I know people are going to see this title and immediately put up defenses and think I'm telling them what to do. I want to make clear, that's not what I am doing. I've just been on this site for 3 years and I think people figure because it's online, that you don't have to have the same tact and proper etiquette that you would if the person was standing right in front of you. I don't believe that to be true. I think whether you're online or not you should always be respectful of other people and how you treat them. So, here are 8 things to consider when interacting with people online (and off).
1) Be Tactful: There's a right way to talk to someone and a wrong way. The wrong way would be "You are such a stupid moron and your opinion shows that". The right way is "You are entitled to your opinion. I don't personally agree, but that's okay." Being tactful will always be more well received than being a jerk.
2) Be Respectful: Nobody online really knows each other, so it's a little hard to earn respect when you don't know someone. That doesn't mean that you can't treat them in a respectful manner, because you don't know them and have no reason to treat someone poorly. Give respect to get respect.
3) Don't Assume: I see people on here read someone's questions, answers or takes and based upon that make assumptions about them. You can't possibly know who someone truly is by reading a couple things they wrote. So, don't make random assumptions about someone without facts to back it up. Besides, you know what they say about people who assume.
4) Everybody is different and that's okay: People need to realize that not everybody is cut from the same cloth or made the same way. So, just because someone isn't like you, doesn't mean they're wrong. It just means they're different and that's okay.
5) Grammar shouldn't matter: I get picked on a lot for my quote "bad grammar", because I misspell a couple words or don't punctuate properly. However, I do have an eye problem and so a lot of my mistakes are accidents but not because I didn't try. I try very hard, to the point of tears. So, people need to loosen up about grammar on here. I know what someone writes should makes sense, but as long as it is coherent and you can comprehend what they are asking, there's no reason to be a jerk and make them feel like a dum dum because they made a few of grammatical errors. No one's perfect.
6) What attracts one, doesn't attract another: Just yesterday I had someone one here tell me that I'm demisexal because I said I wasn't attracted to some handsome, muscle bound athletes someone wrote a take about. Just because I wasn't physically attracted to those men, doesn't mean I'm not physically attracted to men. I'm just not as easily impressed as most. So, understand that we're all attracted to something different and we're allowed to be. We all don't have to find the same things attractive, to be attracted. Again, everyone is different.
7) Don't Judge: I'm really against people judging other people, because I know what it's like and it sucks. Just like it sucks to have people tell you about yourself. To tell you what traits you have or what you like, etc etc. Especially, since they don't know you. So, don't judge people because there's no reason for it. And, don't act like you have that person all figured out and know them better then they know themselves because I can guarantee you don't.
8 ) The internet is not a parallel universe, so stop treating it like one: I understand that you may be able to get away with certain things online that you couldn't in your life. However, it's annoying when people say "in real life" because it gives off this certain naivete that you believe what happens online, can't happen in your life. That's simply not true, any kind of person you find online you can find in your life. So, it's best to be aware of all your surroundings and not just one. Besides, it's not fair to clump all people online into one catagory. Not everyone online has ill intentions, so it's unfair to say "everyone online is", because everyone online is not. Just like everyone offline can't be put into one group, neither can the people you meet online. Keep all that in mind.