What I mean by internet relationship is meeting someone you can't meet in real life right away, this could mean months or over a year. Nothing like Tinder or meeting local singles through dating services online. For example, meeting someone on GaG and starting to date them but they may be in a different state, province or country.
Personally, I have had a decent amount of experience with internet relationships and even though they didn't work out, I can still appreciate a good internet relationship and I don't hate them.
Keep in mind this is my personal opinion so it may not apply to you at all or differ from your experiences
Risk: internet relationships are more emotional for many reasons
Online relationships tend to be more emotional because of how much more commitment and how many requirements one needs for it to work out and to maintain it. Obviously, internet relationships are harder than offline relationships, so that leads to more emotion. If you're a person that can't handle emotion very well, then internet relationships can be harder and more difficult to maintain.
Positive: problems when the relationship becomes offline seem minimal or easier to deal with
Considering you will deal with a fair share of problems, varying from little problems to big problems when you're in an internet relationship, problems when you move on to a relationship in real life may seem minimal or they're easier to take care of. Not to say problems in real life won't be there, because their will always be problems, they just will not be that much of a big deal because when you're in an internet relationship and you move on to an offline relationship, you're out of the thick part of the woods.
Risk or positive: internet relationships move a lot faster than offline ones
Depending on the type of person you are, this can be a risk or positive. The reason they move faster is because people aren't so afraid of sharing personal things about them online, there's a lot less risk. Also, it's easier to get to know someone because people often show their true colors online way easier. This makes internet relationships move faster than the average relationship. This is a positive for me personally because people in real life tend to hide things about them and sometimes you can find out things about them when it's too late.
Risk: lack of physical contact
Often you won't be able to meet for a long while which could be months to more than a year. This can be a problem for some people and they don't realize that yet. The lack of physical contact can mean some people may not want to be in the relationship anymore and obviously that causes problems.
Positive: meeting up for the first time will be really special
After waiting for so long to finally meet, that moment is like no other you will ever experience. The first time you kiss, the first time you have sex and the first time you can touch each other and go on a real date will pretty much be like ecstasy, it will feel amazing. This is the main reason why internet relationships are great and really romantic.
Risk: Catfish or other misleads
There can be a risk of a possible catfish but I think it's really rare a catfish will continue a lie for months or even keep up a lie for months, but obviously sometimes it happens. This leads to meeting someone in real life that may be completely different than what was shown. Or you can be mislead by a person's personality, it could be completely different online compared to when you first meet. This obviously may be rare cases or just cases that don't happen often, but obviously they can.
Risk: meeting someone can cost a lot of money and a lot of time
For a lot of people this is tough, especially if they live outside of your country. It can cost a lot of money and a lot of time, which may mean you need time off work. This can also prolong the date when you meet each other, which may be a struggle. Not to say the time and money spent to meet your significant other is a waste of money or time, it just can be a struggle for reasons specific to that person.
Positive: internet relationships are unique
Personally I think internet relationships can be better than just the average way of dating, as they're really romantic and unique. They can build a good relationship if both people are willing to make it work. They're also really romantic and I think internet relationships are breathtaking at times, especially if it's working out well. I can always appreciate when an internet relationship is working out well.
Risk: personal problems can get in the way
A lot of times personal problems can get in the way of an internet relationship. It can stifle communication, it can make the relationship more of a struggle in general or worst case it can make the relationship just not work out. It can do a lot to a relationship and often times the person on the other end feels helpless that they can't help out at all or give any real physical comfort, which really sucks by the way. Not to say if a person has personal problems it will lead to disaster, I mean that obviously depends the people in the relationship, but it definitely can make a relationship harder.
Positive/risk: it can be hard to maintain the romance and wow factor, but it also helps create new ways to be romantic and to maintain a relationship feel to it.
In an internet relationship you have only so many ways to keep the romance alive and to create new ways to keep it alive. You can't really go on physical dates or give her flowers like someone can in real life. But it can also leave you able to surprise your significant other with new ways to create romance, like surprising her with mail of something very important like a shirt you worn or a shirt with cologne on it (something like that, I don't know haha). So it can be a positive or a negative, but I like to look at it as a positive.
I personally really enjoy internet relationships, they can be really motivational. Obviously though, something that's really great comes with great struggle and internet relationships are really hard to go without struggle. The risks are there and they're very scary to look at, but the risks also really help it become something great. If you're ever in a situation where you can get in an internet relationship and think you can handle one then I encourage you to go do it, it can be something really great and romantic.
Also please if you're in an internet relationship, want to share how it is right now if you don't mind? Or have you ever been in one?
Thanks for reading :)
Most Helpful Opinions
Definitely don't knock it if it works for others, and maybe this is just old-man-from-the-20th-century talk, but I just can't ever imagine doing it, haha. But at the same time, I definitely messed with a couple girls back in the 90s when I was in high school just over the phone at first, and someone was like "here, call this chick" and we'd just talk for a few weeks, so it's ultimately not much different.
My thing is that I have an extreme distrust of all things internet. Like until proven otherwise, I have difficult time believing that that anyone is who they say there, at least in persona, if not just a totally different person altogether. And I guess eventually there are things like Skype that you can get a visual, but until that moment, I can't view anyone as anything more than an Internet hustler. All that said, I've made some really cool friends from here, but if we're talking dating and committment, etc, I personally just would need a little more than a face on a computer, full time. There's definitely a cool aspect to it though, in that you can meet all types of people from all over the place, and you're not just restricted to whoever you interact with in your everyday life👍 I just wouldn't have the trust or patience for them to get their foot in the door, that's all.
I completely understand and agree, it's different and definitely not for everybody, and you definitely need a certain amount of trust for it to work out, less trust you would need in an average relationship. Thanks for the opinion :).
You got it, bruh. Good read👍