Stop Treating Autism Like it's a Bad Thing!

[Anonymous]

PLEASE...I cannot stress this enough, people tell you to be yourself but then others tell you to get rid of autism and cure it, they tell you its the worst thing in the world, that you need help, that they are somehow superior then you.

Well no..you're wrong. If you are someone that thinks they are perfect and thinks that autistic people need help please just shut up because everyone is different so therefore being autistic is ok, because anyone can have autistic traits and that's fine and why do we call it autistic traits anyway...they're human traits.

Yes some people with autism need help, some have it really bad and I'm not talking about them..I'm talking about the independent, a little troubled mild autistic kids that can cope..yes maybe they stress over things but who doesn't? Maybe they are shy but that's normal, if you keep telling them that they need help and keep insisting that they aren't normal..then you are killing their self esteem.

I for one can hide my "Autism" very well..and my mum used to make it a big deal..she told me that she was like my soul protector who taught me how not to be autistic, but hell no..I realize not that even she has mistakes, she's blunt and outspoken...so she may possibly be autistic...she thinks she's so normal which is what I hate.

Telling autistic kids that they arn't normal is one thing..but telling them that you can help them is another, if the kid/teen doesn't even want your help, didn't ask for it and didn't even bring up that they have autism then just let them be.

example

"Hi how are you.." - autistic person

"HI :), do you need help today sweetie...i noticed you have autism on your profile, maybe go to a psychologist and don't take this issue so lightly, we all want you to cope fine and be ok."

That was an actual conversation...You changing the bloody subject out of nothing and legit we all have some autistic traits, honestly HUMAN traits, let people live for god sake. If we just condescend people with disabilities then they will grow up thinking they need help all the time..or even get sick of the help and never accept it ever again, We are all different, we all have flaws so mind your own business and leave them alone.

Yes I have autism, yes I struggle a little, no I'm fine thanks, yep I can cope with it myself. MY personality has nothing to do with my disabilities (Autism and social anxiety), I consider myself really loyal, confused often, distracted sometimes, caring, emotional, shy, logical, overthinks everything, observant and should I even go on? What is the point of just talking like you're the smartest person in the world and assuming that everyone with autism needs help?

Like tbh if you speak like that maybe it is you who needs help.

"you get angry because you're autistic"

"Nope, I get angry because it's normal"

"but you get really angry"

"Well apparently my zodiac sign aries made me angry..or maybe it is autism, who tf cares?"

".....I'm a leo"

(Another *fun* actual real life convo with someone)

Also I'm going to be a little stereotypical here, but most autistic people actually are very very funny and smart. I for example can take things the wrong way sometimes (which is also a social anxiety trait :P) and I also can get upset easily (a sa trait as well) but I am aware of those flaws so I use them in jokes and it makes many laugh..I also purposely act stupid or take things literally whether it's to annoy people who treat me like shit or it's to make people laugh.

I think I've ranted too much so I'm just going to shut up but please remember (if you do) don't treat people with disabilities like they need help..unless they are clearly suffering or ask for it. If not, focus on yourself and your flaws first.

I personally love black cats but i didn't know what other pic to use lmao

Thank you.

[virginbish]

I agree, and tbh, some NT's can relate a lot to autistics if they are prone to social anxiety too and will realize that they have much in common and connect in a way and will see that autism isn't all that different or debilitating. Yes, there are other things that come from autism that may be unique to them, but honestly, its not all that hard to connect on a purely human level just as you said; they are human traits after all. Even with the repetitive tics, many kids with social/emotional stress have tics as well... people need to see past the "autism bubble" and realize that the person is just overloaded and hopefully they can learn to see these cues and know what to do to make them more comfortable.
I became really close to a person with aspergers online... and I've learned a lot. I wish society/communities/schools could talk about it more as I feel like reading books has really helped me understand what some of it is all about, but its hard for me to put it to use, because... well thats a long story and i can only say so much with a word limit lol. The only thing i will say, is that its really unfortunate that not all autistics are of the "verbal" kind, where they can easily express themselves like you, or even express how they feel or dwelve into their emotions. And i say unfortunate, because i feel like it makes it harder to understand autistic people, but i dont think its impossible. And again, thats where i hope our society will change and hopefully be more skilled and aware of how to communicate with each other, because i feel like we are missing out on so much since society isn't making the effort to be a safe place for autistics. I feel like they really ostracize them for some reason. I hope it changes.
Anyway, i'm glad you opened up this topic, and i hope you continue to advocate and share your experiences. People need to be made aware of how frustrating they can be and how their behaviours come across as rude, overbearing and ignorant.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you for understanding, I really didn't think this many people would actually care and I'm really grateful for all this and you're really a wonderful person, im glad that you don't do the same thing as some others do.

I think that most of our society aren't really helping autistics either, and also i do wish that non verbal autistic people could speak, i know that they show it in beautiful paintings (some of them) but I don't know... they probably get condescended the most which is quite annoying.

Ty for this lovely comment

[virginbish]

I'm really glad you loved my comment <3
I know, i really despise the fact that people who dont know the "language" of the masses get slighted and tend to be shown aggression rather than compassion. And I use language loosely, because body language can also be misinterpreted or even immigrants are shown the same treatment because they dont know English. If we really think about it, its a problem in our society that is affecting human interactions on all fronts.
And thank you for calling me such a wonderful person <3 im sure you are even more wonderful. But on that note, I may be more understanding than most and truly care and want to help, but i also have my own frustrations regarding the matter. For instance, I try my hardest to make the person im close with that is autistic comfortable and at ease, but I what i find comforting is often suffocating for them.

[virginbish]

I almost always end up crying and feeling like a bad human myself because I can't seem to learn of ways to make them comfortable, and they often attack me. I know it hurts them sometimes as much as it hurts me, and that they dont mean it. but it usually ends up with me apologizing most of the time and them thinking its my problem and not theirs. The reason why im sharing so much, is because altho i come off as understanding and trying to help, unfortunately we just dont have the support that we (as a society) need to really communicate well with each other. I know NT's tend to always make things about themselves lol, and autistics really do have a lot to handle alone. But, I guess what im trying to say, is an NT-autistic relationship (whether friendship or romantic) will always have moments where it feels like the two will never understand each other.

[virginbish]

And thats why I really appreciate you opening up, because its so important to find ways to express what you feel and know what you need, because the NTs that really want to understand and are peering into your world from the outside really have no clue xD we really are clueless, so i really hope you keep these following words to heart forever "I'm an NT, and I really am confused as well, but I'm trying, and i know it may not be 100%, but if we both try, i'm sure we will soon understand each other. And hopefully learn to both be happy"

I try to tell the person i talk to the same thing, but its sometimes hard because they've grown so used to living alone and are set in their ways.
also, I know just how important it is to be connected amongst people that truly understand all that you go through day in and out, there's this really good website called "autism network international" i hope it might help you feel connected with a community <3

[AuroraRoseat]

Understandable. Similar to disabled persons or amputees, some of them do not wish to have another's help because it brings to light their disability as if they don't have to live with it. There is a thing as too much pride though.

Your example of the conversation is one that I wouldn't ever do. It's horrible and takes things too far. But I--and some others--genuinely wish to help. I ask them. Now, once that person has said that they don't want help, then I wash my hands clean and I don't help them at all unless if they ask for it.

[myTake Owner]

I'm glad that you care and actually want to help, and the fact that you don't pester them about it if they didn't ask for help on it, its very kind of you ^^ ty

[Juxtapose]

Well mild autism isn't that bad but severe autism would be terrible.

I've qualified for SSI and medicare and it's helped a lot. I used to work part time (couldn't find a full time job) and now I'm basically retired but can still pay rent. I've had sex, relationships and can make friends pretty easily if we're compatible.

My flaws from autism, well I barely notice them anymore since it's been almost 30 years now. I hate high pitched noises, my memory sucks, my sense of navigation sucks, staying focused on a boring task for hours is really rough, I have trouble reading people at times, etc.

[myTake Owner]

But even some people without autism struggle with reading people, and focusing and memory..
like all my friends have problems with memory..

[Juxtapose]

Will the main flaw of autism amounts to being unable to read people or properly emphasize with them, a. k. a, social retardation. Luckily the severity varies and isn't always as stereotyped.

[myTake Owner]

Well bless the lord that i can read people well
and thank fk i have social anxiety (it allows me to overly emphasize with people to the point of wanting to kill myself to save others)

[Juxtapose]

So you're willing to sacrifice yourself for other people? I dunno, I think being a sociopath and focusing on myself would be the easiest way to live.

[myTake Owner]

Id rather have all the empathy in the world then none at all

[Juxtapose]

If you were the best person you possibly could be in an altruistic sense then you would spend all your spare time trying to help people in the worst countries in the world. You would never spend any time for yourself and you would make painstaking efforts to minimize any negative impact you had on the world.

That is a life of a slave.

[myTake Owner]

Well my life basically is
I either feel bad for everyone else..
or want to kill everyone else
personally, i prefer the former, since well you know

I don't understand how to care for myself without coming off as selfish or rude.. (people try to help me but i get sick of their help am i selfish?, no its because im trying to prove that i am strong because they don't think i am. When i don't care for myself and care for others, i get trapped and i start to hate my self and over thnik everything, and tbh if its out of making myself upset or others i choose myself.. because it is wrong to be selfish...

[Juxtapose]

Why the two extremes though (curious)?

I think selfishness is good, because at the end of the day who else is going to take care of you? You only have one life in a seemingly meaningless, finite existence so why not prioritize your own pleasure?

And besides, morality is subjective rather than objective, as in it is completely just a preference just as favorite colors is a preference. Morality is based on empathy are the most popular because empathy is a effective social cohesive for group mammals.

If you are overly empathetic you are being primal in a way. You are letting your group instincts rob you of what could be a wonderful life experience. But you did say you had a choice between two binary extremes which I am curious about.

Feel free to message me. Us autistic fucks should help each other out.

[Juxtapose]

*moralities based on empathy are the most popular

[Waffles731]

Autism sucks and I needed major therapy for me to be a functional member of society, I thankful got it, and am now fairly normal, but many don't get it, so speak for yourself

[myTake Owner]

Like i said i do not speak for everyone.. and i have no problems with my autism.. i only have problems with people that treat me badly because of my "disability"

[virginbish]

I know this sounds weird, and it might be something that can't be explained, but I would be really interested in learning how therapy helped you be a functional member of society (as you put it). It's cool if you'd rather not, I know how annoying it can be to have to wear the "advocate cap" and educate people on a topic. So really no pressure, but what you said really interested me and I'd like to hear more

[MatthewOD]

As somebody with Aspergers syndrome myself this is a very nice article.

I remember all throughout my school days I was a complete asocial loner with social anxiety. I remember some guys trying to befriend me when I was 14 and they kept pointing out how weird I was. I always rejected their friendship because I don't want to hang out with guys who always highlight how strange I am. I'm 20 now and I still don't have friends but I want friends who will respect me for who I am.

Great my take. 🙂

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and some of his friends are autistic... I couldn’t even tell! Nor do I entirley understand the concept. I feel like it’s just another “You’re weired and out of the ordinary as from society wher everyone thinks the same...” I don't know

My boyfriend says that they shouldn’t be treated any different. They’re just another human like is. Just think slightly different

[Jupitermoonsquest]

I'm a bit autistic after learning all about the tendencies and symptoms.

[Anonymous]

autists are for the most part a big punch to the shallowness and barbarism of society. they are by default more humane and less cunning and thats why "normies" can't stand them.

[myTake Owner]

Im hella cunning lmao.. but thankyou... everyone is different.. and most people that insult autism probably have autism...:/

[Kaneki05]

Some people with autism do need to be treated like a child but i get what your saying cause most don't.

[jakeofalltrades]

I think my nephew might be autistic, and my brother and his wife are terrified and refuse to listen to reason when the doctor mentions it

[apple24]

Meh. Really if I had an autism or had a kid like that I would abort. Poor kid would depend on me for the rest of his life. If I was some disability that was major affect me I would ask to die.

[apple24]

@HereIbe don’t be upset! The truth hurts!

[HereIbe]

Yes, the truth that your DNA must be removed from the gene pool MUST hurt. You are quite the weakling to want do die if you merely had a disability. Your genes deserve extinction.

[apple24]

@HereIbe every single person who downvote knows it’s the truth.

[apple24]

Calling me name isn’t gonna change my mind. I don’t want my genes to reproduce

[HereIbe]

Nazis would downvote a Jew defending himself. Millions of Nazis would do that. Klansmen would downvote a black man saying he should be allowed to vote.

So, that makes you the equivalent of a Nazi or Klansman.

[apple24]

@HereIbe name changing doesn’t change the fact that these people can’t function without the need of help.

[HereIbe]

Name change? Wow, you're really stupid. No names have been changed. What is your familiarity with the ACTUAL MEDICAL DIAGNOSIS? What does the DSM-V say?

[apple24]

@HereIbe learn English before you talk back at me. You clearly didn’t understand

[Anonymous]

There's varying degrees of autism, not everyone will notice it right away.

[MarketData]

I hear what you're saying. Nobody likes being treated like a retard.

[teeparam]

always be yourself thats good for you give the first priority to yourself

[Wifflesnoofer63]

Not a bad thing? Being retarded is now supposed to be good?

[myTake Owner]

Mild autism doesn't make you retarded, please don't be so ignorant and if you actually want to offend people do it correctly, actually search up your research before you just blurt out random shit that makes no sense..

Like honestly?
Do you just have nothing better to do, does your life just suck that badly that you have to constantly put others down and call people retards... you're 25 grow up

And if you have a great life and you think you're superior then fix yourself because being overly selfish is a sign of autism dude

[Juxtapose]

The irony in this original comment is delicious.

[NYCQuestions1976]

@Juxtapose The original comment is unnecessary and obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

it is a bad thing end of story vaccines
hate them

killing and damaging kids for a long time

[myTake Owner]

Dude honestly i really hope you're not 45.. because this may of actually been the most dumbest, stupidest, useless comment I have ever laid my eyes on

Grow up

[Opinion Owner]

autism went up 400%

the moment vaccines
came into play

back in the day it was 2% of the population
you were not even alive at the time

I WAS so shut up
im warning everyone

[myTake Owner]

You're not really grown up if you're still complaining about autism like a child would..

medium.com/.../vaccines-do-not-cause-autism-1e5e434dade2

[Anonymous]

In most cases it isn’t a good thing, usually better not to have it then have it.

[Opinion Owner]

@HereIbe one of my family members has autism, it’s not that bad, but it certainly isn’t good.

[myTake Owner]

No i would disagree
Did you know that having autism can make you really comedic and funny and intelligent.. it can be a good thing if you arn't affected by it...
yes it is generally a bad thing
but if you know whats wrong with you, you can use that and make it a joke (makes peeps laugh everytime) but in all seriousness.. it isn't a good or a bad thing... it shouldn't be a issue but it all depends on who the person is that has it (everyone has different personalities)

[Anonymous]

My nephew is severely autistic. He and his parents will never lead a normal life

[HereIbe]

Therefore, we must ALL DIE!

[Opinion Owner]

@HereIbe I wouldn't mind starting with a pussy like you

[MadBoy]

Thanks for standing up for the people with it.

[DaveTHENX]

The Good Doctor.
Nuff said.

[Penelope_]

Good take

[Anonymous]

Nice MyTake

[Silver_]

I will stop

[Anonymous]

Agreed