5 benefits of being Single!

[cl_517]

1. No guilt flirting

You can flirt with anyone you want without feeling guilty! Just make sure the other person is single as well!

2. You can't be cheated on

3. Personal Growth

You have more time to focus on youself and the things you like to do.

4. You are the supreme master of the refrigerator

Yes! and I love this one. I don't have to worry about anyone eating my food!

5. You can do what you want, when you want

Enjoy your freedom while you can! Go out, have fun! Be spontaneous!

[loveisbeautiful]

I'll never understand why people on here make relationships sound like a horrid torturous occurrence, in ones life. Instead of, a good joyous addition to their life. I understand relationships are hard work and it's never going to be easy, but three of these things makes it sound like your entire life is over if you enter into a relationship and that's just not true.

Here's what I disagree with

"3. Personal Growth

You have more time to focus on youself and the things you like to do"

I don't understand why being in a relationship would stop you from growing as a person and focusing on yourself or the things you like to do? There's no contract preventing you from doing that, so if one chooses to forego taking time for themselves or the things they like to do. That's on them, that's not because of the relationship. If you don't want to be consumed by a relationship and don't want to lose yourself in the process, then don't let it happen.

"4. You are the supreme master of the refrigerator

Yes! and I love this one. I don't have to worry about anyone eating my food!"

What's the difference if the person you're dating eats your food or if your family or friends come over and eat your food? It's food, it's suppose to be eaten and if you don't want them to don't ever invite them over. Problem solved.

"5. You can do what you want, when you want
Enjoy your freedom while you can! Go out, have fun! Be spontaneous!"

Again, much like number 3. There's no contract preventing someone from doing what they want , when they want, so if one chooses not to go out and have fun or be spontaneous. That's on them. The only time you can't to that, is when you know you have plans to go out with the person you're dating. However, the rest of the time your free to live your life however you see fit. Being in a relationship, isn't stopping that person from doing what they want or having fun. They're stopping themselves.

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

Totally agree.

[cl_517]

Wow, yes you're right. I wasn't seeing it that way :D @loveisbeautiful

[Lightspeed-Lemon]

Maybe she is talking more about benefits of being single and living alone vs married/committed. Face it, once you are in a permanent committed relationship, there are things you just can't get out of: family dinners, holidays with the in-laws, backyard BBQs, weddings, anniversaries. You can't just quit the job you hate because others are relying on you. And once children come, everything changes. You're locked in to a very rigid, structured, and "safe" domestic existence, working 9-to-5 to pay the bills at least until your kids graduate college. Some people don't like having their whole lives pre-arranged and predetermined like that, with no time for themselves.

Most see being in relationships as superior to being alone. Does it bother you that some are actually happy being single?

[loveisbeautiful]

@Lightspeed-Lemon No, why would it? I just don't see things the way most people do.

[Miphee]

I love being single but it's also pretty amazing to be in a loving and working relationship. That said I don't agree with this post because it only highlights the negative sides of a relationship.
1. Why would you want to flirt when you are in a relationship?
2. Why would be cheating an issue when you are in a happy relationship?
3. Why would a loving relationship prevent you from doing what you like?
4. Do you think your relationship is a good one when you get offended for sharing food? You should be happy about it instead.
5. Why do you think that just because you are in a relationship you are limited to do things you like?

This list shows why so many people are single, it's because of pure selfishness and lack of commitment.

[ThisGurl]

Ok. I think that I agree with all of these except for "freedom". Because I feel that when ur in a relationship with somebody u should not even think about "oh well, I lost my freedom now". Yes mhm u cannot be flirting around if ur person dislikes that, and there are compromises to be made, and being happy to make them for the person that u love and care about. But thinking that way about freedom, it feels as if u become trapped in a cage when ur in a relationship, and it is not about that.

Maybe it is just me. lol. (:

[Mustachekitteh]

The only ones I don't agree on are #3 and #5. I'm in a relationship and me and him both want each other to have personal growth. You don't have to do only what the other person wants. It's good for you both to do what you want to do when ever. Even if it doesn't involve them it's healthy for a relationship if both people don't feel like they are being chained down where you can't do something u want to do. Like I will tell my bf that I don't want to talk to him at the moment since I want to workout and he's a big distraction, lol. He will also tell me he wants to go and play league of legends with his college friends. I tell him to have fun and kick ass. :)

[Insignis]

You let your man play LoL? What kind of person are you. Jk.

[Mustachekitteh]

XD lol

[Ulyss]

All about that Dota 2

[YourFutureEx]

Pikachu likes your post.
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[cl_517]

cl_517 loves Pikachu <3

[Hannah591]

I love that biological picture you used for the first one. :')
Anyway, I never flirted in relationships and I'm still unsure of how to do it tbh. I could still do whatever I wanted in a relationship, so being single just kinda sucks, but I'm getting used to it.

[Xeva_foreverX]

I always was like "WHY! WHY AM I SINGLE?" and then i got a girlfriend (im bi) and now sometimes i hide from her :P :3 But i also think thats cause she's my first girlfriend. GIRLfriend. so... i kinda wish she is a boy sometimes but... at the same time boys are idiots (not all ;) and since she's a girl we can talk about girl stuff! NO NOT THAT? I mean how cute boy bands are or who we secretly like in the class and stuff like that (just cuz ur dating someone doesn't mean you can't also like some, right?)

[Song4TheBroken]

If you're talking with your gf about other people you like then you two clearly aren't very serious about each other.

[Xeva_foreverX]

are you freaking kidding me? we can talk about other people. AND SHE IS SERIOS she literally makes me feel stupid because she is good with words so f*** off please
THANKXXXXXX

[Song4TheBroken]

Sorry but nope. Once you're in a serious relationship (where you truly love the other person) you'll realise what I mean. The last thing you'd want is for your partner to tell you who they think is hot if it's not you. But you're only 14 and serious relationships aren't very common at your age.

[Xeva_foreverX]

dude im not 14 im 13 and she loves me a LOT like literally she won't leave me alone and i still want to hang out with my friends so PEOPLE!! ENJOY IT WHILE you're SINGLE!! plus song4thebroken when my mom and dad were (i said WERE) married my mom talked about how she thought actors in her fav movie or something were cute and my dad just didn't care.

[Xeva_foreverX]

PLUS are you married? have YOU been in a situation where you ABSOLUTLY LOVE THE PERSON and are now married?

[Song4TheBroken]

@Xeva_foreverX Yes I've been in love once. No we didn't get married because she dumped me. But when we were together she would sometimes point out which guys were 'hot' right infront of me. I told her how much it upset me so she kind of stopped it. I would of never done something like that to her because I feel it's very disrespectful to your partner. Also, about your mom pointing out cute actors. It's kind of different when it's like a celebrity that they'll probably never meet in their life. But when it's like peole who are in your class it's kind of a different story.

[Xeva_foreverX]

OKAAAAAAAY can we stop fighting? Im sorry she broke up with you but I DONT WANT TO FIGHT BECAUSE I DONT LIKE BULLYING SO IM SORRY I SAID f*** off i just get so frikin frusterated

[Song4TheBroken]

Omg it's okay lol. I didn't think we were fighting? I thought we were just talking and had different opinions haha. And I didn't think you were bullying me by saying fuck off, so don't feel bad.

[Xeva_foreverX]

Oh goddd okay :) sorry :) ca we be friends? I followed ya ;) I just thought we were fighting because sometimes with opinions... THINGS CAN GET UGLY

[Song4TheBroken]

Okay we're friends :) and I followed you back ^_^

[Xeva_foreverX]

YEY THANXXXX im sorry if i caused ya troublesssss HEHEHE fwiend

[TheDevilInside]

- love the amoeba pic!
- #4 doesn't apply if you have roommates. Things still magically disappear from your fridge!
- #5: you can't just still do whatever you want if you have no friends to do them with. It can get quite lonely...

[cl_517]

hahah thanks for reading! well i have an exception to #4 ahah my roommate is almost never in our apartment and i'm the one that cooks so we both know the kitchen and everything in it is mine haha

[Belleza2]

I think it's a paramecium cause it has cilia! Amoeba use pseudopods! Just saying

[lumos]

I agree with all of these except number 1 (partially). If the other person takes you seriously, they might feel like you're leading them on. And then I'd feel very much guilty. This only works if the both of you are on the same page and you know not to expect anything.

[Rashad]

Single losers club!! Let's tell each other stories how miserable people are , that are in relationships.
You can't be happy when you're single. Unless you are on drugs or addicted to sex with strangers, or addicted to pleasing yourself sexually while watching p*rn . Irrelevant what you are exchanging the desire of being in a relationship. You aren't healthy.

[Takada]

If you need someone else to be happy, the relationship won't last very long.

[Rashad]

Not theneed of having them desperately, but the need of having a partner in life.

[Unit1]

Right. Only you know what healthy is for everybody.

[JohnBhoy94]

Being single is awesome till you meet someone who you can do all this with (minus cheating) and then you make a take on how "Benefits on being in a relationship".

But anyyyywaayyy

[cl_517]

hhahah that's funny! but anyywaaayyyy I don't plan to be in a relationship anytime soon lol

[JohnBhoy94]

No one plans on when they're in a relationship, it seems to just happen.

[astatine]

Couldn't be more accurate!
singles get to spend more time with cool friends too! And they are not obligated to share their plans with anyone

[cl_517]

yessss, we have to enjoy our freedom!! :)

[fun-weird-guy]

@cl_517 Are you saying once in a relationship you have zero amount of freedom?

[astatine]

relatively less, @fun-weird-guy
why would you tag the take owner?

[fun-weird-guy]

I tagged the take owner because I was direct in my comment to them based because a comment the may ed to your opinion

[now56]

hahhahaha!! Although there are many more benefits of staying single. But it's a very nice and simple Take. And thank you for reminding me all that. :D

[cl_517]

ahha you're wecome :)

[bomba78]

yep, being single is pretty awesome :-)
But having someone great on your side is pretty awesome too, and if it is the right person it will only eliminate Nr.1 and Nr.2. but you will still be able to do all the rest.

[RationalLioness]

I think you can personally grow with a partner. I mean, if you're alone with your own views, you can stagnate while having a partner can help you recognize things you might not have had before (friends can do that as well, but..)

[Prof_Don]

There are definitely pros to being single... it would be interesting time hear about the cons of being single in a follow up Take!

:-P

[cl_517]

hahha no, no more takes for me! ahh Thanks for reading :)

[rthomas43]

"Ugh, I hate being single. I'm going to write a BS take and try to convince myself that I'm happier being single even though deep down I know I'm not."

[Ulyss]

<3 your comment

[Genie23]

Nice take! I agree with all 5...
1 & 5 is the reason why I love being single.. lol :-)

[cl_517]

hha thanks! this is my first take :) ahaha I know but i love #4, the fridge is mine!!

[Genie23]

First take? Lovely! I enjoyed it.
Hehehe... Nice. XD

[cl_517]

yup, probably my last one too ahah

[Genie23]

Why :O

[cl_517]

I hate finding pictures ahaha

[Genie23]

Oh! Lol! :-)

[cl_517]

ahah laziness at its finest

[Genie23]

Well, I don't mind searching for pics on google. Lol. Let me know if you need assistance. Lol! xD

[cl_517]

aww how nice of you!!! <3 <3 maybe in a year or so ahahhaa

[Genie23]

Lol! xD :-)

[Bonnie12I27I12]

lol this is great but im just a really loving person. i love to love people and when i dont i feel upset

[ccp16]

I'm all for cuddling, but I love having my own bed... you know what I mean if you have ever had to share a single or double long term...

[AprilKaratee]

Sooooooo true. I love being single. #5 was my favorite haha.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Very well said i liked this one thanks for sharing :-)