That's my topic today. I was inspired to write about this because as a single girl myself I'm always very aware of the not so good parts of being single. So today I decided to look on the bright side of things and see the glass half-full. Up next five reasons why I like being single.
1. No Jealousy
You can flirt, you can talk to anyone you like, you can do whatever you feel like and no one can tell you anything even if they're burning with jealousy. Why not? Because they're not your partner and it's none of their damn business. There are no jealousy tantrums, no scenes to be made, no reprimands. That simple.
2. No compromise
You are entirely compromise free. You can always choose what you like, what you want. There are no petty arguments or disputes. No fighting for dominance, no pissing contests. No more fighting over things you like but your partner doesn't or vice versa. The days of doing something simply and only to please your partner are over. You have everything to your preference.
Without a partner you're free to do anything. Go out as much as you like without having to inform anyone. Have fun with whoever you want to. Have that friend that used to intimidate your partner. Flirt without consequence. Have as many guy or female friends as you want without someone breathing down your neck with their insecurities. Really it's great.
4. No Relationship Drama
As all of your coupled friends whine and dish out on how they think their partner might be cheating. How they had a fight the other day. How their relationship isn't what it used to be or on how clingy or overbearing their partner might be, that's the least of your worries. No drama, no heartache, and no headaches. One of the best damn things of being single for sure.
5. No heartbreak
At the end of the day, most relationships don't last forever. One of the things of being single which I am most grateful for is that I haven't been through heartbreak in a while. Heartbreak is one of the worst feelings in the world and many can attest for that.
Even if a breakup is mutual the aftershocks and the pain that it causes are almost unbearable. Missing that person, the little things which made you fall in love with them, missing the habit of having someone always by your side, and so on will make you wish you were never in a relationship to begin with. Which brings me back to my original point.
Being single is great and loving yourself is even better. You don't need to look for another half, because you're already complete. All you need is yourself. Self esteem, self love, self appreciation, self confidence and self-validation. You can't love anyone else before you love yourself, and being single gives you the space that you need to evaluate how you treat yourself and others around you.
I think that being single is a fundamental part of being in a relationship. It may sound contradictory, but it's the truth. You need to know how to be single before you're in a relationship. You can't depend on someone for all of your emotional needs.
Some grade of dependence is great and necessary for a relationship to grow, but when all of your validation and love comes from that one source you'll start to doubt yourself and to self loathe which again isn't healthy. Like everything in life relationships are a cycle and part of it is being single. When you skip over that part, the whole process just becomes more complicated than it should and has to be. So yeah I do believe that being single is a fundamental part of being in a relationship.
Thanks for reading this take,
-The End xo
I'm only half serious about this. I don't mean to offend anyone. This is just my honest and raw opinion on the matter, and it's okay if you disagree. I don't expect people not to. Couples and marriages please don't come for me lol. Anyway that's it. Until next time!