to know her better. If you get to know her better just the two of you maybe you will change your mind about her or maybe they will break up cause you hung out with her alone. Take my advice cause I'm a strange on the internet who has thought this through and cares for you deeply (:

1stPlace · Answer

Respect his decision, but you stay away from her. We all eventually have a friend or a sibling who has a girlfriend or boyfriend that we don't care for. It's not our decision to make! If you don't like her, stay away!

TonyBologna25 · Answer

It’s one of those things where he’s going to have to learn this on his own.

fueledbythc · Answer

just tell him not to invite her out when you guys hang out. its as simple as that.

PondyPand · Answer

Grow up. Not up to you. If you value your friend, you put up with her, otherwise your friend needs to find himelf better friends

Paris13 · Answer

Try and Make Plans without her with just your Bud BUT.. SAY NOTHING TO HIM ABOUT THE SHE DEVIL. xx

BCA6010 · Answer

Just say something to the effect of "look man, the rest of the guys and I have been talking and..." Insert your honest opinion here.

ConfusedKid101 · Answer

Yikes. I'd tell him to only hang out with her when it's just him. And have many Guys Nights to have fun

Fiiggy · Answer

Keep your mouth shut or you'll likely loose your friend. You don't have to hang out with her, just don't interact with her. It hopefully won't last so just be patient.

leahzrc · Answer

Just treat her with respect, she won't be in your life forever

Anonymous · Answer

Wait so your only complaints are that he's rebounding, and you think she's ugly? Mind your own fucking business.

If you keep this up, in 15 years you're going to be one of those crazy people on Nextdoor who complains endlessly about how your neighbors take their yard

Allaroundbest · Answer

Tell her to GOO AWAY!! No jk lol lmao. Seriously tell your boy to have a guys night and not invite girls and don’t hang out with your gang when she’s around.

Jugyeong_lim · Answer

Just tell her that you're uncomfortable. If all your other friends hate her too then u all can talk to your friend about this.

boggboss · Answer

Stop acting like a little bitch boi about speak to him or learn to get use to it

Anonymous · Answer

It's not your business!!! If he is really your friend you should be happy for him and not call his girlfriend a freak. She is a freak just because you don't think that she is pretty? Sorry, but you're the freak in this group.

ask4any · Answer

Get different friends

Gamillions · Answer

STAY away. stay far far way.

Anonymous · Answer

It is none of your business

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