I hate my friend’s girlfriend. How do I handle this?

[Anonymous]

I have a group of friends and one of them went through a rough break up with his first love. He met this girl who is a freak. A complete psycho and the rest of the group knows our boy is only doing this as a rebound. He invents her over to hang with us all the time. And I’m super uncomfortable with her around as is the rest of us. She’s ugly, and she’s kinda like the villain from Fatal Attraction. We all would like it if she’d stop coming around. How do I deal with this. I don’t want to even see her freakin face but our guy really likes her. Any advice?

[jss123]

Sometimes friends need to hear these things bluntly. My previous girlfriend was not good for me. She always wanted me to buy her expensive things but didn't see me as her boyfriend in reality. She in the end accidentally admitted it by saying something she probably didn't mean to.

A few weeks before that my friends sat me down and told me they were concerned that she was using me. Until they did that I didn't realise it.
After she accidentally blurted out how she saw me, I asked her if she had any feelings for me at all she didn't answer the question at all and she cut me out of her life very suddenly.
Afterwards I realised I was spending about 25% of my salary on things she wanted, taking her out etcetera. All for a non existant relationship. This fake relationship lasted a year and a half after I asked her if she would be interested in having a relationship with me. She said yes.
Sometimes friends need to hear the hard truth. It hurt for a while but it was definitely the best thing they've ever done for me.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Sorry for your loss... I too have lost many bros to some woman that is just a mess.

Think about it... she cringes the shit out of all of you and I would bet my fingers that she's been like that with all people before she got with your friend. Your friend obviously hit a low point and that's how she got in there at all.

From my experience, my advice is to watch him get isolated by her and let go of the bond you once shared. Watch him (and her) turn on anyone that tries to speak any reason to him.

Some women just conflict with every human they meet... even the man they dig their claws into. But they won't let the prey they dig their claws into go until they're finished.

[Asker]

You said it all man. All these other people are being rude and saying I’m the asshole but you summed it up perfectly. My pal is in a delicate state right now and this chick is self destructive and could ruin him.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Believe me, she's going to ruin him. And just like these cucks, they'll dog pile you for being critical of it at all. Him too.

Like a chick friend that gets with an abusive guy... same shit, she'll push anyone that tries to help away. Despite a group of friends calling that shit out...

It's sad, and I have no real fix for it because from experience... trying to fix it just makes a bunch of people hate on you.

That's why my advice is to just let it go... he cannot hangout no more, because her. The exact same shit you'd see with a female friend that hit a low point and hooked up with a possessive dude.

[Asker]

You’re a good guy and I know you understand what’s happening to our group. It’s a shame That this other bastards think I’m being aggressive when they don’t even know what going on and haven’t been in our situation

[D_Bone_Steak]

I'm just old I think... you just care about a friend, nothing wrong with that. Hypergamy in humans is vicious though.

[stardust101]

@Asker no offense but, the girls are being rude to you because you added in your post how your friend’s girlfriend is ugly, like why is that relevant? I’m just saying, that could possibly have triggered them

[D_Bone_Steak]

2 way question there... why were they offended by that you think?

[stardust101]

@D_Bone_Steak Because it’s discrimination to not like someone just because he/she is ugly

[Asker]

@stardust101 no I’m being shallow by her being ugly. It’d be shallow to say she’s ugly therefore I don’t like her. Her being ugly is relevant because she has no desirable qualities also she is unattractive and in the beginning of dating 80% of the interest is based on looks and physical attraction

[D_Bone_Steak]

I think her being ugly is just part of it. No big deal. Not unless the bulk taking offense to it are ugly fucks. ... but that would be their problem, not his or ours.

[Asker]

Agreed

[Angelina25]

Yeah tell me about it.
My friend's boyfriend is weird. Like he's nice and stuff but the minute she got a boyfriend, she started to ignore me. I talked to her. She says she's gonna try her best.
It's come to the point that I really don't like them together anymore.

But then again, not my tea to drink. So yeah. I just go on with it.

[stardust101]

Why do you believe she’s psycho? And, you can’t really “do” anything about him inviting her over, you can’t control anybody but you can separate yourself from the group. Or tell your friend to find another rebound

[Asker]

She’s a psycho because she is pumped full of drugs, she’s obsessive, she lives with a cocaine addict and hides all their paraphernalia and guns. And I’m not American so illegal firearms is a serous thing in England. And the cops tale her.

[Anonymous]

Ask her to hang out with just you so you can get to know her better. If you get to know her better just the two of you maybe you will change your mind about her or maybe they will break up cause you hung out with her alone. Take my advice cause I'm a strange on the internet who has thought this through and cares for you deeply (:

[Asker]

No I already know her I’ve known her for a while. She’s trouble pal. But thanks for your advice

[1stPlace]

Respect his decision, but you stay away from her. We all eventually have a friend or a sibling who has a girlfriend or boyfriend that we don't care for. It's not our decision to make! If you don't like her, stay away!

[TonyBologna25]

It’s one of those things where he’s going to have to learn this on his own.

[Asker]

True

[fueledbythc]

just tell him not to invite her out when you guys hang out. its as simple as that.

[Asker]

Thank you for not being rude about it. You’re the man ✌🏻👍🏻🇬🇧

[fueledbythc]

also, get your homies to tell him at the same time. if she ruins boys night then there's a huge problem

[Asker]

Agreed and If there’s one thing we Britts love is boys night and beer Tuesday

[PondyPand]

Grow up. Not up to you. If you value your friend, you put up with her, otherwise your friend needs to find himelf better friends

[Asker]

Well let’s not talk about him being the better friend he locked me in an industrial freezer for 2 hours

[PondyPand]

Probably deserved it with your attitude,

[Asker]

Well we can all be winners 😏 which explains you!! No just kidding we like to have fun here but the freezer hurt.

[Truthatanycost]

That's cold man.

[Asker]

@Truthatanycost you’re not kidding it’s cold. I had to go to a hospital 🧐

[Paris13]

Try and Make Plans without her with just your Bud BUT.. SAY NOTHING TO HIM ABOUT THE SHE DEVIL. xx

[BCA6010]

Just say something to the effect of "look man, the rest of the guys and I have been talking and..." Insert your honest opinion here.

[ConfusedKid101]

Yikes. I'd tell him to only hang out with her when it's just him. And have many Guys Nights to have fun

[Fiiggy]

Keep your mouth shut or you'll likely loose your friend. You don't have to hang out with her, just don't interact with her. It hopefully won't last so just be patient.

[leahzrc]

Just treat her with respect, she won't be in your life forever

[Anonymous]

Wait so your only complaints are that he's rebounding, and you think she's ugly? Mind your own fucking business.

If you keep this up, in 15 years you're going to be one of those crazy people on Nextdoor who complains endlessly about how your neighbors take their yard

[Asker]

No, ok no don’t be rude that isn’t my complaint. My complaint is that she is self destructive, a drug addict, does criminal behavior and lives with a cocaine addict.

[Opinion Owner]

Bahahahahaha love how you change your story once you get called out...

[Asker]

Bahahaha I love how your an idiot who’s doesn’t know what they are talking about and hasn’t been in this situation and should take your douche bag attitude somewhere else. Goodbye now.

[Opinion Owner]

I love how you keep changing your story

[Asker]

You’re such a moron. You don’t know shit. Story changed my ass you jack ass

[Opinion Owner]

You started by calling her a psycho and ugly. The rest only was invented by you when you were called out for being a tool

[Asker]

No you’re such an idiot shut the hell up. You’re the tool and a pussy faggot now get lost and get a life. You’re so wrong you make Joseph Stalin Look right. Dumb ass.

[Opinion Owner]

That response is how I know I'm right

[Asker]

No. All of what you said is false. Mr. Snide smug arrogant cocky thumb sucker who doesn’t know the difference between a dishwasher and a Mercedes

[Opinion Owner]

Keep crying to yourself lmao

[Allaroundbest]

Tell her to GOO AWAY!! No jk lol lmao. Seriously tell your boy to have a guys night and not invite girls and don’t hang out with your gang when she’s around.

[Jugyeong_lim]

Just tell her that you're uncomfortable. If all your other friends hate her too then u all can talk to your friend about this.

[boggboss]

Stop acting like a little bitch boi about speak to him or learn to get use to it

[Asker]

You don’t have to be an asshole dude, I just asked a simple question

[boggboss]

A simple question that has a simple answer lol why make a big issue over nothing your acting like a 12 year Old

[Asker]

Well at least I’m not ghetto trash you rat mutt

[boggboss]

Ghetto trash ahahahahahah what a clown 😁 that's a good one look stop acting like you need your mother to make choices for you 🤣

[PondyPand]

@boggboss he's literally proving your point!😂😂😂

[boggboss]

I love it such a child some of these guys on here are getting propper annoying whining like children

[Charlietheman]

@PondyPand @boggboss what’s the matter with you people. You were being very rude to the guy for no reason. To quote Billy Madison, “a simple wrong would have done fine”

[boggboss]

I sure he got the jist of it from what I said but th for the input

[Anonymous]

It's not your business!!! If he is really your friend you should be happy for him and not call his girlfriend a freak. She is a freak just because you don't think that she is pretty? Sorry, but you're the freak in this group.

[Asker]

No she’s acting inappropriately, her behavior is criminal and he’s only wanted to be with her because he’s still heart broken

[Asker]

And you don’t have to be rude, you don’t know what it’s like. He’s in a delicate state and she’s going to ruin him with her self destructive way of life.

[Allaroundbest]

Yo don’t be an asshole! From the comments he responded to on other responses she’s a nut bag. And I bet you’ve never been in his spot before so take your attitude some where else

[Opinion Owner]

He did not say she is criminal. And when it's just about her being a bad person, why is it important to tell us that she is supposedly ugly?
His friend is also not a good person if he abuses her only as a gap filler.

[Opinion Owner]

No, I won't take my attitude some where else!!! He asked for advice and for an opinion and that is my opinion. Just because you do not like my opinion, you do not have to throw insults at me right away. This behavior says a lot about your own character.

[Asker]

Well she is criminally inclined. So no offense I’m tired of explaining it and commenting about it if you want to find out her criminal behavior than just scroll and look at my replies and comments on others take. But her being ugly is relevant to this because the initial stages of dating 80% of your beginning interests of the potential partner are based on physical appearance. And she doesn’t have any good qualities to her. Which means that there should be no reason he likes her. All of my friends see it and know he’s only going after her just so he can have a girl and get easy pickins as we say in England.

[Allaroundbest]

Yo ass is a hypocrite sista. You insulted this mowa fucka who askd this question because you didn’ lik what he had 2 say. And you mad because you took this an attack on all girls just because one guy has one problem with a particular girl you jus throw ya self into a comment war to defend a girl because you take it personal. That shows a lot about yo characta honey. You a pity emotional bitch

[ask4any]

Get different friends

[Gamillions]

STAY away. stay far far way.

[Anonymous]

It is none of your business

[Anonymous]

What did she do?

[Asker]

She is pumped full of drugs, she said she’s living with a cocaine addict and she hides their guns and drug paraphernalia