You should think about "NOW" while "REJECTING" them later

[mistninja314]

You should know that before you even read this MyTake of mine, that there is going to be a lot of rambling within it. But you need to keep in mind that It'll be focusing on the "WHOLE PICTURE", not what's just right in front of us. Which would include the next couple of guys/girls that __ will probably be "approaching" shortly after us. Well, it's about time to get this show on the road.

I've never turned down anyone that has had enough courage to "approach" me. Since not only did I give __ a "CONFIDENCE BOOST" MY "FELLOW MEN" would also have a shot at her now. Since she'd think "HEY I GOT ___ NUMBER, so why can't I get ____ also?". Like the say #TeamWorkMakeTheDreamWork right?

So rather I found her to be "CUTE" or even "UNATTRACTIVE". None of that would even matter at that point in time since I'd thinking about the next man/woman "UNLIKE MOST" people these days. it also gives us all a chance at finding that so-called special someone, right? because everybody would be actively searching OR getting a chance at it.

For that to happen everybody must feel comfortable with/around each other. Which could happen quite easily IMHO If people chose to "THINK" about the next person's feelings for a moment/quit being selfish.

Ya know, before "REJECTING" them as usual on top bringing their self-esteem down to an all time low. Once that happens __ usually falls into a pit of despair thinking "Will I be alone forever?" all because of what a couple of people have done to them (rejection wise)

That girl/boy might have been a rated 4+ in your eyes, but she could have been someone else's legit rated 8+. See that's the thing though, those 2 will probably never be together now since ___ chose to quit searching after being shot down so much which is kind of sad.

I guess what I'm trying to say is this "while it might not mean anything to you personally, it can mean the world to them". I've seen it happen 1st hand when I gave this girl my number in the 8th grade.

That girl blushed so hard, started hopping up and down and even told the whole gym in the morning assembly (No BS). Now I'm not going to lie the girl wasn't that great looking. But hey "in the end I did a good deed/IT FELT GREAT" simply by seeing the effect that I could had someone (#^ ^#). With next to little sweat off my back, so hey why not help brighten someone's day up?

Keep in mind that there was NOTHING in the rulebook saying that I had to date her (I didn't). Heck, I didn't even have to give her my number, tbh I only DID IT to make her happy. On top of making her "THINK" that she scored me for the long haul.

When I knew that I was only going to talk to her for about 4 phone calls and leave it at that. NOW BEFORE YOU SAY "Mist you're JERK" how?

I mean hey, at least that girl is going to wonder "what did I do wrong". INSTEAD of not getting any PLAY AT ALL to begin with from the person that she approached, right? which would be worse "no play" OR "play that lead nowhere?" LOL

[muspelhem_5]

I think it's a kind mentality, but I think I disagree. The rejections I have had that came after having got to know someone were much harder on me than the ones I got immediately I approached them.

The more time you give people, the more they get attached to you, so the more it hurts when you then break it off.

Example: I dated a woman for over a year before I finally had the guts to say that I wasn't physically attracted enough to her. I think that hurt her a hell of a lot. She was an awesome person and really really beautiful, so it was hard to rationalise. Anyway, I could have spared her a lot of heartache if I had just rejected her immediately.

I don't know, it's an interesting discussion you brought up anyway.

[mistninja314]

Can't argue with you there/agreed

If you want you can read some of my other convos on this post to see how it played out in the end.

[muspelhem_5]

Thanks man, I did. I really think this question gets to some of the roots of why relationships can be so confusing.

[mistninja314]

I agree and like I said, "It's not the right thing to do" but it does keep their hopes high. I never compliment them nor ya know, say that I'm going to date em. I just simply giving them my # ^_^.

Crap I wish I could edit this take (pros/cons of this route)

But hey this take was different from you average one on GAG. Probably not as well written as my other 2 takes though IMHO LOLOL

[bubble_tea]

I think it's worse to wonder what you did wrong than to know for sure that you just weren't his type lookswise.

Let's assume she's a total sweetheart and did nothing wrong, yet you drop her, because that's what you've been wanting to do since she approached you.. she'll question everything.. if it was her looks after all or if there really was something wrong about her personality that she needed to change.

Not to mention the hope that have built up until the fourth call that you come to crush...

[mistninja314]

LOL Yeah I meant to write about that part "I think it's worse to wonder what you did wrong than to know for sure that you just weren't his type lookswise." because what you said is TRUE and can very well be WORSE than a flatout rejection ><.

If it was in a schooling situation you'd be totally right ^_^. This is focused more at like a mall or something though, ya know where people are just going around looking for anybody that'll give them the time of day ^_^.

Forgot to add that while I never dated that girl, WE BECAME GOOD FRIENDS and not only that "Her whole personality changed". She went from being boring/in a shell to OPENING up (Coming out of it) and on top of making a lot of new friends via me introducing her ^_^

So naw In the end, I didn't do her wrong, BUT I ALSO KNEW that I had no plans on dating her. So I practically lead the/her feeling in the "friend zone". After a while, I hooked her up with 1 of my homies and they had a ball LOL

[mistninja314]

OH by the way you're also right in the sense of them also being lead into the pit of despair via wondering what they did wrong after none of those relationships leading to nothing/working out for them.

Didn't refresh the page yet by the way

[bubble_tea]

I thought it happened in 8th grade, at school, because you mentioned gym morning assembly. Oh well. I guess giving your number to a complete stranger in the mall can’t hurt… there is the off chance that they are crazy and set up fake online profiles with weird fetishes in adult 'dating sites' with your phone no. but it’s just a small risk to take to make someone’s day, right? ^^

Anyway, as you’ve proven, it can also be a good thing if she just wanted to practise flirting and come out of her shell.

[mistninja314]

Oh this happened at school not at the mall... was just saying that for an example

[mistninja314]

Yeah, I wasn't trying to do her wrong, but ya know JUST help her out basically ^_^

"So naw In the end, I didn't do her wrong, BUT I ALSO KNEW that I had no plans on dating her. So I practically lead the/her feeling in the "friend zone". After a while, I hooked her up with 1 of my homies and they had a ball LOL" From my convo with NikolaevnaKoroleva

[CHARismatic110]

While I think that you're sweet for being this way you should also be careful. It kinda comes across as leading someone on. Which in my opinion, ranks right up there with rejection. I personally don't like to feel like someone's charity case. If you're not interested in me then that's fine. I don't take rejection well at all, but I've also been lead on and I can honestly say that it hurts just as much. I'd rather you be honest. That whole "I'd rather be told the harsh truth as opposed to a sweet lie" thing? Yeah, I'm a firm believer in that.

Very nice take tho little brudder. And I think you're a sweetheart for being like that.

[mistninja314]

You're right but this is what happened in the end of things (#^ ^#) WHICH I PLANNED from the start (Copy/paste incoming)

"So naw In the end, I didn't do her wrong, BUT I ALSO KNEW that I had no plans on dating her. So I practically lead the/her feeling in the "friend zone". After a while, I hooked her up with 1 of my homies and they had a ball LOL" From my convo with NikolaevnaKoroleva

Yeah, it's kinda like a doubled edged sword where you'd be rewarded now but CUT later usually. My plan is not to cut ___ BECAUSE by that time I'd expect them to have put me (Blade) down by then. Since they've already found their special 1 handed sword lol.

See they would have never found the "perfect 1 handed sword" for them. IF I never let them enter the field in this ideal situation via the double-edged sword (me) ^_^.

I think you see what I'm trying to say IT IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO, NOPE

But depending on the person it can be if they use right ^_^.

THAT ALSO came from out convo lol

[Beautifiedgirl123]

I think it depends on the situation/person. For some it will work while another will feel more hurt because they may feel you toyed with her.

Everyone thinks differently. I personally would rather be let down at the beginning because it would suck to have my hopes up and then be disappointed but others might rather feel that moment of happiness because you didn't turn them down and it may boost their confidence.

Each to their own I think. But what you do isn't bad at all. It's perspective and each have their own views. Like i said id rather be shot down at the beginning but if I'm not that invested or don't feel much for the guy then it wouldn't matter if he shot me down after a little while as opposed to the beginning.

[mistninja314]

Lol this would be MHO if it was possible since you made a good point. I was thinking that while they were talking to me, they'd also be talking to about 4-6 others also. Since everybody would be trying to find that special someone in that/this ideal situation. So even if I wasn't the match for her, someone else could have been maybe ^_^. But if I never gave her a chance, she wouldn't have never approached___ because of me shooting her down from the start LOL

I'm like that also in the sense of rather being told NOW rather THAN later that I have no chance with ____ ^_^. Then again, I don't catch for people so I wouldn't mind, but your average person that would be a problem like you said.

[Beautifiedgirl123]

What you say is also right. There is so many ways to go about this

[mistninja314]

True I just want the ball to keep #rolling overall ^_^

Where everybody gets a chance at finding that special someone lol

[mistninja314]

@NikolaevnaKoroleva she hit the nail right on the head lol

[Beautifiedgirl123]

Yea I can see your point too

[mistninja314]

"LOL Yeah I meant to write about that part "I think it's worse to wonder what you did wrong than to know for sure that you just weren't his type lookswise." because what you said is TRUE and can very well be WORSE than a flatout rejection ><.

If it was in a schooling situation you'd be totally right ^_^. This is focused more at like a mall or something though, ya know where people are just going around looking for anybody that'll give them the time of day ^_^.

Forgot to add that while I never dated that girl, WE BECAME GOOD FRIENDS and not only that "Her whole personality changed". She went from being boring/in a shell to OPENING up (Coming out of it) and on top of making a lot of new friends via me introducing her ^_^

So naw In the end, I didn't do her wrong, BUT I ALSO KNEW that I had no plans on dating her. So I practically lead the/her feeling in the "friend zone". After a while, I hooked her up with 1 of my homies and they had a ball LOL" There some more it LOL

[Beautifiedgirl123]

Well there is benefits to the way you did it, like you said she opened up and stepped out of her shell.

Really though it depends on the person and situation. What you do may be right for one person and wrong for the other. Basically you can never perfect this sort of thing.

Some might think, hey at least he is honest cause he flat out rejected me and at least I know where I stand. While another might think, hey I actually did it and then afterwards when turned down might feel like you played with her.

This kinda thing is hard to actually find out what is right and wrong because honestly there is no wrong or right.

But it also depends on the person doing the rejection. Some just can't outright reject someone while others can. There are people out there who can just say NO. That's another point of view to look at it from

[Beautifiedgirl123]

The last bit was supposed to be:

There are people out there who can't just say NO

[mistninja314]

Can't argue with you there.

my partner in crime has a way with words #TeachMe LOL

[MissAnna_B]

agreed with @Beautifiedgirl123

by the way nice take mist

[mistninja314]

@MissAnna_B IKR this would be MHO if it was possible lol

[Beautifiedgirl123]

Lol what can I say, I'm talented

[mistninja314]

and Beautiful (#^ ^#)

[Beautifiedgirl123]

Thank you #illtakethatcompliment

[mistninja314]

#NowShareSomeOFThatBeautyWithRestOfus lol

[Beautifiedgirl123]

LOL #IfOnlySharingBeautyWasPossible

[mistninja314]

#InTheYear2015WeHaveNinjaMoves LOl so YAY it's possible #Share with me !!!

[Beautifiedgirl123]

#ShareThoseNinjaMovesAndIWillShareBeauty LOL

[mistninja314]

#ComingRightUPStartingTheTransformationNinjutsuNow i1127.photobucket.com/.../201307231716151079.gif Dome

[Beautifiedgirl123]

Woo!! #imaninjanow

[mistninja314]

Yes you're so now I need to send you out on a mission ^_^

[Beautifiedgirl123]

Whatever you say Master LOL

[mistninja314]

#ImSendingYouToTheSandVillageForGroceries lol

[Beautifiedgirl123]

#IDidntBecomeANinjaForTheSakeOfGroceries LOL

[mistninja314]

#YouGetToHelpMeEnlargeTheClanViaBabyMakingAlso LOL

*Sends Beautymist314 to assassinate the #grass #villages Leader* ^_^

[Beautifiedgirl123]

Lol #whatnext #GrassVillagesLeaderHasBeenAssassinated

[mistninja314]

#YesHeHasThanksToYou You're the real #MVP of this mission *Brings the chariot* "the chariot awaits Milady* LOLO

[Beautifiedgirl123]

Awesome #NeverBeenOnAChariotBefore

[mistninja314]

Imma take you Ferris wheel later LOL #ItsADate

Last time I got on a roller coaster I felt sick for like 9 hours in a row LOL #NEVERAGAIN will I get on this ride called the Excalibur

[Beautifiedgirl123]

I love rides #theyresomuchfun #callmeakididontcare

[Aud_Queen]

I feel like thos works because your talking to girls. Haven't you noticed how most of the people getting friendzoned who complained are guys? Mpst girls don't mind having an extra guy as a friend. Especially if they haven't had time to develop a connection with him.

Now if you were in the girl's place and the roles were switched. Would you want me to set you up with another chick of mine? Wouldn't you still wonder why you couldn't date ME?

Or maybe I have bad experiences with manipulating/redirecting guy's afection to someone else who will appreciate them.

I give it to them straight so they can stop wasting their time on me. And if they're cool with just being friends I introduce them to my crew of friends. He can have a pick at any of them if he so desires.

[Aud_Queen]

Heck, I didn't even have to give her my number, tbh I only DID IT to make her happy. On top of making her "THINK" that she scored me for the long haul.

Please. You get a confidence boost too knowing that your wanted LOL :P Making her think she scored you xD You sound hella cocky.

[mistninja314]

I'm not cocky at all, Heck my personality is what attracted her to me to begin with like most people in general (Both genders). Ya know the cool, funny, laid back, trustworthy, stand-up guy, that is also very easy to talk to IRL. Which is why everyone usually loves (How people will describe me everytime/their opinion of me... not my own if that makes sense LOL)

I wonder never be in her place to begin with since with me it's either "GF or NOTHING" in my mind if I find a girl even a little bit attractive ^_^. No #friendzoning this way LOL

You're right about your 1st sentence though since most guys only want the girl for sex I'm guessing. So when they no chance at it, they'll go full retard on her -_-. But guys have been put in the same situation and in the end liked ___ friend more than her after they got hooked up ^_^

Hey if I found your homegirl to be cute, I'd THANK YOU for making my job easier (finding a gf).

#Rambleover

[mistninja314]

About the confidence boost thing you'll find out real quick that I don't anything to heart, and I take everything with a fat grain of salt since if you make someone mad THAT'LL ALL CHANGE very quickly, right?

SO it goes in 1 ear and out the other with me LOL

[Aud_Queen]

Lol good to know :)

[Aud_Queen]

@mistninja314

This only works if you know someone who they'd match up with. And if they aren't in love with you.

But the guy doesn't want to be handed off to another girl. They liked me because of my... unique personality? I used to do this too when I was younger but it would have like a 30% success rate.

[mistninja314]

I hear ya, but if it was any of my homies that wouldn't like ___ for her personality anyway but more or less her looks #SadButTrue ontop of the fact that I wouldn't even thugg em like that. Ya know setting them up with ____ if I didn't think that it would even have a chance at working out LOL

Now your generic lovey dovey guys you ain't never lied #Agreed My homies just want a girl with a decent-cute face and they'll give them the time of day like me (Not looking for love at all) LOL. Those guys, on the other hand, are looking for legit soul mates it seems on average.

The success rate should/would on average be lower if I didn't do my homework beforehand. So if you read the convo that I tagged you in you'd see why it has been 100% thus far at least. Like you said it only works if you know/talk to a lot of people. Getting a chance to learn how they think and stuff ^_^.

#RambleOver I think I answered you questions

[Aud_Queen]

Yep. Nice take tbw~

[mistninja314]

Thanks and y'all made me realiz that I failed to get my point across enough with this take LOL.

Note to self #ExplainYourselffBetterMist but if you read that 1 post you'd know that.

I like the way that y'all commenting though ya know making me/people who do this view it in a whole different light like the pros/cons of it ^_^

[Bonnie12I27I12]

the thing is that we can't just accept everyone just to make them feel better. no one would want this done to them. i would actually want the person to like me. i would hate to waste time on a guy whos only talking to me so i won't feel bad. nice take but i just dont agree with it

[mistninja314]

I agree and yeah it's not the nicest thing that you can/could do to someone. I mean I'd rather be rejected at the start on things rather than LATER on ><. But I know that some people can't take rejection well, so hey if giving them my number can make them happy, why not?

I'm also 1 of those people that NEVER approach girls SO if someone has the balls to approach me i'll happily make it worthwhile for them ^_^.

I agree with you on the "would hate to waste time on a guy who's only talking to me so i won't feel bad" thing. Since no one wants to be lead on WHILE that person knew damn well they had no plans on making them their GF/BF etc.

Umm read my convo with NikolaevnaKoroleva and beautiful girl

[Bonnie12I27I12]

there's something called kindly saying no. if some guy comes up to me and asks for my number i'm not just going to give it to him to make him feel better. i wouldn't tell him off but i wouldn't just give in either. if i'm not interested then i'm not interested. end of story. i've been rejected before and its not the best feeling but thats just life and people need to get used to it.

[mistninja314]

Imma keep real with you. I hear ya, makes sense and I can't argue with you there. Now OFC You don't know the whole story and right now I'm feeling too lazy for a change to type it out>_<.

I respect for ya opinion ^_^

[Bonnie12I27I12]

thanks. nice take by the way :)

[mistninja314]

Thanks ^_^

I should have written more about the pros, cons and MY PLAN for how this is all suppose to play out to fill in the grey areas of this take >_<.

Now I'll ADMIT that at face value it's the wrong thing to do to someone. But when I do it IRL I don't feel that it is. Since in the end it has always panned out/worked thus far (6 times).

I also don't consider myself leading __ on. Since I'm never complimenting them NOR do I say that I would date them LOL. Usually we'd just be like friends

I don't know how to explain it but yeah it's a good and bad thing like an double-edged sword that needs to be dropped before you cut yourself (Them in this case)

[mistninja314]

@Aud_Queen I think this will kinda help y'all see what I tried to do here (Read show older please ^_^ )

[mistninja314]

@muspelhem_5 this convo and Audi_Queen's ^_^

[NikolaevnaKoroleva]

I half agree. Situation is important.

Like me for example, I didn't like him, didn't want him but I let him have what he wanted and it made him and I happy. So I see that part.

But there are situations where it can't happen because of other issues like if you were in a relationship or what not. You could also see it as you setting her up to fail although it also depends. So many variables to play with.

[mistninja314]

Yeah, it's kinda like a doubled edged sword where you'd be rewarded now but CUT later usually. My plan is not to cut ___ BECAUSE by that time I'd expect them to have put me (Blade) down by then. Since they've already found their special 1 handed sword lol.

See they would have never found the "perfect 1 handed sword" for them. IF I never let them enter the field in this ideal situation via the double-edged sword (me) ^_^.

I think you see what I'm trying to say IT IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO, NOPE

But depending on the person it can be if they use right ^_^.

[NikolaevnaKoroleva]

Right? Did you end up cutting the girl out?

Oh yeah

[mistninja314]

LOL Yeah I meant to write about that part "I think it's worse to wonder what you did wrong than to know for sure that you just weren't his type lookswise." because what you said is TRUE and can very well be WORSE than a flatout rejection ><.

If it was in a schooling situation you'd be totally right ^_^. This is focused more at like a mall or something though, ya know where people are just going around looking for anybody that'll give them the time of day ^_^.

Forgot to add that while I never dated that girl, WE BECAME GOOD FRIENDS and not only that "Her whole personality changed". She went from being boring/in a shell to OPENING up (Coming out of it) and on top of making a lot of new friends via me introducing her ^_^

So naw In the end, I didn't do her wrong, BUT I ALSO KNEW that I had no plans on dating her. So I practically lead the/her feeling in the "friend zone". After a while, I hooked her up with 1 of my homies and they had a ball LOL

[NikolaevnaKoroleva]

Such a good friend :*

[mistninja314]

Yeah I'm a pretty decent guy and I make friends with people of all levels of attractiveness/personalities

[MistiGal]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻and that's you mistininja.. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 That is an awesome thing to do and I don't think it's wrong at all, there's nothing better than a friendly gesture rather than one not making someone's day... You make everyone's day here 💖💖💖💖 well almost 😁😁 would be good if people could take a little of what you posted..

[mistninja314]

LOL that's all I'm saying/asking, ya know "Will it really hurt you to give ___ your number" and talk to them for about 2 days... then never pic up again? LOLOL

[MistiGal]

Well I wouldn't say never pick up again... There's always an answer to give... 💫💫💫

[mistninja314]

Lol You know what I mean, like slowly fading away from them. Not just instantly stopping all communications with them.

[MistiGal]

👍🏼😎💫💫💫💫💫💫💫💫💫

[mistninja314]

I wonder will this get promoted and I love those emojis LOL

[been_waiting]

that's a waste of time and it would only get the other persons hopes up. In most cases if you want to reject someone at first you're not going to like them down the road. So really you either reject them before they've formed some sort of attachment to you or after.

[mistninja314]

You're right but this is what happened int he end of things (#^ ^#0 WHICH I PLANNED from the start (Copy/paste incoming)

"So naw In the end, I didn't do her wrong, BUT I ALSO KNEW that I had no plans on dating her. So I practically lead the/her feeling in the "friend zone". After a while, I hooked her up with 1 of my homies and they had a ball LOL" From my convo with NikolaevnaKoroleva

[Nacke]

I see what you are saying and i think you are a really good guy for having these intentions. But i must say that i personally would never want a woman do this to me. Even though it sucks, i prefer a straight forward rejection over wondering what i did wrong. Fact is that thinking about what went wrong will in the long run bring more pain and wasted time than necessary.

But this is just my oppinion.

[mistninja314]

Your opinion is "GREAT" and I AGREE. For you and me personally we can take a straight out rejection (I'd have it no other way). But Some people can't take rejection well, so with my plan you'd simply just give them your number at the mall or something SINCE THERE'S nothing saying that you have to pick up the phone LOL

I've seen it happen to my homies and they loved it since "HEY AT LEAST" they got that rated 7+ girls number. When compared to be dogged out ontop of getting no play at all.

Umm if you want you can go read some of my other replies on this take ^_^. They'll help ya see what I'm trying to do here LOL

[Bluemax]

While your intentions are good, I see too much potential to hurt someone even worse.

[mistninja314]

Agreed and I won't/can't argue with you there but if you can read some of my other replies on here to see how things played out/my intentions

bubble_tea and NikolaevnaKoroleva to be more specific ^_^ but yeah it's kind of like a double-edged sword in the sense of my needing to drop ___ BEFORE she gets cut by me. SO before that happens I'd be searching for the perfect 1 handed sword for her (1 of my homies that she'd get along with) hope that makes sense.

[mistninja314]

Beautifiedgirl123 Crap for to say her also since he probably had the best outcome for this whole situation ^_^

[AkumaKira]

The village leader shared a nice take!

[mistninja314]

YAY!!! *passed you a special kunai" LOL

[AkumaKira]

*gets cut*