Would you rather have someone plan a special surprise like a nice dinner for a birthday or anniversary, or do you prefer to receive a gift?
It is more about the happy flow in the moment for me. My thought would be to know the party with whom one is engaged, therefore, I am going to go with the flow of the Giver. If i knew you were a "do, fix, make things go away" personality then I would lead you in a way where one of your or Our "Things to do" would be accomplished. At that moment, you would be so happy, beautiful, and accomplished I would have to tag you on the Spot.
Some give in Service (s) that they interpret the Gifted sees enjoyable or will make another's list of "Things To Do" or sometimes both in the same "Gift". While other women I have known expression of love was to get things or gifts for others. I always received them with two open hands. It was the equivalent of sexual act for her. I didn't want it but if she thought it was needed etc.
I have some "in your face friends"..."Hey Loverboy, this girl is trying to move in... can't you see what is going on... I can't wait to see what kind of bed she thinks will be good for you two love palace."
Anyway, I'm looking for the shared happy moment vibe. One can never go wrong with one particular and eyes up please Act of Service no matter what your man is like...
As long as it's not a surprise. I've got surprised today and had to cancel something very important. I didn't say no, it's been months since we spoke. But I need to know ahead of time. Not "We're going there, and you're coming with, right?" No gifts, something special is okay, but it doesn't need to be special. Being together and spending time together is special enough.
I selected "I want them both". I really do enjoy surprises, and I am a really good sport when a special event/surprise comes my way. That being said, every once in a while, usually for our wedding anniversary or my birthday my husband and kids will come up with such an amazing gift idea that's totally out of left field. It's not necessarily anything expensive, but completely unexpected and very cherishable :-). They seem to come up with these ideas every other year or so. I have a strong feeling that there is some thing special in the works for our wedding anniversary which is coming up within a couple of months, I think this one is going to be a gift :-).
Both haha.
But if I couldn't have both, I'd rather have option A. A gift is nice, but spending quality time with the person and storing that memory in your memory bank forever is priceless.
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I am a kind of person who just never expects anything from anyone. And this may be strange but I find of birthdays, anniversaries etc. quite embarrassing, I hate to be the focus of things. But it all depends of the gift or outing to say which one is better. But I think I'd rather do something than get a gift.
I am at the stage in my life where I have enough material things. I have been hinting to my kids that I would like to go white water rafting. So far nobody has figured it out.
Plan something special if they let me know ahead of time. Often I plan things for the weekend since I am off of work. However almost every weekend on Friday night someone will call wanting me to do something with them. Sometimes I change my plans but most of the time I refuse.
I just appreciate the effort. I'm not going to dictate how she shows it. So I guess I'd lean towards time spent together.
u Both are greatly appreciated, but given the choices I'd rather someone plan something special where we can spend time together. My husband does this for me sometimes, and I love it!
u Both are good, but I like planned events better. My wife is very creative with stuff like that.
Spending time with loved ones is way better than any gift.
It does not have to be something extravagant special planning either!
No, I never want any gifts or anything special from anyone.
u something special for both, with her... 111%
Quality time over materialistic item any day. But if it's a gift that has a real meaning behind it, then I will cherish it.
To be honest, neither. If someone loves me enough to plan something or buy me a gift, I just want their affection. I don't need stuff/ events to quantity it.
Honestly neither, I'm not a big fan of my birthday being celebrated and if it's an anniversary I'd prefer being the one who plans something.
Depends on what is being planned... I like to plan trips and stuff but if you mean a date for dinner or show, sure
I would like to be surprised with a outting for my birthday at least once. Never experienced it. Fml. Gifts not so much.
both because i deserve the best and haven't been getting it.
I'd rather they skipped the gifts and surprises and just spend quality time together
Dinner is good. No damn gifts or material nonsense unless is essentials I need.
Neither one really. I don't do well with gifts or special treatment.
Quality time together is more memorable
Its the kind of effort and love a person shows is important.
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