I hooked up with this guy and he's being super distant?

[nativegirl420]

this guy and i have been talking for a while and he was super sweet and seemed geniunely interested in me.. finally he asked me to go get dinner with him and i agreed. before he took me home we made out for a while in his car and then when he took me home we made out again.. nothing serious. we had continously talked and went out on another date. so on the third date i thought, and i quote "thought" he was different so i actually hooked up with him and when he took me home everything seemed fine but when i texted him he wouldn't reply... every since then he has been acting "distant". like today he doesn't work and he told me he was home relaxing but he stopped texting me and the messages before that he would take 30 minutes to an hour to reply.. dry asf... i don't know what i did wrong... it's not like i was bad in bed because he told me i have "really good pussy"... now its like he is no longer interested in me... i feel like complete stupid whore for hooking up with him. i'm not sure what i did wrong... or if i did anything wrong or if there is any hope for us to still be friends.. should i give up and let it be or give him time and space?

[Paris13]

It sounds like an Old fashion case of Cold Duck feet, sweetie, I recognize the Raised Red Flag signs, and you should be well aware of them as well. He got 'timid' that things may start to revolve into a Real Relationship and he isn't raring Nor Ready to take this on.
I find that with many of today's tomes, they are sporadic, unpredictable And-----Grow cold duck feet at the 'Sign' of even the slightest chance of the "Big C," which is Commitment. And being this little sparrow is underage himself, I am guessing, is telling me he is wet behind the ears, and Not Into anything heavy right now. So motioning with the messaging rudely and crudely Is-----His way of telling you 'Politely' that he doesn't want to be hooked at the hip.
I am not quite sure if he wants to 'still be friends,' for he appears to be giving you helpful hints that he wants to 'Slowly' break free, as you see. And eventually may even end up putting you on his pay no mind list... I see some signs, no Mixed ones at that point. However...
He could come around, for I have seen this one too many times, where you end up to be a cutie convenience when he is feeling frisky. Don't fall for that one. Or this 'Friends with benefits' factor as well. Tell him to forget it, Charley, you are not This 'Really good pussy.'
The only thing that you 'Did wrong' is, you gave in too fast, you got hooked with a 'Winner,' and it backfired on you. Sort of like a one nite stand scenario, if he never pushes any more buttons on his end.
Never mind giving him 'time and space,' for as far as I am concerned this one is a loser, and you deserve better, no matter how good or bad you were-------In bed.
Let this be a lesson in love for future guys like this quack. Don't wear your heart nor your undies so quickly on your sleeve next time, not unless he is a Steady Eddy that you Know and can----Trust.
Good luck. xx

[nativegirl420]

oh i see.. thank you.

[Paris13]

Yes... Lesson over, sweetie, you are a smart girl, you caught on fast... xx

[nativegirl420]

yeah i did. it sucks a lot but things happen.

[Paris13]

Yes, but there is Better out there, this one is just too smart for his own pants... Forget him, don't feel ashamed... I had a one nite stand with someone one time (My first and only) with a guy I had gone to school with and his MOM was friends with My mom... SMH... He probably had a girlfriend, for the sex was great, but I do think he had someone else and was just this cheat sheet... I was not too surprised, his mother was a kleptomaniac (Shop lifter):(xx

[nativegirl420]

oh wow that sucks >.< and im really sorry to hear that. and i can't help but feel ashamed... it sucks you know :/

[Paris13]

It was fine for me, for at the time, I was playing the field, just dating different guys, and was seeing someone from out of town who would head Into my town once a week... So it was okay... But in your case, it does 'Suck,' because you liked the guy, thought it might be a potential partnership maybe or at least someone you could hang out with... Try and put it behind you. He is the guilty guppy here, and more fish for you out in the sea. xx

[nativegirl420]

i'm going to try to put it behind me and be smart enough to not let this happen to me again. thank you so much.

[Paris13]

You're so welcome... Yes, don't let it get you down... It may feel right now, for you are young yet, that it was a slap in the face, but just one of life's little lessons of a 'Slap of reality' of how some guys out there really are... Not ALL guys, just guys with no Cooth or class... xx

[nativegirl420]

this was more of a "punch in the face" haha. and i know which is extremely sad.

[Paris13]

Yes, I am sure...:)) xx

[itsme_goodsamaritan]

If you want a good relationship, you should postpone the sex as much as possible. Once you fully give in to a guy, the mystery is gone. After that, its a test for the guy. If he is honest, he will start thinking about something serious like marriage. If not, it means he has played you. Hopefully its the former in ur case :) So, since u gave in too early, u will have to make for it by being patient and cool now. Do not act desperate or clingy. You will surely lose him.

[nativegirl420]

i've been acting cool about and i dont constantly text him if he doesn't reply. maybe he did play me, i guess. i was stupid enough to fall for his bs. but thank you for the advice.

[Marihorror]

Unfortunately it sounds like this guy was looking for an easy lay, and you gave him exactly what he wanted. I'm sorry this happened to you, but I would suggest not having sex until the relationship is made official next time. That's how you really know if a guy will stick around.

[nativegirl420]

thank you.

[AlexCab]

Maybe he's just a plain old asshole... and just wanted to hook up with you for sex. Stop texting for a few days and see what happens. If he texts back like late at night like for a booty call, you'll know he was just there for the sex.

[nativegirl420]

ok i'll try that! thank you.

[AlexCab]

good luck, hope he's not an a-hole. do tell!

[nativegirl420]

ill definitely will let you know :)

[Anonymous]

You sound somewhat easy, he probably doesn't view you as long term material. If I were in his shoes then I would have done the same thing. Men with standards don't view "easy" material as long term material.

[nativegirl420]

oh ok, well i guess i was "easy". but thank you.

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry, I would never actually intentionally do that to a girl but some guys do. I take things slow.

I'm just speaking hypothetically.

[nativegirl420]

it's ok.. and that's good that you don't. you should never do it. and now he's texting me being all friendly but i haven't replied yet. should i?

[LovelyT94]

He used you, as much as it sucks to hear that, it's the truth. Move on and learn from your mistake, don't give into a guy so soon. Just one step closer to finding the right guy (;

[nativegirl420]

thank you.

[Keyspirits]

Silly gurls. School boyz only care about sex and hook ups. Once they get what they came for, ur done. Ur good for nothing. Learn from ur mistakes not to give in so easily -_-

[nativegirl420]

he isn't a highschool student.. and yeah thanks. i wasn't trying to be "easy" i actually like him but thank you.

[Keyspirits]

Yas being is sweet is how we guys can get laid. Thats one of our "Trick" we use to sweet talk y'all naive cuties to bed with us and in the end, sadly u fall for it. He alrdy got what he came for so whats left of u? Nothing.. time to continued on his goal to score and reach his 200+ cuties. Toughluck!

[nativegirl420]

yeah i guess thats the cold hard truth huh... i bet it boost a man ego to know he fucked a girl and left her hanging and that she might have had true feelings. guess thats how you men work huh...

[Keyspirits]

Its not really to boost a guys ego. Im a virgin so i don't know but this is how i feel, every cuties could taste differently for a guy so it gives them different sensations and pleasures. If she's a cutie, any guy would go for her and try to score on her. Tehy ain't given a ship about ur feelings. They only give a ship about their selfish desires. They dont even give a ship about u from the start to begin with -.-'
His motives was juz get u in bed and thats it and he succeeded. No guys ain't limiting themselves to only one chix at this very age mainly duringtheir youth. They have so many oppurtunities to score on other cuties too so dont think dat he will automatically be waiting to marry u lol! Dont make meh laugh please xD

[nativegirl420]

ok. i guess. -.-

[Keyspirits]

Its sad but true hunny... juz be cautious with sweet talkers cuz thats usually their motives which make it seem like they're putting u above everything but in reality its filled with delusional ideas.

[nativegirl420]

thank you.