What do people mean when they say they don't want 'drama'?

[Anonymous]

What would you describe 'drama' as and why do people not like it?

[Tamikaze]

IMO, it means "I don't want you to disagree with me or tell me no."

So, I think it should mean that you don't want to be around someone who is immature, exaggerates, wants to be the center of attention, acts like their problems are so unique, so beyond belief, so much worse than anything you are experiencing.

In practice, though, I have found this gets used frequently by a person who doesn't like what you have to tell them. In fact, it's the drama queens who seem to most frequently pull this card when you are not going along with their foolishness. I guess that is because those of us who don't like drama wouldn't even waste our time telling someone they are drama, we just stop hanging out with them.

[cazza3]

What's there to like about it?. Its draining and tiresome to try and deal with someone who constantly needs to be the centre of attention, is always bitching about something or someone, when every little thing becomes a big deal, find the need to argue and bicker about everything with everyone, are incapable of just letting things go. It shows immaturity and selfishness.

[Anonymous]

I usually think of drama as people who like to start stuff for no reason. They just want to stir the pot to make other people mad. They like to start fights between two people. There is a woman I work with like that. She managed to get two guys fighting because of it.

[higherthanaveragejoe]

Long drawn out bullsh*t about nothing actually important that can only lead to stressing you out. I try to avoid it for the obvious reasons as stated above. Also how are you 30 to 35 years old and not know this already?

[OpenClose]

Drama is what happens when you're trying to run a marathon and a hedge maze appears on the track.

Made of thorned bushes.

[Daph81]

it's when people turn small problems or nothing into big problems.

Why do people not like it?

Well, who likes a situation where something so meaningless was turned into a big deal and people would argue and fight and cry and whatever over it. It's just a waste of time and energy and emotionally exhausting.

[Ki-Ki]

Unnecessary stress which could've been avoided is how I view the word. I wouldn't fancy it because I deal with plenty on my own and pride myself in ability to keep a low stress life. I wouldn't want to loose my appreciation of myself or people in my life due to added stressors and tension.

[Anonymous]

Drama is the petty things people do like start rumors and gossip behind their so-called friends backs because they have nothing more interesting to do with their life. Dramatic people tend to feel the need to be the center of attention and if attention slips from them to someone or something else, they throw a fit just so people will pay attention to them again. Its immature, stupidity that is frankly a waste of time and energy.

[Anonymous]

Females have a habit of creating problems in order to have something to complain about. This is usually a result of being treated well, or having things actually going normally in the relationship. They cannot handle that, so as a result they create drama.

[InvisibleNinja]

"Drama" means anything that happens to you that you don't want to, you immediately start complaining about it and it turns into a huge issue. Nobody wants drama because dealing with someone that has these problems is not fun, and they are often very stubborn and hard headed lol. Its best to simply ignore anyone having these issues and turning small problems into big ones. I know that's what I would do.

[emzy-89]

It means that they don't want to be around people who over-react, are immature and just cause problems where there shouldn't be any problems...Why do people not like it?...Because it's freaking annoying!

[islands7]

AGREED

[confugirl]

Overly drawing attention to yourself by (sub)consciously starting fights, gossip, rumors, reading into words etc. Malicious things. I avoid it because I don't like confrontation, yelling or irrational people.

[why-makoto-kun]

Drama consists of lies, immaturity, overreactions, etc. Or, small issues getting blown up into something bigger. Worst of all is the person who creates problems, like rumors, backstabbing, etc.

[why-makoto-kun]

I should clarify that some people mislabel emotional people "dramatic," or people who are just open with their emotions and feelings. That is not drama.

[temptationfalls]

To me, drama involves conflict. Verbal especially. I don't want a girl causing a big deal over tons of random little pointless things.

[Carnage]

Ha ha ha, "drama" is when you're interacting with people and someone somewhere starts feeling things they don't want to feel despite the fact that it's probably themselves that is the cause of the drama.

[TadCurious]

I would say that constant interpersonal conflict with shallow displays of emotion would be a form of drama.

[Anonymous]

Drama to me is lying, acting fake, starting rumors, and doing stuff for attention, this is the typical girl drama most of the time. Drama for guys to me is kinda like lying about his gf saying they banged or just exaggerating making him look good and her look bad, or him thinking he is big and bad and threatens to fight other people yet he can't even win an arm wrestle those type of guys to me seem to start a lot of "drama"

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

That they dislike bad social situations with tension and shit

[kangaru]

too much unnecessary attention especially over small things. I don't like it because it is like a spotlight on small thing which is not necessary.

[aMuse]

They want action! Explosions, car chases, fight scenes, you know the deal. =P

[Taeyeon0424]

I think it points mostly to overreacting. Making it a big deal.

[Anonymous]

I would say drama would be like getting in other people's unnecessary business. Like putting your two cents in everywhere. You know? People would think it's annoying & not your place.

[Anonymous]

Stupid fights about stupid things that aren't necessary. It just drains people and takes a lot of emotion to deal with.

[Anonymous]

Drama is like saying sad things and not being positive

[Anonymous]

Oh god how cant u know ur probs another dumb American tskk