My boyfriend is going to a strip club for his 21st birthday!

[twiggysauris-rex]

Idk how I feel about this...I don't really trust my boyfriend he's cheated before and I gave him a second chance. There's nothing I can do to stop him he already told me that. He always does what he wants you know? He never asks he tells me and that's how it is. Anyway how would you feel about this... I feel a little upset and scared but at the same time I don't want to come off as an over bearing gf...but I know he would never let me do anything like this. Thanks

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It also kinda hurts that he doesn't want to down some of his b day with me ... :( dad panda

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Lol I mean sad panda

[zombiefood]

Personally I wouldn't want my boyfriend going to a strip club, for any occasion. The whole thing about wanting to look at other girls and just get a bit of an excitement from that shows how immature he is.If you're really committed to someone, you really love someone you don't want to go to strip clubs and look at other girls, you don't want a fun free night because that's how you see nights with your significant other. I'm going to get a lot of hate for this but I just see no reason why a guy would want to go to a strip club that would be acceptable.

If I were you I would just talk to him about it all calm and collected like, like mature adults and all that. Don't yell or get upset but let him know how you feel and what you want from him and all that. Like real live grownups.

[Prof_Don]

I disagree with you to a point...if he hasn't ever been to one, then the experience imo is a rite of passage.

[zombiefood]

Which is fine if he's single, or just turned eighteen. But at twenty-one and in a relationship you're too old for "rite of passage". That's like "oh well you can't be a grown man unless you chug a gallon of beer. It's immature and silly. Especially the whole stigma of "bachelor party stripper". It just makes me uncomfortable, regardless of the reason and I don't see a problem with asking him not to go.

[aly-marie]

I know most people say it's not a big deal, but honestly I'd probably feel insecure about it, knowing that he's going just to look at half-naked girls. I may consider going WITH him, but I wouldn't really want him to go with his friends, sometimes guys egg each other on too much.

And I know this isn't relevant to your question, but are you sure this is the right guy for you? He doesn't seem to respect your feelings or opinions very much if he never asks, just tells.

[twiggysauris-rex]

I offered to go with, but he won't let me he says its a guys night and is ruin it

[jesstacia]

Dump him. He seems to show you no respect. He would go to a strip club over you and ditch you to spend time on his special day for friends, not you. He's cheated on you and he's supposed to compensate, not hurt your feelings any further. He doesn't seem to care about how you feel. He's not worth your time.

[Prof_Don]

W/ this dude's past...if you forgave him for cheating, he should be able to make this adjustment for you.

Imo that's not asking too much.

Have you talked to him in a one-on-one private setting about this?

[CuriousEddie]

Is he still going, or did he change his mind? I assume a bunch of his friends want to take him, and it isn't his idea, right? Have you talked to him about it?

[Anonymous]

I personally wouldn't mind the whole strip club thing. Actually I'd kind of want to go with him, but the fact that he has cheated on you in the past is kind of sh*tty. If he doesn't show any remorse or anything over cheating on you, then I wouldn't even be with him.

[twiggysauris-rex]

I said I'd like to go too but he said no because its just him and his guy friends

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, I'd be fine with that too.

[siquetumeamaste]

I would feel really upset about it... it doesn't seem fair, especially with his past :(

[Saber6]

...if he have girlfriend why he go to s..club?

[moviedude714]

i'm surprised you gave him a second chance