Instead of getting mad at each other for overthinking too much, make your intentions clear from the jump

[Anonymous]

Sometimes we get angry with each other(especially with the opposite gender) for overthinking, like when people get on here, and say "what does it mean, if a woman says you're nice, or "what does it mean if a guy watches my snapchat stories, and replies to some of them, and most people say it means nothing, but it stems from society always thinking there's a hidden meaning behind stuff. I obviously get it, sometimes there is, maybe it does mean something more, if a woman compliments a man she doesn't know very well, or if a guy likes almost all of your Facebook posts, however, this is a matter of 'don't hate the player, hate the game''.

I hear people say social media is meaningless, and I agree, but society has put so much stock into likes, followers, retweets, etc. The point is, just tell people what you want, or don't want initially, as opposed to giving them the opportunity to do all this "irrational thinking". I'd rather people tell the truth, compared to running in circles around it.

Don't just expect someone to take the hint, and then get upset, because they didn't take it. Some people just don't have socialization skills obviously, and there doesn't have to be someone to blame for that, just don't leave it up to them, to have to guess, and take a chance, possibly leading to them and you get offended, you know?

[Peter_Penetrator]

It is better to state your intentions as soon as the time is right. Don’t hem and haw around.


If a guy approaches a woman, she knows right away he wants to sleep with her. But if he continues friendly talk for too long, she will get bored. She will lose interest in him, that is, if she had it in the first place. She will reject him because he makes her look taken and other potential suitors will ignore her. She wants him gone.


But……


If she finds him sexually attractive and he can respectfully, reciprocate right away, he will have her hooked. He knows right away what he wants and has the confidence to go after her. He won’t be wasting her time.



She is out to get laid too.


If you like someone take the chance, let them know before they get bored, confused or frustrated. Don’t waste their time and don’t waste yours guessing their interest.


Don’t waste your time trying to read into their actions towards you.


Study up on the signals women send out when they are inviting you to approach. Then take those same signals and pick the ones that would be proper for a man to send out. After all, if you pick familiar signals, she won’t be left guessing your interest in her.


Be decisive, quick and state those intentions before she decides you are a waste of her time.

[JesseP1nk]

My problem with other people is i assume they act based on logic and on common sense... And i forget they act on emotions. And that confuses me and make me overthink things, because i try to make sense of it.

[catarecute]

you mean over analysing. its due to trauma. people who meet too many fake people then can't trust anything or anyone. get couple therapy.

[sheenagwapa]

my i tentions are clear from day 1. i've been telling the teuth from day 1 but all i get is persecutions

[boobliker]

To much thinking going on here for me

I like to be under her if she is think it not anything good for me the cowgirl stops rocking and it getss soft quickly at my age,

So please do the asking and it will get better all round.

TTFN

Dee.

[KrakenAttackin]

Let's add that most women have no idea what rattling around their own heads much less some guys head.

[DishLady]

Agreed! Clear communication is the best way to go from the very beginning!

[BigDog1989]

Well, but then it takes away the flirting stage

[strateguy632]

good points including about communication

[Thestupidusername]

Yup this is why I always communicate