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AbdKilani

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So today my topic is about personal insecurities, and what can we do about them:

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Before I start, I have a few personal words to each and every one of you here:

I know it is hard to believe it, but you are all great and good, by heart and soul, pretty and standards of looks doesn't matter as much as you think. In my first LDR I didn't see the girl's face till weeks of chatting, that she was pretty in heart and soul (okay she was lying to me all the time ), but the point is looks aren't everything. You can be as shallow as a puddle but when you meet the right person it won't be anymore. Think about others, and think about how they feel when you shame them or don't accept them, put yourself in their shoes and try to be nice and more accepting of others.

Don't keep worrying about it, you are perfect as you are, if you want to be better that does mean you are improving perfect.

As you know, I have asked a couple of questions earlier and i got a good results:

Where you more insecure when you where younger?

Are you insecure about your self and how old are you?

It did vary and I saw many different views on this topic but in general people had the same thing, now I will put my theories and you can discuss them too with me:

1. As you age you become less insecure

Today's teens concern
Today's teens concern

It is not 100% that way, but it is mostly like that. Unfortunately I didn't put the poll options so the results aren't easy to analyze but I will give the general view on this. I had 26 opinions that are in result of this, others are of out of this theory:

1. Yes i got over it (or it became less important): 11 (43%)


2. No , still feels the same: 4 (15%)

3. It got more important as I grew up: 8 (31%)

4. I don't have insecurities at all young or old: 3 (11%)

Now we have the results, my focus was on 1 and 3, so lets see why those two are important:

1. Yes i got over it (or it became less important):

So as we grow up, we become less invested in looks and more interested in personality. We also develop love and acceptance for ourselves, it is true that our bodies would change and they become in the best shape in our 20's and the people around us doesn't care much about our looks as to our personality.

"I feel like when you get older you realize you have no time to care about other people and how other people are all judgy so i deff would say you mostly grow out of it" - @toby7116

3. It got more important as I grew up:

It didn't cross my mind, but I see it is somewhat true. Now it might be that you didn't do anything about your body and you have been rejected too much to think any good of yourself. Sadly that is not a good thing, you need to change your mindset, you are now mature and intelligent. Looks are not everything it worth less than when you were younger.

"Well it depends on the situation, I didn't think about it back then as insecurity so in a sense I have grown more insecure now." - @beardedboy

2. Today's generation have it harder because of higher standards and social media

90's teenagers
90's teenagers

I don't remember growing up seeing many of that models and perfect looking people. It was less stressful and more easy. We didn't have good quality videos or pictures or Photoshop that brought the standards higher and made it harder, we didn't focus much on nudes and sexualizing men/women as it is now.

Results:

Born after 1997: 57 % were insecure (43 persons)

Born before 1996: 16 % were insecure (12 persons)

Born after 1997: 10% were secure (7 persons)

Born before 1996: 17% were secure (13 persons)

The number says it all people.

This sums it up
This sums it up

So these are the results. As a follow up, I have one more thing to add, that is it depends too on the geographic location because I see that in my country it is less stressful to care about looks or it is less to be insecure and relaxed.

Please be aware of your own daemons, you are almost always blinded by them. You look good you should start feeling good and stop feeling bad about yourself. God made you this way and in today's world it is changeable. If you are skinny, start working out. If you are out of shape, go work out. If you feel you are not attractive, change your look or hair cut. Try to smile and put your charisma out there. Don't overthink it, just be yourself.

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